If you are a guest , do you help in the kitchen?

Hi Kalav, If we are that close, then i volunteer myself to help in the kitchen. and i too allow close friends to help me out in te kitchen if i am the host. i want them to feel at home and that they can even go and check the kitchen.

It depends on situations. If it is a family member I will help but if the host is a friend then I just remain as a guest. The problem is it might leave the host uncomfortable if I help in the kitchen as she might have her own plans of what to cook for her guest. Likewise, I would never allow my guest to mingle around my kitchen when I am cooking.

Hi Kala, Usually if it’s a matter of a day or an evening, then traditionally Indians don’t expect guests to help out…hosts don’t harbor any such expectations either. Maybe coz we are very formal in such occasions…maybe coz traditionally, we didn’t socialize so much with the entire family, so for once in a while occasions, guests were pampered by the hosts. Even if its within the close family circle, like if my aunts and uncles are visiting on some occasion, my mom (with some little help from me) will do most of the cooking before they arrive…fritters and fried items are of course fried at dinner time and cooked hot and after dinner / lunch is over, the guests would just heap the plates in the kitchen. I’ve grown up seeing this and I’d not be very comfortable to make my guests do anything…if I’m the guest and I’m asked to do something (arranging the salad or frying the chops…yummmm) I wouldn’t mind helping out!

Yes, I do try to help at least with the dishes. I don't want to interfere or be in the way but if I can at least help in the clean up then I think that is the least I can do. Oddly, when I have guests at my place, I really don't want the help. My guests are my guests and I don't feel right having them do things to help out.

Well, it is customary that guests should not do any household chores. They are treated like kings and queens.LOL. So, I'd better not invite guests.hahaha. Happy mylotting!

probably yes,i'll be willing to help them when it comes to household chores.take it as a sign of respect for them.and i guess it's also a time for bonding moments with them.doing household chores together is fun.if i'm also the host,it will be glad if the visitors offered themselves to wash dishes.it's not so embarrassing.at least they know how to give respect to the host.even if they just stayed for vacation,sometimes they still have to insist on household chores.

For me many times it depends on who's place I am at, and if it would be appropriate to ask if I can help out any. People I do not really know I am a little more shy to ask due to being afraid of being turned down or looked at crazy. I know there are a lot of people's homes that we go to from time to time that would never expect me to help out there though due to I have severe arthritis and also am Diabetic so cannot stand or walk for long sometimes. But when it is appropriate I do try and help out some.

if i go for a short visit,say for an afternoon or evening,i may not help but if i am staying overnight ,i will surely volunteer to help .even doing small things like looking after milk till it boils and then putting of the gas will be a great help to the host.

Typically when I go somewhere I just want to relax, but I find myself in the kitchen, "just because." However, when someone comes over I don't like them being in the kitchen because they get in my way.

Hi kalav56! I always make sure that when I stay with someone for a short holiday, I would offer to help in any household chore. I often help in the kitchen. In fact, I often offer to cook for the group. As a host, I would discourage my guests from helping out. But if they offer and insist, well... Who am I to disagree?

I don't mind helping in the kitchen when I go to someone's house for a meal. I have a few friends that I have dinner with regularly, and cooking the meals is often part of the fun. We get together and make an evening of cooking and having a few drinks. We often do other things such as lift weights, work on small projects, or just hang out and talk while the food is cooking. Come to think of it, it is about time for me to go over and visit a friend that I haven't seen in a while.

When I am with someone for a short holiday,being a mom, instinct tells me to help otu especially when my host is going solo in the kitchen. But before I do I ask permission to help. Likewise,I would certainly not expect my visitor to help out in the kitchen. But then if my visitor is a very close friend and she/he would be helping out as a form of bonding with me.. then I dont see why not. Here in the Philippines, the highly used area of the household would be the kitchen.. This is where friends and family members connect between munching on goodies!!

Yes I want to help in kitchen even I am guest. I like to help others not only in kitchen but also in other works like press the cloths, wash the cloth etc.

hi, It is good habit to help others in the kitchen. but sometimes it may happen that they do not like our interference in their kitchen then do not. And if anybody comes to my house then i am sure that my wife will not mind them to share her work in kitchen but she will be ready with cooking as far as possible before the guest comes.

guess not, I would rather move in my own kitchen, there are times when i tried to help i end up not helping like breaking a glass because I am not used to the house or kitchen, if I am a host similarly that is still my kitchen and I do not want others to touch it, small help like bring out the food to be served is Ok.

Yes I help if they want it I always ask if I can help and if they say do you want to that to me is a yes. So I offer to help wash , dry, or what ever but If I am invited to dinner I do not help with the cooking I would be in the way but I do help with the dishes or what ever else is needed if they want. I think it is a polite thing to do. When I am haveing the meals and invite I do accept the help also only if they ask. But not with the cooking who ever cooks stays the cook.

Normally when I go over to someone's house and I just met them through a boyfriend or friends and they're making dinner or cleaning up after dinner, I would get up and help but if the rules in that household forbids guests to do any work, then I'll make sure not to disrespect their rules; however, I would try to minimize my portion of the mess as much as possible. If it's my friends' house, I would definitely do my part of the job and help as much as I can because we're comfortable enough to know that there needn't be any rules towards each other. That being said, when I have people over at my place, I prefer for them to just relax and enjoy the many snacks that I put up. I wouldn't mind doing the cooking and most of the clean ups, but it would be nice if the guests volunteer to help because at least you know they have the thought, even though I would always reject their help. They are guests and my motto is, guests shouldn't have to do any work (but volunteer just to sound polite).

i dont know how to cook...so its beeter for me not to help in the kitchen otherwise i ll make mess out of someone's kitchen..... if someone is with me ,and wud like to help ,he shud help me in the kitchen... in india ,we say guests are like god....so it wudn't matter me much if he/she is not ready to help...

it depands how many ones are already in the kitchen. i don't think i should make the small place much smaller. and don't leave the cook alone there, talking with him/her may make the job interesting.

ummm... i sorta have too. because of my culture. it is good manner to help out. so i help out and they help out even if we don't want them too.