Loss touch of friends because of relationship

eddyspaghetti, let me start out by saying I love your username. That is awesome. When I met my husband over five years ago, my friends did exactly like you said: stopped calling as much, started getting in touch with single friends again, etc. At the time, I didn't really mind. I would have rather spent the time with my then boyfriend/fiancee. However, whenever I'd get together with them, they'd blame me for not calling them. It bothered me because I didn't call them, but it was only because they weren't getting in touch with me and I had someone I could spend my time with anyway. I think part of it had to do with the fact that my husband is quiet and came from a questionable past. All of my friends are talkative, expect the same from others, and we're all basically goody-goodies. So some of my friends apparently took this dislike of him out on me. I've lost friends because I love him. One of my friends only wanted to talk about how he was "uneducated" (no college degree, although he's halfway through getting one now and is the smartest man I've met), so I dropped her like a fly. In my opinion, a lifelong partner is so much more important than materialistic friends (or just friends in general)...I just thank God I realized they were materialistic when I did. I've gotten back in touch with many of my friends from over the years. My suggestion would just be to call them up, shoot them an email, ask them how they're doing. At my young age, most of my friends are on Facebook, so I send them a friend request and make small talk through messages, hoping to open that doorway again. Good luck with everything.

It has not happened to me yet but I go out with them actually me and my partner that's if we have extra cash. But it's lesser time with my friends because my partner and I have very tight budget. The only time we get to see our friends is either they come over to our house. But if it's the other way around, it's very seldom. Good day!

I think that when you are in a relationship they should be your best friend and take over where alot of friends left off. Atleast at first. And the amount of the hanging out and the things you do may have to change. If you are young it takes awhile to grow into the new relationship too.

I try to balance my relations wiht my friends and boyfriend.Sometime we all hang out together and but you it happens naturally.Even they do have boyfriend/husband so its natural. some time they want to be their partner only and sometime i want to be with my boyfriend only.It has created little bit distance between us but not much.We are still together and there are times we come together without our respective other half and tune with each other once again.

well it s very normal. The next usual thing is to hang out with friends who also have a partner. So double, triple pairs :) Ofc single people seek the company of people like them and invloved people also seek the company of the ones like them. But don t worry about losing your friends it s just a matter of time before they get invloved and you ll start hanging out together again just that the group will be bigger including your partners too :) Take care.

I've had that happen before, but I also realize friends come and go. At first its hard dealing with the loss of contact, but don't forget we're all people. As people we grow and change even if others may not like the change. You just have to be strong and try to get through each day. If you and your friends were real good friends reconnecting may actually happen for you.

Yes, and it sucks, But i'm sure that it happens alot. I have lost touch with many of my friends for no real other reason except for a new boyfriend who is protective or insecure of me spending time without him. I wish now that i had given my friends the respect they deserved when i had the chance. My partner works aways now and i am often lonely and at a loss of who to talk to as i feel so distanced from everyone and thing i used to know.

Yes. Happened to me quite recently actually. In the past 2 of 3 years in university, I spent most of my time with my girlfriend and this took a toll on the number of friends I had. This was because I put priorities on my girlfriend at the time. Now that I have broken up with her, its like starting all over again trying to find friends eventhough I am in my 3rd year in the university. I have to say that its pretty hard but I am pulling through