What do you prefer most, to be well liked or respected?

Boss or being a friend, professional or personal t - Being a boss or friends differs the two should not be mix up when it comes to professional relationship.
Philippines
April 25, 2010 12:21pm CST
Their are differences between the saying when you are being well liked or respected. You are well like when people around you accept you for what you are and for being respected mean you deserve it because of your position in the society/organization, meaning you attain it because you may either belong to the higher staff of a certain company or with good reputation or maybe you could attain it because you deserve it.Whereas the two varies as their are cases when you are well like but not respected or vice versa or it may be you are respected and not well like. Whew, what a contradiction but it really happen. Such as in a situation like this, a boss is respected because he own the company, he pay for his employees salary and in return the employees serve him as sign of respect, or maybe fear while another group may just do their obligation because of a need, but they have sense of disrespect when unfair treatment exist. Or else a person could be well like and respected at the same time because of his attitudes and fair treatment of other people for being compassionate and so deserve to be well like. But it also tough when those qualities exist if you're the CEO or the big boss, since it is tough to end up as a friend and be the boss at the same time. Their are cases too that being a boss or friend should not need to co-exist, especially when the professional and personal attributes exist in any situation which applies be it in your work, schools or between friends or peers. Thanks What do you prefer most to be well liked or respected first? 4-25-10 12:20
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29 responses
25 Apr 10
If I were to choose..I will definitely choose respect..respect can sometimes comes with being well liked..it depends on the personality of the person.. for example..a guy is respected for being smart, when it comes to studying he is always serious for it..but he is also well liked because he's a real joker and a good person to be with.. see,in other situations a person can be both well liked and respected.. :))
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• Philippines
25 Apr 10
hi bunyxoxoxo, That very true as most of the times it is hard to respect someone even the person is an ordinary man or hold a higher position in the society when they are dislike. It may be that some are respected because they are the boss as require so the subordinates just do their obligation but the truth if they dislike a person the respect extend only inside the organization beyond seem not tolerable. thanks for your responses.
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• India
25 Apr 10
I believe that if I like someone, I will definetely respect otherwise its not the only thing, If I will either respect or like the person. Respect is a kind of love, if I love soomeone whois elder to me thats respect, someone at the same age or younger to me , its love.
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• Philippines
25 Apr 10
hi ajaysinghbaghel, Very true indeed. many could likes anything or any person because they look attractive but could not be respected unless one is interested to know the person to go beyond the deeper levels of meeting them and at the same creating connection. Then, when the two meet it is then respect develop as well as mutual understanding as you already mention such as being in love with someone you like. The two factors likely contain if the other is absence somehow the relationship is off balance. thanks for your responses.
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• United States
25 Apr 10
I would definetly say respect. Being well liked holds less value if there's no respect. I think respect is important; I don't care much about whether someone likes me or wants to be my friend, but there should always be the decency of mutual respect.
• Philippines
25 Apr 10
hi frozenfire, That right anyone could show likes to any person whom the object of admiration while being respected is more beyond being well like it needs a lot of trust and honesty to be respected. it is not easily achieved as it is gain in the right not in a shorten time mostly in a long time when the person built a good reputation and have develop outstanding behavior which is deserving to be appreciated. thanks for your responses.
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• Philippines
27 Apr 10
I prefer both one could not be respected if not well like they should be united to bring more good harmony.
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@jd107nette (1456)
• Philippines
26 Apr 10
i prefer to be respected... i cannot really make everyone like me that's too much to ask, but i can strive so everyone can respect me... ^_^ it so much better
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• South Korea
26 Apr 10
first of all i wanna say say that respect has to be earn we have to work hard to gain it:) as well as being like too.. but lets remember that we cannot please everybody... so just be true to your self.. coz i think like and respect should always go together:)
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@sender621 (14934)
• United States
26 Apr 10
Being a person that is well liked can certainly bring joy and happiness to your life. What is even more rewarding is to be respected by others. Liking someone is a feeling that comes and goes like the wind. Feelings of respect are strong bonds thaat bind so many lasting relationships.
• Philippines
26 Apr 10
for me, i rather be respected.. but of course people will not respect me if they do not like me... i see people who do not like but still respect me, but then i still see people who like me but do not respect me... i rather be respected for what i am and who i am, no matter what society i belong, what rank i am in my society, i want them to respect me for who i am and what i am... no matter if they do not like at least the respect is still there and that they will be respected too...
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@eidoj31 (23)
• United States
26 Apr 10
I think for me,I would rather be respected than liked. In my line of work, with the position that I hold,respect is a much more desired thing than like. I have run into many cases where people do not like me for the decisions that I have to make, but they at least respect the decisions that I make.Being well liked means that you fit into the mold of what other people think you should fit into.Being well respected means being able to hold your head up high because you have stood true to your beliefs. I am not trying to win friends, especially in the work place, but I am trying to maintain the quality of my own integrity.Liked or respected? I am happy with respected.
@stanley777 (7249)
• Philippines
26 Apr 10
I would definitely preferred to be respected.Whether you are holding a high position or not, respect given to us by others is something that can not be exchange for money.
@saphrina (31738)
• South Africa
25 Apr 10
Sweetie, respect is very important to me. So, i would rather people respect me than like me. TATA.
• Philippines
25 Apr 10
hi saphrina, That very true respect is more stronger values than being well like. Anyone could pretend to like a person based on the law of attraction but the respect levels differs as it is attainable when more connection are form between two people creating mutual understanding. Thanks for responding.
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@saphrina (31738)
• South Africa
25 Apr 10
And there sweetie, i agree 100%. TATA.
• Philippines
25 Apr 10
I am glad were thinking of the same things. Anyway i am going to add you in my list of friends. I think I have not added you yet. Have a nice day, saphrina.
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• China
26 Apr 10
Hi, neelianoscet. For me, I respect most of the people, including my family, friends, acquaintance or even strangers. I think respect is fundamental in social activities. You should have respect for people, or they won't do the same thing back. And on one can be well liked without being respected. On the other hand, my respect for someone doesn't mean I like him/her, it depends on if he/she is respectable.
• China
26 Apr 10
Oh, I forgot to give you my answer, I'd like to be respected, and to be liked as well.
@qamarep (4448)
• Pakistan
26 Apr 10
you are only well respected if you are a rich person with very good job when your neighborsneed your help
• Philippines
5 May 11
This I see to some people since their employees respect them because of fear because they have the control to hire and fired them at the same time. While being respect does mean they are well liked. Some people who have lower rank get respect because of their attitude.
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• United States
25 Apr 10
Well I would choose being respected hands down! I would rather have someone treat me for the person I am. Respect is good because people will look up to you not just as a role model but as a person to go to when they need something from them. That's the whole reason of me choosing respect. In my opinion, being respected is way better than being well liked.
• Philippines
5 May 11
Ok. Respect won over all. Most respondents choose respect over well like. Including you. Respect is earn and their are situation when other people would dislike you but still respect you not because of your age, position or social status but a human being, as a sign of good harmony to live with each other in peace then respect should be the most priority.
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@Hatley (164232)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Apr 10
hi neelianoscet I would like to be well liked and respected for my belief is that if we do not respect all others how can we expect them to respect us. You do not have to be a high mucky muck professional to engender respect.I do think we should all respect each other for who we are as it takes all kinds to run this world and nobody is too lowly not to be respected. We are all human being, all children of God so we should all be respected
• Philippines
2 May 10
hi hatley, The two are important qualities that need to coincide with each others along with respect is likes too. As no one could be force to respect if one dislike another person one need to sacrifice the other or else it is better with respect first then the likes would follow since their are situation where one need to respect a person but deep inside her mind rebel and she only show respect because it is necessary but in normal situation where the people are the same average. they could show their real behavior whether they like, dislike, respect or disrespect with their own fredoom without being afraid then it is the real fact.
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@StarBright (2799)
• United States
25 Apr 10
Since you put this in the context of being a public person or an employer, certainly respect is number one. With respect will come a sense of fairness, honesty and integrity - a person whose word is her bond. These are qualities that will cause people to like you because they respect you. If people like you because you are just a jolly good fellow, that like can turn on you when they find they cannot respect you because you do not have good moral fiber. So for me, definitely, respect.
• Philippines
26 Apr 10
hi starbright, That very true being an authority to be follow by subordinates respect is need most of the times and being well like may follow after those people around gives trust and think of their boss as kind with many good admirable qualities. what one say have to do with the kind of personalty of the person as result of being trusted as you already stated whatever comes out of his mouth comes along responsibility and a good model for everyone to emulate because of his exemplary behavior which deserves a lot of praise rather than criticism. Yeah, being jolly is a good qualities but in other factors the standard is not reach by being humorous alone some may find a joker not so serious in his life so they may either like or disrespect him. thanks.
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• India
30 Apr 10
Hello If people have respect for you, you are certaily wellliked, we can;t demand respect from anybody in home or at works, it comes automatically.. Thanks, God bless you. cheers Happy posting. Prof
@kun2349 (23464)
• Singapore
27 Apr 10
Actually, u should be using fear and respected as a comparison.. hehe ^_^ Fear and respect is only a fine line between them.. WHile well liked, everybody can be well liked on the surface, as long as it brings them some slight advantages.. Even evil boss can be well liked on the surface, to prevent employees being blacklisted.. haha =D BUt a respected peron or boss, they earned their respected and gain recognition for the things they do.. as such, it's respect, and thus their words carried power.. hehe
• China
27 Apr 10
i prefer to be respect and liked at the same time.lol.it seems i am so greedy,right?i am not a leader,so when i get along with others,i prefer to be liked by others.i think if someone like you,he or she will respect you,your ideas and choices.anyway,i am not a boring person.i think i am popular among friends.
• Philippines
27 Apr 10
i like to gain respect it hard to gain. trust and respect along side when combines works great. while likes anyone could do it maybe show as real or just sort of pretenses.