In love or just infatuation?
By ghieptc
@ghieptc (2522)
Philippines
April 25, 2010 9:25pm CST
When the time that you got fell in love into someone, do you think you're truly in love...or you're just infatuated? Some people asking themselves if it's real love or just some passing fancy like that senti text of the day they just received. So it's important to find out what makes one different from another. Though infatuation is sometimes called imitation love, it isn't completely that artificial, for it can sometimes develop into full mature love. But it, can also burn itself out or lead to immature intimacies. When I was in HighSchool I got fall in love with a tough cute guy and never thought that he might got fell in love too...But I actually have a bestfriend and his a guy, and I was being confused so I don't know if I'm really in love into this tough cute guy or I'm just attracted with his outward appearance or looks...What do you think, do you know what's the difference between being in love or just infatuation? Have you ever experience been in love and you felt you're not really in love?
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12 responses
@markroderick (888)
• Philippines
26 Apr 10
Being truly in love doesn't know how to fool around. Infatuation has it you get more excited every time you saw the person and it just fades when you don't see the other person.
@ghieptc (2522)
• Philippines
27 Apr 10
Like I always said it's not just about emotions, sometimes feeling can be wrong so eventually relationship ended up coz we thought that we're truly in love. We must consider that commitment to ones person is involve...Anyway thanks for you comment, hope you understand well...Happy Mylotting!
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
27 Apr 10
I now know the difference between infatuation and true love.I once thought I was in love. He was nice to me and there was an attraction but there wasn't any true, deep mutual feelings. but at the time I thought I was in love. so when it ended, it hurt. But with the help of my then best friend, which was a guy, I saw that it wasn't love, it was just attraction. then for a short while I thought I was falling for my best friend but I love him as a brother , not as a lover. And now,several months after my heart was broken by Mr infatuation and months since I realized that my best friend is Just a friend, I met and fell for my guy. Why do I Know it is love? We are connected deeply and it is Mutual! We are good friends and we love each other. It feels right. I am not waiting like I was with Mr Infatuation nor am I trying to make my feelings be romantic like I did with my then best friend.So my suggestion is to let your heart tell you. I find that when it is love you'll know it.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
27 Apr 10
With My guy I feel he is the right one for me. We fit. That's all I can say. When you find the person , you'll Know it.
@ghieptc (2522)
• Philippines
27 Apr 10
I pretty understand, I guess we have in common. At first we actually expect if we've got fell in love, we want to be in love in return but never thought that he was not the right one for us. However, even if your relationship became mutual we still didn't know if he's the right one for us, we don't know why he can't also love us but we must understand it...
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@hazelsweetme (199)
• Philippines
27 Apr 10
Sometimes, times make us realize who we really love. Sometimes, when a person is gone and we still think of him/her though he/she is not around...maybe that's love. When time passes by and you still care for that person, still think of him/her, realizing what that person really worth to you. We cannot even notice a person who is with us all the time because we are confident that he/she would be always there. But what if we woke up one day and the person who usually beside us could not be with you. I
@climber7565 (2579)
• United States
26 Apr 10
Yes you are right on that, they are different. Its incredible when you actually fall in love with someone and you just know it in your heart. There are no questions asked, you just know it. Mostly we seem to get caught up in infatuation and give ourselves the chance that it all may grow into real love. That is when all the heartaches develop too and complications. If you know is not right then get out of it fast and move on with life.
@climber7565 (2579)
• United States
26 Apr 10
In my short life I have learned that on any level of a relationship, three things must be present: honesty, trust and communication. If either one is missing there is just no relationship, hence conflicts and complications.
@ghieptc (2522)
• Philippines
27 Apr 10
Somehow we really don't know yet if it's really love until we're not on the situation and then realized it, so we get out and move on. And unfortunately we also didn't knew that the person we missing is the person that meant for us...Anyway thanks for sharing your comment...hope that we can find each others special someone,hehe!
@climber7565 (2579)
• United States
17 May 10
Oh its confusing at times and difficult to tell, but I have some to find out when you know you just know. The heart actually does tell you. Strangely as it sounds.
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
29 Apr 10
infatuation, for all its worth, can also be considered as a form of being in love, ghie. infatuation, per se, is an attraction, which basically comes with admiration -- for good looks, intelligence, and other qualities that is manifested. sometimes, infatuation is the beginning of love, because infatuation already has the elements of being in love. it's only a matter of watering the plant, for it to grow... now wetting it, for it to become slippery... don't forget, ghie, innuendos can also be manifestations...
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
1 May 10
but i can also get infatuated reading lines from someone like you, ghie. well, you know, i just called the attention of someone who posted a topic for discussion which is similar to one you posted... but that is already out of topic? no, because i am just trying to tell you that i remember almost all the topics you posted. why? your answer is as good as mine... infatuation, what is?
@Nessa314 (58)
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26 Apr 10
I think it is very important to be infatuated with someone even if you are in love with them. The difference is that when you are in love with someone, you not only like them for they look or behave, you also respect them and are willing to accept them as they are.
You want to spend as much time as you can with this person and you enjoy spending time with this individual. You want to find out everything about this persona dn every day with them is an adventure. If you are only infatuated with a person, you will not go through this array of emotions everyday. You will not crave to meet them and be with them. The intimacy will be there in just even talking to that person and laughing together.
@ghieptc (2522)
• Philippines
27 Apr 10
But really in love is not just about emotions or because you felt like it. Love should be full commitment, responsibility and not just because you like this person. Much better that aside from accepting, respecting her you should not be able to forgot that loves goes through changes that are more gradual and natural...
@aaaaaggieee (64)
• Philippines
26 Apr 10
Love is enduring and stands the test of time, if it is infatuation if you cannot see the person and the infatuation is gone then that is not love.
@ghieptc (2522)
• Philippines
27 Apr 10
Usually infatuation based on physical attraction and on a limited number of physical traits but when times passes by, when relationship ended up then realize that if we're not meant for each other we could say still just we're infatuated...or might we give up loving him/her...
@markroderick (888)
• Philippines
26 Apr 10
When you are truly in love with the person you accept her/him whatever his/her flaws are. And when you are infatuated with a guy/girl you only focus on his/her physical beauty. And infatuations fades in just a short period of time. But love can always survive even for a long period of time.
@ghieptc (2522)
• Philippines
27 Apr 10
Thanks for sharing...I agree with your answer, somehow infatuation will really not last and you might really even knew that the one you are attracted is in love with someone or doesn't like you at all. On the other hand, if you truly in love you fought for your feelings because you know you can possibly be partner that will last or both of you are really meant for each other...
@jambi462 (4576)
• United States
26 Apr 10
I would say that being in love you will know because things will be absolutely perfect almost and you should rarely fight because you have so much in common. I would say that a good loving relationship causes both partners to make positive improvements to each other. Since my girlfriend and I have been together she has helped me to start eating better, exercising more, and just have a better overall attitude on life.
I felt like I was in love before because when I first started dating my last girlfriend it seemed like she was an angel and everything was beautiful. But unfortunately she had an extreme case of Bipolar Disorder and it was just a little bit too much for me. It's hard in situations like that because it's hard to hurt people especially when you have had feelings for them for a while and you know how bad you will hurt them. Infatuation is still love I would have to say it's just not the one and true love that you are looking for.
@ghieptc (2522)
• Philippines
27 Apr 10
Thanks for sharing your answer, though I consider that differences between partners also their relationship going steady, and not just because they have common. Relationship takes time and partners should get to know more each other well so they could maintain their relationship otherwise if they don't overlook each others fault or flaws relationship wouldn't last at all...
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
26 Apr 10
Hi sweetie. Not only is that confusing, it is the hardest thing to ever try and figure out. The worst of it is , we cannot always be so sure. But, i feel if you really cannot stop thinking of that person, you get butterflies in your stomach everytime you hear that name or you just want to faint everytime you see that person, you are definately in love. Infatuation, can really move to the back of the line then. TATA.@ghieptc (2522)
• Philippines
27 Apr 10
We might really even knew coz infatuation centers only on the emotion itself, like "being in love with love." Is more self-centered (but not usually selfish), goes through a highly emotional state and various mood swings, loses touch with reality, with so many fantasies and daydreaming that's infatuation. But unlike if you really in love with a person is "grown" into, growing as time passes by, involves a deep commitment to one person, and doesn't lose touch with reality; you think of him/her just as he/she is...Thank for sharing your answer...Happy Mylotting!
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
6 Jul 10
Well i fell in love and never had a second thought its an infatuation. Its a true love which i felt at every nerves and a life without my love is my end.
@rhodalyn (251)
• Philippines
7 May 10
i do believe that if its just an infatuation,it will only last for 4 months..when what you feel exceeds it,then its love..
