Its hard to be good but its easy to be bad..

thinking! - Just think.
@cloud31 (5809)
April 27, 2010 11:44am CST
In my life I always have corner of love and care to every body.I'm easy to please and easy to approach,easy to talk with and easy to forgive.I always care the feelings of others and even neglect my wishes just to fulfill others wishes,This is not just for the one I love but in general to all people around me,offline and online friends. And even allow them to stepped on me sometimes, I never think of hurting somebody in deed and in words. As it was a taught to be always be good,I can't remember I hurt anyone since my childhood.And they even taking me for granted I still think its life,as long as they don't goes beyond my limitations I let them passed.I think so many times.When you are good they think "you are stupid" but when you are bad "they think you're clever." Why some people don't care the actions and feelings that one person wants to emphasize. How hard for me to be good? I don't regret to be good I really don't but do you think I also need to be bad sometimes? Kindly share me your views about this my fellow myLotters. Have a nice day everyone!
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@hofferp (4734)
• United States
27 Apr 10
I'm much like you. I rarily get mad...or I should say I rarily express my anger. I usually am the mediator, the listener, the one trying to resolve disputes, etc. Sometimes, I wish I could speak my mind like others seem to do so easily. But I never want to hurt people's feelings...I can't stand arguments/loud voices. But all in all, I'd rather be this way, than a loud mouth, know-it-all...
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@cloud31 (5809)
27 Apr 10
Hello ms hofferp, That's nice to know you are being that way actually when things like this happened its so hard to understand ourselves what the thing we should do.We think of being good but no one appreciate that.But knowing we can handle these all ourselves will a big chance to handle other feeling too. Thank you for sharing and Have a nice day ahead!
@gabs8513 (48687)
• United Kingdom
27 Apr 10
Hi Cloud Up untill 3 years ago I always let People walk all over me, I let them hurt me and I let them lead my Life It nearly destroyed me in the end Now I will stand up for myself, I have to, because of that no one walks over me any more, yes People still hurt me but I can deal with it now You are right what you said People who are bad think they are so clever but they are not Big Hugs
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@gabs8513 (48687)
• United Kingdom
28 Apr 10
You are welcome Cloud I just do not want you to suffer it as long as I did
@Hatley (163802)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Apr 10
gabs w hat you say to cloud is so right, a good decent person does have the right to defend herself against those oh so clever people who' want to trample all over them. I learned like you that you can be good but you can also defend your goodness when someone pushes you around.
@cloud31 (5809)
27 Apr 10
Hello gabs, That's what exactly talking here let people walk over you,hurting you, sometimes they tend to control of some aspects of our lives just to please them but the end they will attacked you like nothing in between feelings to another. Now its good to realized that its not fair enough to let them rule and let them walked on us at first,now i even learn how to be tough learned something for what they have done over me,they might think they are clever but I believe life is fair. Thank you so much for all these words it makes me strong ever than before.
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@RachelleNH (1396)
• United States
27 Apr 10
I am also like this...I like everyone and am an open and friendly type of person...I believe the saying "the nice guy finishes last" Everyone seems to like the ones that gossip and treat others poorly...I don't understand why this is but I treat others how I want to be treated-nicely
• United States
27 Apr 10
by the way it's okay to be bad as long as it's not malicious to others...you can't be good all the time
@cloud31 (5809)
27 Apr 10
@cloud31 (5809)
28 Apr 10
Hello Rachelle, Good to know I'm not alone..kidding friend.Yes they don't actually appreciate most good deeds but they can recognized bad things anyway we cannot really expect full acceptance of people to what we have done,please people somehow is really tough. You say so,its good to be bad sometimes huh..Thank you for sharing,,Nice day
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
27 Apr 10
Its pretty hard to believe someone in this virtual world prettie----every thing seems to be real good but you would never know who is trying to take advantage of you being good---people can be so caring(they can enact well) that they can lure you easily.Coming to me i do have some tactics to confirm if the one i'm chatting with or interested in or loving is not lying to me---i do consider each and every word of their's which would help me to categorise if they're loyal enough or not .Whilst handling offline friends i do not have regrets in having them.Hope i'm not wrong in the aspect you're well aware of
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
28 Apr 10
I would prefer to keep those fakers at bay----we can utilise our time exploring the good ones who can be our friends too rather than those who lie about themselves
@cloud31 (5809)
28 Apr 10
That's the best way to do!
@cloud31 (5809)
27 Apr 10
Hi sunny, Of course you can recognized easily what's the real intentions of others to you and even tend to make you believe of their words and their actions but for me sometimes I so easy to let them passed on me since no use of minding if people don't really care how true you are to them.I hope you won't get me wrong as well though...Well, with all friends offline or online I don't regret a single word a single second having them I value everyone not thinking who they are.I don't mind.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
27 Apr 10
Ok IJ, i am shocked. You don't have to be good always. Be bad for a change, that will do you good. I will help you along. TATA.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
27 Apr 10
you mean to say that ------- try to be like you right
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
27 Apr 10
BB, i had a rough few days, and you weren't even here. Don't you have something else to do right now? And yes, just like me. The more of me around, the better for everyone, especially those we want.
@cloud31 (5809)
27 Apr 10
My angel, So, you gonna help me for that I'm sure you will always be a good teacher that most student will learn from you,.So. when we gonna start then?lol Thank you for being there always
@kedralynn (980)
• United States
27 Apr 10
I had a feeling you were a good person :) I was raised to be good. To always tell the truth. To always do what my parents told me to do. To never steal and to never talk back. I learned from my mother how to have a good heart. To be there to listen, to offer advice, to take care of the people around me. However I went thru a phase shortly after being an adult and moving out of my parent's house where I was pretty bad. I did a lot of things that hurt myself. I did all the things I shouldn't. Maybe just to see if I could do it. Maybe to see how it felt. I'm not happy about those things and I regretted them for some time. In time, I've learned to make peace with those things I did. To learn from the mistakes and be a better person. In the end I found it was easy to be bad but not easy to handle how guilty I felt afterwards. And because of the guilt, I'd never intentionally do something bad again. I'd rather help the people around me. I guess I'm just good at heart and shouldn't try to be anything else.
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@cloud31 (5809)
28 Apr 10
Hello kedralynn, Yes most parents wants us to be good,they were happy when they see us being good,but sometimes situations force us to do things not really good in their will and sight of others. You are right saying its always easy to be bad and yet not easy to tolerate the guilt feelings of what we did.Since I was young at my present age I don't have the courage to hurt others but most the time I get hurt of what I did good to them. Thank you for sharing and Have a nice day ahead!
@hora_fugit (5865)
• India
28 Apr 10
I find it very hard to be good when people keep taking you as granted. I like to help people but then I end up being tagged 'stupid' and someone you could easily use. It angered me a lot and now I don't even try to be pleasing. I do just what is right. If niceties are needed fine else no. Sometimes I fall back on being nice one but then it's not long before I get a rude awakening. Still I'm not being 'bad' I hope. good= stupid, bad= clever. I hate this mentality especially when people brag about their 'cleverness' which was outright criminal. World is not fair, they would say. Yes, and that's so because of people like them!
@cloud31 (5809)
28 Apr 10
Hello hora, Well yah nobody wants to be called stupid after all but anyway its like doing good make things worst,but anyway I really don;t mind what people think about me, they were taking me for granted is not a big deal to me unless I will be harm, I will not say anything ,I have on these situation before but I still can say no matter how hard we tried we really can't please everybody. Thanks for being with me here!Happy myLOtting!
• Philippines
28 Apr 10
when you are good they see you as coward because you allow someone to step on you when you know inside you that is nothing. and you don't want to waste time of stupid accusations. When you are good you are forgiving. I am not always good. I can say I am good at first but if one person hurted me so bad that he or she don't care what I have felt I can still forgive them but they can't rely on me for help. How can I help those people who can't appreciate me in the first place. And in the first place again, I believe they have a thick skin if they will ask my help after what he or she done to me. When you are bad they think you are strong. Because you could be able to hurt someone intended or not, you still had the success of hurting someone. You are very confident and people move away from you from having a strong character. When you say you are good, you are good. It became hard when people disrespect and do not understand you. Because people are all different. Some people's thought on bad people, if you can't stop them, join them.
@cloud31 (5809)
28 Apr 10
Hello greccy, Absolutely I agree with you for that,some may think you are nothing in their eyes so they will just stepped on you even how hard you tried to please them, they never appreciate things from big to small you've done to them,I'm always the person who can easily let anyone passed for whatever reason as long as it does not hurt me that much.I can even give another chance but unfortunately nothing is more than enough to please anyone. Thank you greccy and Have a nice day ahead
@celticeagle (148751)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Apr 10
I think people who have a heart and are basically good people are always going to be hurt by others because of this. It is just the way it is. People seem to take advantage of good people. I think a good person needs to stay good and alittle bad doesn't hurt but not to get in the habit. For me I am honest and sometimes hurt others because I just say it like it is and am not real tactful about it.
@celticeagle (148751)
• Boise, Idaho
28 Apr 10
Yes, balance and moderation. Very important.
@cloud31 (5809)
28 Apr 10
Hello celticeagle, You are right saying that,it end up a cause of getting hurt by somebody because of being good no courage to revenge but keeping himself to be good,they were taking advantage to someone to his/her good deeds.Maybe in moderate we need to adjust and balance when to be good. Thank you for responding .Nice day ahead
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@yugasini (12836)
• Anantapur, India
27 Apr 10
hi cloud, we both of us having common wishes and common in everything,i am the person to help others,i am the person forgive others mistakes,i am the person to fulfill others wishes,if others worry is more than my worry i will help them first,mostly i do not hurt any people,but everything what we do is according to the fate and luck only,have a nice day
@yugasini (12836)
• Anantapur, India
28 Apr 10
hi cloud, thanks for the comment,have a nice day
@cloud31 (5809)
27 Apr 10
Hello friend, That's good to know we doing the same,even I don't sometimes choose to be like this we can't help to change because its our attitude,just the most painful matters here is that you care about people but don't see how you tried your best to them. Thank you so much friend,Have a nice day always.
@coffeegurl (1467)
• United States
28 Apr 10
Unfortunately, in this world, there are a lot of selfish people out there. I like to have conversations with complete strangers, but depending on where in the world you are, most people are standoffish. They are untrusting. I used to hand out in coffee shops in my college days before the internet. It was fun. We had conversations. We "hung." The other day, my bf took me to a coffee shop and I felt happy, but isolated. Most people there were on their mac books typing while eating and one guy had his headphones on with the computer. Only 2-3 were actually talking to each other face to face. I fear that people are becoming unaccustomed to communicating face to face. In the next generation, I fear that our sole interaction will be online. Please don't change who you are, but just don't extend your giving nature to just anybody-make them prove themselves to you as a trusted friends. The best way to do this is to see if they will loan you some money. Only a true friend would do that. I know some people claim they don't loan money to friends because it can ruin a friendship-well, that's only if the person doesn't pay you back. My best friend just gave me $90 one time because I needed money. She never asked for it back. Also, a true friend will help you out when you really need it. I have this one "friend" who always promises to visit me, but never does. He knows I do not own a car, and he has a car. Sure, he lives about an hour away, but he has a car. I don't consider him a real friend, although he is fun to talk to. I used to work with him and he made me laugh, but he's a bit of a flake.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
28 Apr 10
This isn't the right way to sort out good ones from bad-----this virtual world is full of scams and every one is quiet skeptical when it comes to money matters---as you would never know who are really in need of money or they're trying to bluff you---taking advantage of you being good. No offense meant but that was my opinion------I believe that money matters between new friends would end up in a disaster----so i personally woulnt ask someone for money and neither do i until and unless i knew him/her for years.
@mackiejp (374)
• Philippines
28 Apr 10
Hi Cloud! You don't have to be bad for others not to think you are stupid. Being good is not that you are stupid, and besides you don't need to please anyone and conform to their way of thinking, be who exactly you are. Remain sweet and humble.
@cloud31 (5809)
28 Apr 10
Hello mack, That's wonderful words from you, you are exactly right we cannot please anyone and we don't have to please anyone because of what they think about us.Thank you for your opinions and views. Have a nice day
• India
27 Apr 10
it takes a life time to build character but it takes just a few seconds to shatter it. thats what i was said. but to me we cannot help being good, it is like a habit to many of us, i mean even though we are rude at times, times when we are really in a difficult situation, we are good. but sometimes we have to be bad, it is the only way we can get some things done.
@cloud31 (5809)
28 Apr 10
Hello aditya, I agree with you of what you've just said no matter how good we are its easy to transform ourselves into bad,but it will happen when we think of revenge or something intentional to people.So I agree that when there's no way to settle things by good deed it can done in bad moves. But at the end we still be recognized for what we really are.thanks!
@markleob (1902)
• Philippines
27 Apr 10
yeah it is really hard to be good at all times but we know that being bad is not good... avoiding to do bad things will make us good.. hahah
@cloud31 (5809)
28 Apr 10
Hello markleob, So confusing huh anyway right absolutely right, doing bad is not good,and avoiding bad things will make us good,and so on!
@khaezi (1001)
• Philippines
27 Apr 10
Hello there cloud!! Well I think you don't have to change something about yourself..if you are a good person you will always be a good person even if you try to be bad to others it will not work trust me it will be seem so unnatural because it won't last your heart will melt soon..I've been there cloud I think you should increase the level of your limitations with others just to protect yourself..you will not harm them by just ignoring them and they could never harm you as well..and be conscious with someone's behavior too just try to read if he/she is true to you.. Have a nice day..
@cloud31 (5809)
27 Apr 10
Hello khaezi, Its hard to change the way we are actually,sometimes we attempt but at the end we still don't have no way to go but to go back for who we are.Thank you so much for sharing your opinion and your experienced it make me realized that life is not really a thing but it something supernatural.. Thank you for your advice friend, and I will just learn to keep something for myself so I won't up into frustrations.
@Hatley (163802)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Apr 10
cloud31 just be your kind good self, being bad is not at all necessary. Of course do not let people mistreat you as that is not being bad, that is upholding your goodness really. some p eople do not really want to be bad, but they just do not take the extra steps that a totally good person does to keep on being a good person and doing good things. It is easy to be u nkind and ungrateful but what does it gain that person, surely they do not get any happiness out of being bad, and pretty soon people learn not to trust them and do not even want to be around them. So there they are all along in their badness, and that to me is very sad and they just did it to themselves. no stay a good person but do defend your right to be who you are, a good person striving to stay that way but also one not to be pushed around, a strong good person.
@cloud31 (5809)
27 Apr 10
Hello ms Hatley, Being good always carry the responsibility to care everyone but it mean a lot to me,I never regret to be good even at the end I'm still failed to please others, before I never thought I would wake up one day I will defend something unbearable for myself.You are right we should not let anyone mistreat us and need to learned to defend for our rights.Now learning from all of you I can say I am much stronger to stand being good not with the will of others but for my will and those who can appreciate my doing. Thank you for being a good exampleI will learn more from you.
• India
27 Apr 10
hi cloud,people love good persons.they always admire them in their heart.They call them stupid and foolish because of their goodness somebody hurts them.Its only on mouth that they call them stupid but only persons they admire and love are people like you.They can never trust persons they call clever they only trust people they call stupid.
@cloud31 (5809)
28 Apr 10
Hello cyberbucks, I think yes people love good people and being foolish when we are good is just normal that can't help but to continue to be good even how foolish we are sometimes the feeling and deeds can't hide. Thanks
@caliya (1170)
• Philippines
27 Apr 10
I totally understand where you're coming from as I also tend to sacrifice what I need and prioritize other people. It's a nice feeling to be able to help others but it doesn't hurt to also value ourself after all we deserve it.
@cloud31 (5809)
27 Apr 10
Hello caliya, Well yah you are right when you do good to others its an overwhelming feeling, prioritize others will surely make the best of sacrifice,but you are very right saying sometimes we need to value ourselves too. That's nice to know another thought from you. Have a nice day always
27 Apr 10
my dear cloud, Never depart yourself from what you have learned and for what you are right now,never goes beyond your mind to be able to change yourself for the will of others.Stay as you are remember you are not here in this world to please other to let others recognized your good deeds,let it leave with you always.We care about you!
@cloud31 (5809)
28 Apr 10
Hello Ur, I will never be depart to where I been taught and depart for myself, I always try to conquered.When I was taught being good I keep it for life and not to do things not to disappoint anyone. Thanks for having you here
@cmjune76 (273)
• United States
27 Apr 10
I'll admit I do feel good when I'm bad. (sometimes) I too have always been the 'good girl'. My parents even tell people that I never req'd discipline as kid... I have always just been good. But, that is only b/c I am an expert at not getting caught. :) Now, I don't go out of my way to be mean to people or anything, but sometimes in order to get something done, one has to break the system.
@cloud31 (5809)
28 Apr 10
Hello cmjune, Yes sometimes its necessary to be bad to let others know that they could not stepped on you,sometimes being good is not pretty well though they will take you for granted.But at the end even how hard we tried to be among others not to mind about goodness the feelings is normal,It comes out naturally how you deal with people. Thanks for sharing and Happy myLotting!