What will you feel if one day the man you love confess that he is a Gay?

@elleb0418 (1107)
Philippines
May 1, 2010 9:56pm CST
Many today keeps on hiding what really their true gender is.Like Ricky Martin for how many years,he keep it to himself that he is a man physically but he has a woman heart inside. Scary right?But sometimes such circumstances happened.What will you feel if the one you adore most confess one day that you have same heart and he wants a guy too,and not a girl.
5 responses
lovelyn_medrano
@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
2 May 10
The man we love... meaning our partner? Our husband or boyfriend? O owww... Like Carmina and Rustom... When rustom came out... he really CAME OUT!!! Good thing he did that when Carmina had move on already and has her own family... If that happens to me -- knock on wood! Of course, I will feel betrayed and would definitely hate the guy... That is the initial and normal reaction but what else can I do??? If that is really him, then I have no choice but to accept the bitter fact and let go... I will try hard to move on and forget about that guy... It would take some time to heal the wound but it is possible that someday, I would be talking to that guy or gay again... I just hope when she or he transformed, I am still prettier than him or her... whatever! hahahaha
lovelyn_medrano
@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
3 May 10
Of course Carmina knows that way back before... I think that is also the reason why they separated... Remember, Carmina didn't say anything about it... The rumors are spreading so quick and hot but Carmina remained silent and did not say anything about the "real gender" of Rustom when asked... All she said was, she wished that her life will fast forward... while tears run down to her face... (I was a fan of Carmina back then when I was in elementary to high School) Before they got married, there are rumors that Rustom is a gay but Carmina did not believe it... That is why she married Rustom... Even Rustom, he admitted that he was really in denial and trying to be a real man that is why he try hard to kept it to himself, supress his real feelings... He only admitted and accepted the faxt many years after they broke up...
elleb0418
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
2 May 10
My friend you mentioned about Rustom and Carmina.When Rustom admit that he is a gay,we did not hear any comment from Carmina right?Maybe as a girl she knows it already when they are together and she accepted Rustom as he is,then she decided to get her own life and she move on. First thing really is we will hate the guy,because we feel that for years we've been betrayed by the man we love.Normal reaction,but if acceptance is there,all of us knows that the pain we feel inside our heart will slowly fades away.First thing is accept him and everything follows.
_Honey_
@_Honey_ (780)
• Philippines
2 May 10
Well, I'll be shocked and I might faint. Haha!! Kidding aside, I'll just be surprised, be a bit heartbroken but I'll feel happy for him in the end. I wouldn't want anyone to stick with me if their heart belongs to someone or something else since I wouldn't want to stick to anyone too if my heart doesn't belong to that person.
_Honey_
@_Honey_ (780)
• Philippines
3 May 10
Of course, there will always be a special for that person. But if you truly lover the person, you will accept him. But accepting doesn't mean sticking with him especially when you know that you're not the one who will make this person happy the most. What I'm saying is, if he's gay, definitely, he would want be more happy if he follows his preferred gender. If I don't fall on the same category, why push for it?
elleb0418
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
2 May 10
We ladies sometimes had our own philosophy in life.We sometimes said that,if he doesn't love me,why should I stick to him and look stupid the whole of my life.But then sometimes we forget that when we truly inlove,But sometimes also unwanted events happened.When the time maybe he will confess that he is a gay,much better if we love the person we must accept him the way he is.
grace24
@grace24 (1049)
• Philippines
2 May 10
Well maybe, I will be shocked if he confess that he is a gay. My heart will be broken into many pieces.
elleb0418
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
2 May 10
First thing when we heard unwanted words,we will be shock.But we should always enlighten our mind that sometimes we accept reality even though it break us.We cannot change reality,its only for us how to deal with it,for us to be able to accept it.
Ifamous
@ifa225 (14468)
• Indonesia
2 May 10
that would be hard. But i will leave him and make sure my self not to want him too because he does not want me as well. maybe we can just make a friend.
elleb0418
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
2 May 10
Yes, really hard, but as what we said acceptance is the best way so that the pain will slowly fades away.
dhysanne
@dhysanne (449)
• Philippines
2 May 10
First thing, I will cry. Because I thought he's the one for me. But then, I would thank him for telling me earlier. If I really love him, and he still love me after all. If I can't find any other man than him, I will ask him to give a child. Silly me, huh? But that may be an option and tough decision to make.
elleb0418
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
2 May 10
Well it's your choice right?Anyway if you love him you can accept him as he is.One thing that makes me smile is,you still ask him to gave you a child,how can he do that if the one he is dreaming to be with in bed is a guy also? Some of gays artist have kids,but they do it through artificial insemination.Will you agree if your guy will suggest that to you?
lovelyn_medrano
@lovelyn_medrano (3070)
• Philippines
2 May 10
To dhysanne, Really? Woud you do that? Are you serious? What is that a desperate act? Sorry, I don't mean any offense but I am just surpise... But if he came out of his shell already, I don't think he or she can do "that" with you still... i think his hair will all stand up!