Are you always late or early?

@reinydawn (11643)
United States
May 4, 2010 6:08am CST
And I don't mean by just a few minutes, I mean by 10+ minutes. I'm normally on time or a few minutes late. Or if it's a family function (on my side) I usually just show up whenever. My husband is always WAY early - like a half hour. To me, that's rediculous. For his family functions we'd always be there about a half hour (or more) before everyone else. I just always thought everyone else was late, until one time I asked my sister-in-law and she said she wasn't expecting people until 4pm - we had gotten there at 3pm. That is just rude and from then on I made sure we weren't more than 15 minutes early. One time we showed up at a restaurant for his cousins graduation over and hour early. I was so mad! We sat in the car until everyone else got there. Just now he left for a doctors appointment. It's now 7am, and the doctors office doesn't even open until 8am, they're 10 minutes away. If I'm going to wait, I'd rather wait at home! It's funny, his "on time" is about a half hour early. My on time is from 5 minutes early to "on time". How about you?
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@mentalward (14691)
• United States
4 May 10
I like to be on time... I mean the REAL "on time". LOL Actually, I always try to show up 5 to 15 minutes early but no earlier. I know what it's like to be on the other end when people show up extremely early when I have things planned out and those plans have to be thrown out the window. I don't like it when others show up very early and I wouldn't want to do it to anyone else. My husband, now, he's ALWAYS late. He under-estimates the time it will take to get there or he doesn't take traffic into consideration or he just assumes that showing up late is okay. I've learned how to get around that, though. I tell him we have to be there by, say, 4:30 when we really have to be there at 5:00, always a half hour earlier. That way, we're almost always on time.
@GardenGerty (157552)
• United States
4 May 10
If hubby is predictable, then you can set up a plan to mislead him. I would hate to have someone extremely early. My niece and her family used to always be late to things like Thanksgiving dinner. She has gotten a lot better the last year or so, and we are glad. We are always at my Brother's house, and we had gotten to the point that we just did not wait for anyone who was late.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
6 May 10
When I found out that we were always about a half hour early, I told my sister-in-law to tell ME when we were supposed to be there and I'd make sure we weren't too early. She was very relieved. My sister used to always be very late and wonder why we were always done eating by the time she got there - we didn't wait. We started telling her that dinner was at 1pm when it was really at 3pm. Once she was "on time" and realized that we had been telling her earlier so she'd get there when we wanted her there. She's been on time ever since!
@mentalward (14691)
• United States
5 May 10
Hi Gerty. When I tell my husband we have to be there a half hour before we really have to be there, we almost always get there right on time because he's generally about a half hour late. We're never too early and almost never late. I wouldn't tell him what I'm doing, though. He'd just start being late again if he knew we really didn't have to be somewhere for another half hour. I'm with you on going ahead and starting dinner or whatever at the time I specify and not waiting for people who show up late unless they've called to tell me that they're running late because of something totally unpredicted, like a flat tire or a serious traffic jam. I was late once because traffic had been stopped completely due to a serious auto accident where Medivac was called in. The helicopter was given a lot of room, for obvious reasons. THAT kind of stuff I can excuse.
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@kharlav (1669)
• Philippines
5 May 10
When I was in highschool I was usually was very early, i arrive 10 minutes before the time. And it seems like everybody comes so late, they are about 45 min to 1 hour after the time. I hate to wait. And it happens so many times. That's why I don't come on time anymore because I don't want to wait for so long and alone. Well, it depends on the type of meeting, when I just meet up with my friends to discuss things or just chill, I come late and arrive 30 min after the time, and still I ended up being early. When I go to church I really try to be on time, because my church starts on time and even before the time. Whenever we have family gathering, I come 10 min after the time, but it still early. All in all, whenever I try to be late, I am still early because other people are still more late than me. tsk tsk.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
6 May 10
You must live in Jamaica... When we visited Jamaica it seemed like everything they had posted for us to do started at least 15 minutes late - drove my husband totally batty! I was on vacation and had no place else to go so it didn't matter to me :)
@kharlav (1669)
• Philippines
6 May 10
No, I don't live in Jamaica. I live somewhere in Asia. Now i know that it is not only in my country wherein people are always late. I hope people will stop being late, I just hate waiting.
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@moondancer (7433)
• United States
4 May 10
Actually to be politically correct...you are. It is polite to be about 10 minutes early or maybe 5 but no more. Any more early is considered too much. Late is Late no matter how you look at it. I am usually about 10 minutes early. Unless it's to work when I use to go to work, then it was more because I made up for time for break downs or accidents...just to make sure I would not be late. I'd use that extra time to get a soda and go to the bathroom and sit to rest and relax before working. My daughter is like you when coming here for family functions. Since we are always having to wait dinner for her and her family it is frustrating and dinner is always having to be kept warm and gets dry in many cases so I as the cook get upset and worry about my meal being over cooked. But I want it to be done on time just in case because I tell everyone what time to be here or what I I wish the meal to start but that they can be here any time before that. For her to almost always make everyone else wait is inconsiderate. She just does not think about it, I'm sure.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
6 May 10
Oh, I don't make people wait for the event. We usually say "be here around 1pm, dinner is at 2pm" I get there between 1-1:30pm. My husband would have to be there by 12:30. I think it's rude to be there that early, but ok to be there after the earliest time and before the event. If for any reason I'm going to be later than the event (2pm) I will tell them not to wait for me. Now, if it's something like a movie, a meeting or something that is a specific time, I like to be about 5 minutes early, but not late. My husband is still "late" if he is not 15 minutes early.
• United States
6 May 10
lol, thank goodness my husband and I work together on what time we need to be some place.
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8 May 10
Wow your husband likes to get to places early! I am usually on time or a few minutes early- unless it is a job interview then I leave an extra thirty minutes just in case. I think my family tend to dislike early arrivals so I also get there late. I don't like waiting around for things to start so I tend to just leave later!
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
10 May 10
I think it's rude to be too early at someone's house because they're not ready. My husband doesn't see anything wrong with it though...
@4ofmyown (1119)
• United States
10 May 10
I , generally, like to be early by 10 minutes. I have 5 kids, one of them being a little over 6 months, so being on time to anything is a challenge. The good thing is that it causes me to be very organized, which in the long run, helps everything run a lot smoother. I remember when I was a child my Mom was always late...to EVERYTHING! She still is to this day. We were late for everything..church, parties, appointments....never on time! She was always rushing and stressed and I vowed I did not want to be like that. I like to be early but not overly early. I agree with you 5, maybe 10, minutes is just right.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
10 May 10
Certain things I am not late for - appointments and meetings. But for family and friends, it's pretty rude to show up too early. Sometimes I am late for things, but I don't stress about it because sometimes you don't have a lot of control.
@allamgirl (2140)
• Philippines
8 May 10
well, it depends on the person i'm meeting. i'm usually on time, when it's a thing that doesn't involve my friends. my friends are always late and i don't like waiting for them. so if i'm meeting them, i'm never on time unless there's a bet (yep, we actually make bets so as to keep everyone on time). but other than that, i'm usually on time, not as "on-time" as your hubby though, sort of like your "on-time". when it's appointments like interviews or job-related stuff, i' usually there about half an hour earlier but then i would hang around somewhere or go to the comfort room so that i'm there at the vicinity but not too early.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
10 May 10
My friends and family have always been very "ish" on our times so it's not usually being late. If it's something that we're going to that starts at a particular time - movie or something - I'm usually pretty prompt. I just don't like being extremely early.
• United States
5 May 10
It depends, when the kids were growing up (5) we were always late, cause it was my fault, my husband would go 'do things, mow yard, fix something, cause he was waiting on me. I was getting kids around and gathering stuff up. Now if it is church I am usually late cause I am running around picking up grandkids or neighbor kids. If it is something just my husband and I are doing I am usually waiting for him but he says he is waiting for me and doing something. So I start doing somehting cause I cannot sit still (I have actully sat on the couch with my coat on waiting for him and he will say I was waiting for you!) It is a nowin situation BUT if it is just me going then I am on time.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
6 May 10
I have learned not to ask my husband if he's ready until I am halfway to the car. To him, that means "It's time to go" but for me sometimes it means "I have to get 2 more things together real quick before we leave." He'll go wait in the car sometimes for 5-10 minutes.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
6 May 10
Most of the time I am on time but when travelling and if I should get into Traffic then it can make me late, if I am early it is only about 5-10 minutes lol not like your Husband up to an hour early I would get mad at him to lol
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
6 May 10
I was so embarrassed! He still doesn't realize what an imposition that is.
@derek_a (10874)
5 May 10
If I say a time, I will always be there by that time or a few minutes early. If it is a long way to go by car or other transport, I have to find out the times of the trains/buses and work out which one to catch. I will arrive half-an-hour early rather than a few minutes late. If time is getting late, the mind will usually go into a state of stress and anticipation about missing a meeting. These small stressed mount up over years of being perstistently being late and it can become an issue for some people - maybe not all- but stress does have a negative effect. As a therapist, when I have been consulted by people suffering from stress, I noticed that they often were a few minutes late for their appointments with me. When I asked them how they felt about that, they invariably told me that they were stressed about it. Unless they were extremely late, I really didn't mind, but when we discussed their problem with being on time, on the follow-up appointments they were early or right on time. _Derek
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
6 May 10
Yes, using public transportation would mean a bit of extra time allotment because you really aren't in control of it. I don't like to be late for appointments, but I don't usually stress over it either.
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• Malaysia
5 May 10
Hi Reiny, Early before the appointment or family function is a good habit indeed. It just a matter of time, some people view it a 5 minutes before, some think 1 hour before. For myself, I guess 5-10 minutes would be the most appropriate indeed.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
6 May 10
I think that's about right also. I just don't like being a half hour early or so.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
5 May 10
I hate to be late to anything for any reason. i have always been this way. I would rather arrive early than to arrive late. it's just the way i am.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
6 May 10
My husband is the same way!
@evepin (721)
• Philippines
5 May 10
I try to get on time, but usually I am early, hahaha. I don't like waiting for late people, and since i follow the Golden Rule then I try my best not to be late in anything.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
6 May 10
I try not to be late, but I don't like to be too early either. On time works well for me!
• Philippines
6 May 10
TO avoid the rush and tension, I would go 15-20 minutes of the exact time.
@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
6 May 10
Yeah, that's not too bad.
• Malaysia
5 May 10
I will always try to be early, but not more than half an hour early. i think the best time to be early is ten to fifteen minutes earlier. however, if i am to attend something with my friends, most of the time we will be a little late for one to five minutes because we need to wait for everybody before we can go. it is annoying. :P
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
6 May 10
Yes, it would be annoying having to wait for people all the time. I try not to be late when people will have to wait for me.
@GardenGerty (157552)
• United States
4 May 10
When I was younger, I considered that 15 minutes early was "on time" and tried never to vary from it. Now, I run a lot like you, pretty close to time. If I am going to have to wait somewhere, or I choose to wait somewhere, I take along a book or some hand work to do so that I am putting the time to good use. Yes, my hubby gets antsy about some things and always wants to be early/on time, yet on other occasions he is the one making me late. Nothing even consistent there.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
6 May 10
It seems like my husband is always in a hurry to get there and wait. I have things to do around here instead of going somewhere and waiting. I do try to always be on time though!
@shiloh_222 (5479)
• Philippines
4 May 10
hi. in the mornings, sometimes it is since i am not a morning person. but once fully awake, i find it easy to move and not be late at all. happy mylotting
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
6 May 10
It takes me a while to get moving in the mornings also!
@nixxi76 (3191)
• Canada
4 May 10
I am always early when it comes to work and appointments. I'm always worried that traffic is going to be back and I don't want to leave a bad impression on people.. especually my job. I think in over the four years I've worked at my job I've been late once and that was ten minutes late only because I slept in. I was so stressed out for the rest of the day because of that and my co-workers told me to relax lol. If I'm going to a family or friend's function or just going over to visit and I say I'm going to be there at seven o'clock then I may be a bit late or whatever because I know it's not going to effect me in a negative way or lose anything. I think being a half hour early isn't a bad thing as long as the place is opened and you're not waiting in your vehicle. Sometimes I get ready too early and don't want to hang out around home and I am just impatient. I also like to arrive at places early so I don't get stared at by people watchers lol. I'm not one to be judged and it feels ackward going into a place where you have people staring all the time. Maybe it's my own thing? Have a nice day
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
6 May 10
I would always feel bad when we were showing up a half hour early while they were still trying to get last minute things together. I always felt like we were rushing them.
@viviya (88)
• China
5 May 10
I'm normally on time,sometimes a little late.If it's too early,I'd rather wait at home or go out to do some shopping to while away the time. I won't arrive 20minutes earlier if it's not necessary.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
6 May 10
I prefer to be on time than too early.
@pumared (514)
• Bulgaria
4 May 10
I always late for everything. I late for meething, diner....
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
6 May 10
You need to work on that :)
@Steinway (307)
• United States
5 May 10
For the most part, especially when it comes to work. I try to leave early enough to where I can get there on time. I don't like getting to work late or barely on time, it just ruins the sync of the day for me.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
6 May 10
Eh, I'm almost always late for work. It's not a big deal though, I end up staying later anyways.