being a mother...
@MaryTheIceCube (72)
United States
May 11, 2010 10:45am CST
For me, becoming a mother has been one of the biggest challenges, yet one of the most rewarding ones, of my life. My son just turned six and he's the love of my life. He's also turned out to be the biggest challenge of my life. Making me face my perceived inadequacies as a human being. I also find it very difficult at times to know what to do in order to do all I can to make sure that my son grows up to be a good, humble, kind individual. There are times when I am just appalled at some of the things he says and does (we're still going through a phase of him telling us lies, half-truths and stories to try and get out of getting into trouble for something he did). At other times, he's downright the most sweet kid on the planet. I do my best to set a good example to him as to how to live and how to treat our loved ones and ourselves. I can only hope that he will pick up on the example and live as good a life as possible. What are some of the challenges you've come across since becoming a parent?
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
11 May 10
Hi, MaryTheIceCube. You sound just like me when I think about being a mother. I have an 8 year old son and he is the sweetest little man on the earth. But there are times when he will talk back to me in a nasty way. He will fight his oldest sister and they have it out for so many things..
As soon as he gets home, it will be more noise and stress over me. I have to be on edge during this time. He helps me out, but sometimes he does not like picking up the mess that he has created on the floor. At school, is is being bullied and then he never tells the teacher because he is scared to. I am really working with him on telling the teacher anything that is said or done to him that is mean and that is meant to hurt or harm him. I am also telling him to please be responsible so that he won't forget to bring his big blue reading book at home on Wednesdays. I am going through it all. Just making sure that he gets to school on time and everyday. I do homework with him every night. Then I make sure that he gets a bath too. When he comes home from school, I am back up on my feet making sure that he is fed. I tell you, I am dealing with it all. From home, to the school, his teacher, his classmates and any other outside people that we all interact with in our daily lives. Plus, I have two daughters that throw tantrums when they get the chance. They are 2 and 4 years old. When all of my kids get together it is like an Iraq war!Being a mom has it advantages and disadvantages.But the best part is that at the end of the day, I love them all dearly.
Embrace your motherhood.
As soon as he gets home, it will be more noise and stress over me. I have to be on edge during this time. He helps me out, but sometimes he does not like picking up the mess that he has created on the floor. At school, is is being bullied and then he never tells the teacher because he is scared to. I am really working with him on telling the teacher anything that is said or done to him that is mean and that is meant to hurt or harm him. I am also telling him to please be responsible so that he won't forget to bring his big blue reading book at home on Wednesdays. I am going through it all. Just making sure that he gets to school on time and everyday. I do homework with him every night. Then I make sure that he gets a bath too. When he comes home from school, I am back up on my feet making sure that he is fed. I tell you, I am dealing with it all. From home, to the school, his teacher, his classmates and any other outside people that we all interact with in our daily lives. Plus, I have two daughters that throw tantrums when they get the chance. They are 2 and 4 years old. When all of my kids get together it is like an Iraq war!Being a mom has it advantages and disadvantages.But the best part is that at the end of the day, I love them all dearly. Embrace your motherhood.@MaryTheIceCube (72)
• United States
11 May 10
I think maybe it's a boy thing, the sweet one minute, nasty the next thing. Or maybe it's just a kid thing. Anyway, I've been doing my absolute best to be more patient with my son, take his nastiness less personally and just set the best example I can for him. I wish you the best of luck with your little ones. It sounds like you're a very busy mom, with 3 young ones! Maybe we can chat now and again about our kids, compare stories and laugh to relieve some of the stress now and again! :) Thanks for posting!
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
12 May 10
I really would love that! I need to vent sometimes. Life can be tough when they grow up and start learning new things. Sometimes, I feel like I am the only mother that has this much to do. And, it gets even tougher when my kids all get sick at the same time. I do it all. Oh yes, I do. Being a parent can be a bit of a struggle. I have to find time for myself so that I can relax and get back to the old me, before I even had kids. I know that you can relate to this. Welcome to myLot! I hope that you enjoy being here and discussing your many topics that you like to share.
@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
12 May 10
then i can say you are success...
for me the biggest challenge is whenever i have to stay calm whenever my kids makes me angry. or whenever they did bad and my responsibility to turn them to be good.
it is hard but when you can beat the challenge you will get satisfied so much.
for me the biggest challenge is whenever i have to stay calm whenever my kids makes me angry. or whenever they did bad and my responsibility to turn them to be good.
it is hard but when you can beat the challenge you will get satisfied so much.
@MaryTheIceCube (72)
• United States
12 May 10
Thank you!! Yes, my biggest challenge has been very much similar to yours. Whenever my son does something that makes me angry or upset, I have to try and remain calm and patient, and remember that he is only six. He has definitely been teaching me much too, in the way of patience. I thought I was a patient person until I had a child. Now, I can see just how impatient I can be at times. I'm working on changing this in myself in order to hopefully set an even better example for my son.
@oldchem1 (8132)
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11 May 10
I totally agree that becoming a mother is a huge challenge, but it is also very rewarding.
I have 5 children aged between 38 and 14, and each one of them has brought me a great deal of happiness - but also some heartache along the way.
The moment your first baby is handed to you your life is changed for ever.
It is then that you understand the animal instinct to protect your young no matter what.
With parenthood comes responsibility, it is up to yout to shape this tiny person in to a decent human being.
Enjoy your son's young years - they soon grow up
The moment your first baby is handed to you your life is changed for ever.
It is then that you understand the animal instinct to protect your young no matter what.
With parenthood comes responsibility, it is up to yout to shape this tiny person in to a decent human being.
Enjoy your son's young years - they soon grow up
@MaryTheIceCube (72)
• United States
11 May 10
Thank you for your response! You're right, the moment my son was born was the most life changing moment for me. I was no longer responsible for just myself. I have this very vulnerable young life for which I am responsible too. I take it as the biggest responsibility of my life, raising my son to be a good person, making sure he learns all he needs/wants to learn and helping him to avoid some of the mistakes I've made in my life. I very much enjoy spending time with him and even at his most challenging moments, I love him dearly!
@abhi000 (235)
• India
28 Jul 10
I agree with your point because becoming a mother has been one of the biggest challenges,yet one of the most rewarding ones.Once you have became a mother you have to take care of your property,family and etc.I feel that my challenges are my house work and to take care of children i found very trouble to became a mother.
@phoenix867 (182)
• India
29 Jul 10
To become a mother is not a easy task because we need to take all the responsibility being a mother.We have to play a very important role in the family.We have to do lots of house hold works.....
@nikkyme (30)
• Philippines
14 May 10
Hi Marytheicecube, first I congratulate you for being a mother and raising a 6 year old kid. I'm a single mom and I can say it's hard and at the same time a life changing experience for me. My son will turn 5mos on the 17th and I'm excited each and every single day of spending my life with him and learning from him as well. I admire people like you who were able to raised their kids very well and for me that's something no worth of money can buy. Some people says, mother's day should be celebrated everyday.Cheers:d
