what will you do if you are very angry

China
May 11, 2010 11:19pm CST
I am very angry this morning,and still very angry.Why did they treat me so bad? Our company had taken an order several days ago,a big order!And the price is also very good.But each boss wants to handle it,and my boss told me to take it and contact with the customer directly.I was so happy to operate a big order because it is the first time for me to do such kind thing. But after my discussion with our customer and request some file to another colleague,another boss scolded at me and told me that I should not butt in this order.OMG,I was driven to mad!!!What are they doing? How could the bosses do that!! So angry!What should I do to ignore this bad mood!!
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17 responses
@kykidd (6818)
• United States
17 May 10
Sometimes things like this happen that really upset us. But the thing to do is just smile. It will make people wonder what you are up to. If you can smile when things are really tough in life, and take this with a grain of salt, then you will go far. The bosses will look at you, expecting you to be upset, but instead they will see how well that you handled it. This will make you look better to everyone in your company. The word will get around that you have strong shoulders, and you will eventually be able to advance. Now, you are probably wondering, how do I smile in this situation...when I am thinking about how these bosses are handling it. Well, the trick is not to think about it. I know sometimes this is difficult, but if you can get it out of your head, and then think of something fun, something beautiful, you will be one of the strongest people in your company. Good luck to you Miranda!
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• China
17 May 10
Hi,Kykidd,thank you for your reply,which make me learn so much.I very appreciate your suggestions,Itis so kind of you! Just smile and stand strongly,let those who want to laugh at me disappointed.I will live a happy life and don't care what they thought! Thank you again.
@cleewlkr (160)
• Indonesia
13 May 10
i'll become quiet for some time and think about what should i do then i'll make a best response for my problem. human is a competitive being... so the another boss angry with you it's because they feel losing somehow maybe... just stay positive!
• China
13 May 10
Thank you for your response!Human is a very very competitive being,and also a complicated being! Just stay positive!
• China
13 May 10
The speed is so slow,several minitues have passed,but the response still didn't post.
@cleewlkr (160)
• Indonesia
13 May 10
yeah... maybe Mylot's server is having trouble... or maybe the user is actually "booming" in this site
@cloud31 (5810)
12 May 10
I used to be quiet when I'm angry,I turn my attention into something,like things that can entertain myself and try to forget the situation,what I usually do is to focus in some reading or either go for a walk somewhere which can attract my attention and my anger subsided gradually.Good day!
• China
12 May 10
Thank you for your response. Until now,I am not very happy yet,I didn't know how to handle this bad mood.so bad !
@cloud31 (5810)
12 May 10
You're welcome! Hope you will better soon,cheer up!
@cloud31 (5810)
12 May 10
*feel
@yumanal (143)
• China
13 May 10
Listening to the music,fresh and pure nature factions ,sat on the bed or a comfortable place.And meditation.Emptying your own feeling,slowly tune in to understand the nature. You will be ok soon.
• China
13 May 10
Yes,just like what you said,after one night's sleep,I feel better mow.Thank you for your reply. Anger is a harm emotion for our body and healthy,I wish I would get less and less angry in the future.
@cleewlkr (160)
• Indonesia
13 May 10
when you're angry, just look at a mirror and u'll say... what a stupid and ugly face
• New Zealand
12 May 10
when I'm angry I don't punch things , etc,etc. I'm the silent angry type. When I'm angry I start mumbling insults and generally demeaning the people I hate. While I'm doing this , I also start gnashing my teeth together and stare angrily at people. So I think the key to making you put this anger behind you is to simply release it in non destructive ways. Perhaps you should go home and write a letter to your boss about how bad he is , etc,etc but don't SEND it to him of course. Take a shower and just watch television to numb yourself as well. LMAo.
• New Zealand
12 May 10
Great idea :)
• China
12 May 10
Haha, if I've done such a fool thing,I will lose my job! But,to be honest,it is a great idea!
• China
15 May 10
listen to me.your boss is the most clever person in all the real story.let's have a see.there is only your boss who doesn't have a trouble in this conflict.yes,i think you replaced your boss to handle this big order.but nobody forces you to do it.this kind of your so-called bad mood isn't forever.next time you have right to choose not to deal with the similar things.
• China
17 May 10
Hi,Qujing,Thank you for your response.Undoubtly,the boss is the most cleve person,they always make us to do such kinds of things!I hate them!!hehe A fall into the pit,a gain in your wit!Next time,I will not do such a foolish thing again. Good luck,have a nice day !
• Philippines
13 May 10
When I am angry I usually find an outlet to let it out. It is better to find an outlet than just keep it because it could boil over in the future. In my case I use video games as my outlet. Ice cream also usually helps.
• China
13 May 10
After a night's sleep,now,I feel better.Sleep is a good way to ease my emotion. Thank you for your response.
@elvira1 (101)
• Philippines
12 May 10
Well, if I am at the peak of my anger and I really have to answer them, I'd say a piece, the very reason why I did it and excuse myself so I won't appear rude. To air our side at the peak of our anger would often lead us to say things that we might regret afterwards. When I have cooled down, I'd then air my side, and I believe that this should be the case. Well, of course, if I were in your case, I'd also inform my boss regarding the incident.
• China
13 May 10
Thank you for your response.I think I know what I should do to avoid this kind of thing happen again. And after a night's sleep,Now,I feel better~~
• Philippines
12 May 10
whenever im angry i dont talk and i dont want to talk to anyone or they will be the one to absorb my madness. if im already quite everybody knows already that im angry and i dont have the mood to talk to anyone, they know if im in good mood coz i smile whenever i saw someone and im the one who always talk to them firsthand. i cant ignore if im angry coz it affect my mood and my work and my relationship to other people, normally i just let it go tell i already feel fine.
• China
13 May 10
If I was in a big anger,I would keep silent and didn't speak a word.There is no friends in working office,you must control your mouth not to speak out something bad. After a night's sleep.I feel better,thank you,my friends.
• Philippines
12 May 10
what i do when i'm very angry and i can't contain myself is usually just burst into tears. :| but when i can contain myself i cover myself with a pillow and shout out loud.
• China
12 May 10
That is a better way good for our healthy.Sometime we need some way to vent our bad temper. Just do what you want,then you will have a healthy body.
@sarstime (39)
• China
12 May 10
First of all, life is struggling. Just face it. The best way to shift mood is doing something which really need focus on. Game, movie, music, etc.
• China
12 May 10
But it is in my working time,what can I do?Ganme,movie,music,none works,or else I will lose my job~~ Maybe I can try after work,thank you for your response~
@monkeylong (3146)
• Guangzhou, China
12 May 10
As far as I am concerned, I think I seldom get angry with others. But if the time I get angry with others, I think I will just stay myself in a very quiet place to enjoy mylsef. For me, I think tsay myself , I think I can think alot , and do as I want, then with some short time goes by, I think it will be OK for me. Then I can go back.
• China
12 May 10
I usually seldom get angry with others,too.But as long as I was angry with others,it will continue a long time,which truelly bothers me. Thank you for your reasponse.
@aprces (1082)
• China
12 May 10
Although we all know being angry is useless, but very often we can't control ourselves. I just can say typically intrigue against each other in China
• China
12 May 10
You are quite right!!Everyone intrigue against each other every seconds,as you know!That really bothers me much! Face it directly and conquer it,then you will live a quiet life,in my opinion.
@Zhizho (1351)
• Indonesia
12 May 10
wow, every people who faced like that must be angry and disappointed. But, just relax friend because maybe it's not right chance to you because the better thing will wait you. So, just thinking positif. If you still bad mood maybe you need take time to your self to be lonely.
• China
12 May 10
Yes,nothing so bad but might be a blessing!I know there will another chance for me to take orders. Thank you for your response.
• Philippines
12 May 10
just relax and revert your anger to another thing.. if that wont do try releasing it in your house punch a pillow and release your anger and you will feel a big relief.. hope that can help.. :)
• China
12 May 10
No help!I was annoyed yet.I even don't know what happeded. Nothing so bad but may be a blessing. Thank you for your reply!
• Philippines
12 May 10
What i usually do when im too mad is i try to cover my face with my pillow and then shout as much as i can. If im in the office I try to get used papers and then tear them down into small pieces. If not, i have a stress ball, ill squeeze it to release my anger.
• China
12 May 10
Maybe I need a stress ball,too.ANd I should have one which can be beated when I am not happy.heh Thank you for your first response.
• India
23 May 10
I think one should deal with costumers in a very cool manner, because an irritated costumer can spoil so many other costumers, about me i am normally not angry, you may call be a cool person, but if i am angry, then one must have the courage to face me.. Thanks for sharing. Welcome always. Cheers. Prof