Mother’s day and the sons

Hello my friend Professor2010 Ji, What you have expressed after your eep feelings, myself alongwith my hubby support, and we are very sure tha nature would never spare those charcterless persons, when time comes for them . They will also be left in some of the homes. I wish to bring out what as a parent wish from our children :- [b]PARENT’S WISH 1. On the day when you see us old, weak and weary…… Have patience and do try to understand us……. 2. If we get dirty when eating…and.. If we cannot dress on our own… Please bear with us and remember the times we spent feeding you and dressing you up. 3. If, when we speak to you, we repeat the same things over and over again… do not interrupt us… listen to us. When you were small, we had to read to you the same story a thousand and one times until you went to sleep. 4. When we do not want to have a shower, neither shame us ,nor scold us….. Remember when we had to chase you with your thousand, excuses to get you to the shower? 5. When you see ignorance of new technologies, help us navigate our way through these world wide webs. “ We taught you how to do so many things –to eat the right foods, to dress appropriately, to fight for your rights.” 6. When at some moments , we loose memory or thread of our conversation, let us have the necessary time to remember and if we can not , do not become nervous. “ As the most important thing is not the our conversation, but simply to be with you and to have you listening to us.” 7. If ever we do not feel like eating , do not force us. We know well, when we need to and when not to eat. “When our tired legs give way and do not allow us to walk without a cane, lend us your helping hand the same way we did when you tired your first faltering steps.” 8. And when some day we say to you, we do not want to live anymore that we want to die … “ Do not get angry for one day you will understand . Try to understand us that our age is not just to live , but survive. 9. Some das you will realize that despite our mistakes , we always wanted to do best for you prepare wing for you. “ You must not feel sad , angry , not ashamed for having us near you. Instead try to understand us and help us like we did , when you were young”. 10. Help us to walk, help us to live rest of our life with love and dignity. “ We will pay you with smile and by the immense love, we have always had for ou in our hearts” “ WE LOVE YOU CHILD”[/b] May God bless You and have a great time.

yes we doing we have old folks homes and assistant living homes. My mom wanted to go to assistant living home and that is where she is altho I wanted her to come live with me she refused. My brother and his wife go every other day to visit and get her clothes to wash. My brother calls me so I can talk to mom and we visit sometimes along time but mostly short times and she might not remeber that she has talked to me till days later. I will get to see her wehn I go up there in June for family reunion I and grand daughter go up every year they live over 500 miles from me so takes about 10 hours to drive it. And I think that we pay way to much for no more than they do for her. AS differnt people come in to take vitals and bath her and get her dressed for the day pay for that ourselfs. all they do for mom there is a room with a bed in it she has her own chair little fridge and a tv she dont watch to often and they cook and bring her to the dinning room thats it. BUt a grand kids go visit her to and ya can go anytime of the day to see her which is good. They had a 90th birthday party there last month and she said that she did enjoy all of the kids and her party. She also sleeps most of teh time

My parents would complain about this when we was younger; Don't leave me in no nursing home, etc etc. Well, I kept my promise to my father; No lie. My mom, she had to go into one for three weeks just to get her therapy from her stroke. And though it seems as though we forever getting into it and butting heads, I STILL wont put her in one if she don't need to be there. plain and simple.

Hi Professor! Yes, we do have these kind of homes here in the USA and some of them are not very nice places. I promised my Mom that she would never be in one of them! She is 80 years old and thankfully she is very healthy and is still able to live alone and get around and go out with her friends! In fact, she is in better health than I am! But, it is sad to know that if someone has room and a home that they would put their parents in a home, but that is the way it is here in the USA too! Children don't want to be "bothered" with elderly parents when they have their own family to take care of! And it is very sad and selfish! I guess it is more common than I thought if you are saying that it is done in your country too~

My grandmother never had to live any portion of her life in a nursing home. When she started to have struggles with her health my mother (her only living child) brought her down here to live with us. We took care of her and she took care of us, in the short months that she lived with us I learned more from her and came to love her more than I had ever done in the previous 25 years of my life. She had a realtionship with her only great-grandchild at the time (my daughter) that few children have the opportunity to share with their great-grandparents. Though it was a hard time in our lives, it was also a beautiful time in our lives. I know that when my mother gets older, I will do everything in my power to make sure that she never has to spend a day of her life in a retirement home either.

Those mothers might be thinking that why did they give birth to such son. This is absolutely wrong, I never expect anyone leaving their mother in oldage house. This is not done. As you said, they are being watched by their son and very soon that fruit will be matured and they will be at receiving end.

As far as there are some medical ailments, they can be given excuse for it depends on their personal lives whether they can afford or not...but the ones who leave them just like that for the sake of their wives or children or because of some other reason, i sincerely feel God will defntly teach them good lessons and make them repent for the things they did

I feel the same way with you. I feel so sad for these old people who are left behind by their children. Money or any material things cannot make them happy. At this stage, they need love and care. That's what matters most. We have also some home for the aged here in my country but not so common. Traditionally, we take care of our parents when they get old and we do love them so much. We are strong family oriented. We never let each other separated. So, i really pity those old people who are stuck in a boring homes.

There are old age homes in my country, but mostly people keep their old people in their home. A middle class family can afford to appoint a nurse or maid to take care of the old father or mother. Not many people will leave their parents in old age homes. Most of the people who work abroad keep their prents in the same home with servants.

dear professor, the thought of a home for the elderly is very sad. but without those, what will happen to this poor old people abandoned by their own flesh and blood? i cannot allow my mother to stay in one. all of us, her siblings thinks this way. she has been the best person anyone can have.. her children are very lucky. we will take care of her until the very end. ann

hi friends It is very bad feeling that you shared with us. But it is true it happen all over world. I have feeling to help out these old people but unable to help them. Because I am help less I am trying to perform my duty only to look after my parents. Thanks buddy. Wish u a happy and nice day.

Pretty sad!!A son can be a bad son,but a mother can never be a bad mother. We,as children of our parents and parents of our children,we should do better,and make our parents live happy and give children a good sample.