When a friend rejects you do you come to know about it?
By kiran8
@kiran8 (15348)
Mangalore, India
May 12, 2010 6:54am CST
I was reading a discussion about friends on mylot and about being banned by friends, it got me thinking.Honestly I may never know if a friend who I have not had much interaction with , were to desert me.We all seem to have hundreds of friends and some of them are for name sake only but some others become close to you because of the constant interaction.If one among the closer circle were to desert me I would know about it, but otherwise it is difficult to keep a count on this...what do you all say friends? do you keep a count on all your friends ? and when they ban you does it make you feel bad?
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@mysdianait (66005)
• Italy
12 May 10
We receive a notifier when a friend requests us but we do not receive one when/if they later delete us.
If someone on my list should decide to delete me from theirs then I don't give it any thought at all. If they feel happier not having me on their list then I am happy for them too 
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
12 May 10
Yes diana , since we don't come to know about a friend deserting us it really does not seem to matter...It is as you say to be left to the individual, whether he/she wants to retain me or not.But honestly I have never ever deleted a friend from my profile ...Thanks a lot for your response 
@mysdianait (66005)
• Italy
12 May 10
I haven't either but there might be a first time one day soon. I have one who floods with too many discussions and that is reason for them to vanish 
How we treat our list is a very individual thing
How we treat our list is a very individual thing @kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
12 May 10
LOL talking about flooding , it is hilarious to read the topics one of my friends (namesake) comes up with...I admire his/her perseverance and single mindedness .The other day I could see no one else's discussion in the first 2 pages LOL
I was thinking for how long will this go on?
I was thinking for how long will this go on?
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 May 10
if it was somebody I talk to regularly, sure I'd notice and feel bad about it
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
14 May 10
Yes thats true, I would feel the same. I also would be very doubtful if anyone from my close circle of friends would do that unless there is a valid reason.If you have not interacted with others it is difficult to know whether you are on or not..Have a great weekend dawnald
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
13 May 10
Hi Kiran,
I think there is no chance to know about it until we check his/her profile. I have more than 400 people in my list and I don’t get any idea if anybody deletes me. I am getting notification of my friends in my mailbox and if an active member get inactive then I may get a clue but if he/she delete me then no way to get the information. You are right, if a familiar member deletes then we can understand it but it may happen very rarely. In my opinion, we don’t want to know about if anybody delete us because it will definitely hurt. 
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
13 May 10
Yes Sreekala, thats what I too would think, when you have a large number of friends on your list, it is difficult to know who has left unless you are close to someone and she/he happens to delete from his /her friend list....thanks a lot for your response and have a great evening and happy mylotting
@yugasini (12892)
• Secunderabad, India
12 May 10
hi kiran,
do not worry,once again that friend will come to you,that is common,here we find so many friends,if we loose one friend we get more best friends here,long back i have posted a discussion,which was published and i have received some against about the discussion,one friend of me,he said ,he never respond my discussion,but after 6 months once again he started to reply my discussions,have a nice day
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
13 May 10
Hi yugasini, you have misunderstood my question.I am not worried about any friend leaving.I was just enquiring whether we would come to know about it and does it really matter? It is of course an individuals choice whether he/she likes to be friends or not and has the freedom to leave when and if he/she wants - all the best yugasini and have a great evening
