My cousin pretended that she didn't hear me knocking at her front door.

@cream97 (29087)
United States
May 12, 2010 12:19pm CST
I called my 1st cousin one night to ask her if she would not mind giving me a ride so that I can take my son to school, the very next morning. She lives right next to me, in the next apartment complex. My son's school is about 3 minutes in driving. So, she just told me to call her, the next morning. And I did. She never picked up her cell phone. I called and left a message for her. But she never returned my phone call. So, it was getting closer to the time that my son had to be to school, so I kind of got nervous, because I did not want him to be so late getting to school. So, I told my son to come on and let us both walk over to her apartment. And we did. I knocked on her front door. And I stood there hoping that she was on her way to answer it. I knocked every two or three minutes. And she still never came to the door. And then all of a sudden, I heard a little girl whine and that let me know that this was her daughter. The sound came from the inside of her apartment. I asked my son if he heard that and he said yes, that it sounded like a baby making noise. I even called her on my cell phone while I was standing outside of her door. I was hoping that she would hear her cell phone ring and would pick it up, but she did not pick it up. I knocked when I heard her little girl, but still no one came to the door. Hearing her daughter assured me that someone was up in her apartment. After I knocked, I did not hear anymore noise. So. I finally gave up knocking and I told my son to come on so I could walk him to school. I wanted my cousin to take us, because it was very cold outside that morning. It had to be in the mid 40s. And my son would have gotten to school much faster, had he been driven by car, instead of walking by foot. I walked him and I got him to school, but he was tardy. I know that my cousin never told me that she would have done this favor for me. But she gave me the impression that she was going to. My husband could not take him to school, because he was on medication that had him drowsy from having surgery on his gums. So, I had to find a way to get our son to school. When my husband was sick with the stomach virus she agreed to take him to school that morning. So she has previously done a favor for me before. She is my cousin. I considered myself to be close to her. I used to spend the nights with her when I was a little girl. I was always so nice to her. When her brother called her stupid, she would start crying and I would take up for her. I would step in and try to calm her by saying that she was not stupid and that she should not pay her brother any attention. I know that she is married and all. And I hope that her husband did not tell her to not take me anywhere. All both of their cars were sitting in the parking lot when I was knocking on their door. I know that she heard me. So since then, I have not called and talked to her since March. Even if she could not take me to take my son to school that morning, she could of at least dropped by, called me on my home telephone or my cell phone. I am sure that she has my numbers because she has Caller ID. It was just no excuse. I did not appreciate her dismissing me like this. If she could not do the favor, she could have at least, told me no. That way, I could have found another way for my son to get to school and he would not have been so late getting their either. With her lack of communication, it resulted into my son being late for school, and us both having to walk in the cold weather. I am thinking the whole time as I am walking him to school, did she even care that she stood me up??
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9 responses
@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
12 May 10
You just never know what goes through people's heads. She may not have even heard you ask about her taking your son to school. She may have been thinking about something else and not listening. She may have had her phone off. And just because you nice and thoughtful of her when younger doesn't necessarily mean she is the same way or even thankful to you for it. People are mostly out of themselves now days and it is rather rare to find people who are thoughtful or kind. I hate the kind too that are sweet to your face and then could care less.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
12 May 10
Hi, celticeagle. Yes, she heard me very clearly because she told me to call her back the next morning about taking my son to school. She has a tendency to tell me to call her back when I would ask a favor from her. It really made me sad to know that she could careless that I really needed a huge favor from her at that time.
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@celticeagle (159058)
• Boise, Idaho
12 May 10
I am sad for you as well. To know that you have family members that would treat you this way. I have a similar situation with my daughter and I have had to back away to some extent because of her attitude.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
12 May 10
I am with you on this. Sometimes we have to back away from our family members just to keep from verbally or physically going off on them. And we have to put some distance away from them because they are not worthy of of time. No matter how sad it may seem.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
19 May 10
Well Cream, all I can say is that she was not nice doing this like you say she just had to say that she can't do it instead of ignoring you like that That is awful specially because it was more for your little Boy then for yourself I am sorry she did this to you and I hope she regrets doing it
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
13 May 10
hi cream so many people seem not to have learned courtesy to others when their parents were rearing them. If she had some problem and could not take him to school, she should have let you know at once so you could make other arrangements. that was most thoughtless of her. I know at times a person finds he or she cannot keep a promise but that does not give them the right to not inform the person they made the promise to why they cannot keep it. You are right,it did sound like she just did not care thats so sad.
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
18 May 10
That is very rude! And to think that she is your cousin. Whatever her reasons were for not bringing you and your kid to school that day, she still owed you an explanation. Maybe to say 'not today' at that very moment when you were knocking. Or later that day considering that she also just lives next door to you. I wouldn't blame you for not talking to her anymore.
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• India
13 May 10
It was indeed very rude of her to do such a thing She could have atleast informed u abt her position If she was in some kind of trouble,then she could have informed u Hereafter u don't depend upon her n try to be independent
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@Nessa314 (58)
13 May 10
Well there could be numerous reason as to why she didn't answer your call or your knocks that particular day. But what strikes me as really odd is that she didn't bother to call you later on that day or even the next and apologize or come clean to you regarding why she couldn't do it. If she was close to you irrespective of what the reason was (her husband or in laws or anyone or anything else), she would have told you why she couldn't do it. I know you must be hurting right now. You were right in not keeping in touch with her, especially if she has done the same sort of thing repeatedly. This sort of behaviour was uncalled for. If I were you I would have felt bad, but isn't it better to focus on the people who actually care about you and appreciate that you are there for them? it's been a long enough time. So I would say let your hair down and forget about her. Make some new friends and forget about this one.
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
12 May 10
That was rude of her to do this to you. So I take it this was back in March? Has she not said anything to you or you to her since? You need to talk to her about it first of all, just to see what her excuse, whether it is reasonable or not. Then go from there.
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
13 May 10
Well it's definitely your cousin's fault, since she already gave u her word the other night.. UNless, she din confirm it with u, but only asked to call back the next day again?? IF so, then u cant be blaming your cousin, since nothing is confirmed at all.. Sometimes, being married and being single, are very much different.. Just like when your husband asked u not to do anything, would u not listen to him, and come back to face a angry face for rest of the day?? I dun think so right?? PLus, with the way u are treating her so nicely in the past, i guess she wont wanna stand u up on purpose as well..
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
12 May 10
What she did was uncalled for. Even if she had every intention of taking you and your son to his school and then found out she couldn't for whatever reason, she still should have called you. Things come up so if it was something that came up that very morning, if she couldn't answer the phone the least she could have done was answer your knock. This is the way I feel, even if her husband told her not to take you and your son to his school for whatever reason, she still could've lied and said "oh something came up" instead of just standing you up.
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