Did any of your friends parents disapprove of you when you were younger?

@Wizzywig (7847)
May 12, 2010 5:08pm CST
One of my good friends (who I'm still in contact with 45years on) told me that her mum didnt want her to hang round with me because I looked "like a little tart". This was because my mum had curled my hair - she hadn't had any problem with me when my hair was straight & everyone else mum quite liked me because I was quite quiet and well-mannered (as, of course I still am )... and yes, my friend did have natural curls which looked very similar. Were you the kid that everyone's mum told them to avoid or were they all happy for their kids to hang round with you?
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 May 10
Other than one friend who stopped hanging around me after I accidentally sneezed on her ( my hands were full of school books), I'm not aware of any...
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
14 May 10
She said her parents wouldn't let us be friends. To this day I wonder if that was true or just an excuse...
@Wizzywig (7847)
14 May 10
maybe its true... maybe itsnot
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@Wizzywig (7847)
14 May 10
Was that her choice or her parents'? Sounds like an over-reaction anyway... unless she got covered in snot - even still, a bit harsh.
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@oldchem1 (8132)
13 May 10
Unbelievably i was a 'good girl', and my friends parents thought that I was a good influence on their daughters!! Little did they know!! The quiet ones can be hiding all sorts below that veneer - like arranging for us to hitch hike ( yes HITCH HIKE!!) to New Brighton to go to the Radio Caroline Roadshow, or arranging for us to 'go revising ' at a friends house when in fact we were going to see P J Proby in Liverpool!! Happy days!!!!!
@Wizzywig (7847)
14 May 10
"Biddies rule ok!"
@Wizzywig (7847)
13 May 10
Now there's a name from the past... I lived between Colchester & Clacton so, comparatively close to Radio Caroline. A friend of mine was on the "Kiss in the Car" feature one night! Those were the days, my friend, - we thought they'd never end..... & they haven't really have they?
@oldchem1 (8132)
13 May 10
Ah no, not while us 'biddies' are around!!
@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
12 May 10
99% of my friends' families thought I was perfect. Any place I could go, they could go.(Mistake) My parents really trusted me, and I went everywhere, but did not get too wild. My choice. I did have one friend who thought I looked like a dirty hippie, though, and my boyfriend as well because he had a beard.
@GardenGerty (157551)
• United States
12 May 10
My antique wire framed glasses and granny skirts did not help much.
@Wizzywig (7847)
14 May 10
Sounds perfectly ok and normal to me
@Wizzywig (7847)
12 May 10
Oh no.... not a beard.... well, he MUST have been a hippie then
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@ElicBxn (63235)
• United States
14 May 10
beats me - I would imagine that they probably didn't have a problem with me
@Wizzywig (7847)
14 May 10
I guess that, if it wasn't obvious, they didnt.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
13 May 10
i was the one friend that my friend parnets only liked and he was allow to hang out with me and come over my house. his parents was very strict, dad was a pastor, so i guess they figure since i went to church very sunday i was a good kid. they are wrong
@Wizzywig (7847)
13 May 10
You mean you weren't the good influence they thought you were??? Bad syankee em]devil[/em]
• United States
13 May 10
yeah pretty much.. but i was always well manner around them
@RawBill1 (8531)
• Gold Coast, Australia
15 May 10
I can remember as a teenager my mum saying that she thought a friend of mine was a bad influence on me. It did not stop me being friends with him though. We drifted apart as we became adults but recently re-connected through Facebook and he has grown into a very nice adult who has done well for himself. He is not the ratbag kid that he was! Similarly, there were friends of mine who were brothers and their mum did not like me much for some reason. Probably because I was friends with some of the other kids that she saw as being bad eggs! I only found out late in my teens that their mum did not like me and thought I was a bad influence on her kids! I have not seen them since I was a teenager and have no idea how they turned out as adults, but our parents still bump into each other occasionally as they still live in the same houses one street away from each other.
@Wizzywig (7847)
15 May 10
Its good that you've reconnected with an old friend. I haven't found a single 'lost' friend thru Facebook - each time I look, there seems to be so many people with the same name and people dont always have their own picture in their profile (& I probably wouldn't recognise schoolfriends now anyway) Come to think of it, they probably wouldn't recognise me from either my penguin profile or the picture i have here... Maybe I should upload my school photo? (Oh, maybe not!!)
@RawBill1 (8531)
• Gold Coast, Australia
16 May 10
It was good to reconnect with him and then catch up in real life even though we live 800 kilometres apart. Through his profile I managed to reconnect with some others too. One of them I have managed to meet up with in real life about a year ago also. Yeah, putting some school photos up as a profile picture is not good! I have an album on my profile called embarrassing childhood photos, so people can see who I am from their memory of me as a kid.
• Philippines
13 May 10
Im lucky that my parents didnt disapprove any of my friends. They might be choosy to who I befriends with but they trust me that much. They trust me that I know how to choose friends, good friends.
@Wizzywig (7847)
13 May 10
I tended to feel that way about my sons' friends. They were sensible enough to judge for themselves whether to go along with what others suggested etc
@angelajoy (1825)
• Philippines
13 May 10
No one ever said it to my face, but I'm guessing there were parents of my friends who didn't approve of me. I was a little bit aggressive when I was young. (I still am, as a matter of fact.) When I got bit older, adults started to think that I was the perfect teenager. I don't know why. They seemed to think I was very well behaved.
@Wizzywig (7847)
13 May 10
Maybe all your friends got a lot worse in their teenage years so you seemed 'perfect' in comparison
@ypyanyan (956)
• China
13 May 10
I never encount it before . I can understand the parents . they do everything which is good for us . we should tolerate them . we can change this attitude by our effort. Come on !!!!
@Wizzywig (7847)
13 May 10
The woman had never spoken to me beyond "Hello" and I certainly gave her no reason to think badly of me by my actions. She did give in later and when I stayed over at their house, we got on really well.
@evepin (721)
• Philippines
13 May 10
none that i know of! i've had very nice and cordial relationships with my friends' parents. Whenever I see them I greet them and all, even when I see them at the malls or in any other places (even when they're not with my friend). I guess they are happy that i'm friends with their kids! That's kinda mean, disapproving you as a friends because of how you looked. i wouldn't want any parent to be like that!
@Wizzywig (7847)
13 May 10
Yes, its not like my personality and character changed overnight & the curls were very short-lived since my hair doesnt curl well. I got on well enough with her afterwards.
• Philippines
13 May 10
Hi! Nope my friends' parents always liked me. There are a lot of times when my name was used in an excuse to go out. In fact, a friend told me that when she wanted to be allowed to go somewhere, like a party, and she didn't want to do a lot of begging, she'd just tell her parents that I'd be there. I guess it's because I look so serious and responsible. Must be the glasses I wear. Haha! They don't know that I was usually the first one to start drinking and unwind when my friends and I go out. But I have to say that I've never really did anything so crazy that made me hate myself afterwards. So I guess my friends' parents' trust in me is not wasted.
@Wizzywig (7847)
13 May 10
Well, its always good to be trusted.The only time anyone's parents didnt like me was this lady who disapproved of my curled hair - and it only stayed curled for a few hours!
• India
13 May 10
I was a good boy from my child hood. Never used to reach out for bad things. But there were times when we used to play games a lot. I used to study well and disturb other of my friends. So parents used to be happy to see me when i used to help me but when playing we were unstoppable
@Wizzywig (7847)
13 May 10
It sounds as though they probably liked you most of the time but now and again, you did things they didnt like.
@alocure (370)
• United States
12 May 10
yes i have had friends where my parents didnt like them at all because they think they are a bad influence for me and my sister i mean where all just friends we are all different am not like them and neither is my sister but i still keep in contact with a few every now and then but i dont let them come to house because their might be some tension around us
@Wizzywig (7847)
12 May 10
I think thats probably best - not letting them come to the house. I remember being out with my sister-in-law (before she was my sister-in-law) & we met some of her friends. She asked me not to mention that we'd seen them to her mum.
• United States
12 May 10
Naw that never happened. I use to be such a kiss a** to my friends parents whenever I use to see them. But when they would turn around, I would rule the world and they didnt know a thing. There was this one time though when I found a pack of matches when I was smaller and we lit them up, threw them on the ground, and stepped on them. During that time, I use to live in Florida and my friend had a little tree house. So, we ended up burning it down. Once we saw the flames were getting bigger. We ran like crazy. When they asked who did it, I said it was my friend and I was unaware that the pack of matches was still in my hand. So, from that day on, I wasn't allowed to play with him anymore.
@Wizzywig (7847)
12 May 10
Hmm, yeah, I think i might have reservations about having someone round who set light to the place but, I would think you'd both probably have learnt a lesson there and wouldn't mess with matches again so it seems a shame you weren't allowed to play.
• United States
12 May 10
friends parents always think im awkward or quite...and others think im a troublemaker and a little too loud and out there...so i guess i have two persona's neither liked by parents ha
@Wizzywig (7847)
12 May 10
Maybe its a parents job to dislike their kids friends.... tho' I cant think of any of my sons' friend that I had any problem with.