when you broke up, do you say you want to help your partner after the break up?
By jingbautista
@jingbautista (2456)
Philippines
3 responses
@markleob (1902)
• Philippines
14 May 10
i always do.. hhaa i dont know why but when i broke up or was broken up, i dont quit just right there, i will try to save the relationship. if, it could not be saved then a break up would occur. inspite of that, i am still open to the ex and are willing to help whatever she wanted to as long as i can do it...
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@jingbautista (2456)
• Philippines
15 May 10
Well, we don’t have the same case in this matter. We are so different. As a matter of fact, I tried not to talk and even with communication, I don’t do it anymore. It would just make the wound so painful at times. As for me, when it is done, a total lost of communication or anything like that. I couldn’t just bear the pain for whatever reason there is. It wasn’t easy for me to be doing such. And there are a lot in me that is involved when I am in pain. A lot of negativities and a lot more. hehe
@amyiceman (63)
• China
14 May 10
I'm a little confused about the "break up".
is that a relationship broke up or just business partner?
if it is a relationship, i will say i will help him/her.
Take my experience as an example, i broke up with a boy several years ago. i dumped him. he was very upset at that time. we were still friends for a while. and one day, he told me he liked another girl but he do not know her phone number. Guess what, I asked that girl's number and gave it to him. Then, they became friends.
We were both happy, coz I do not need to feel bad about dumping him and he had a new relationship.
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@jingbautista (2456)
• Philippines
15 May 10
Well, that is nice that you both end up well and that is nice to hear that you are helping each other out. It is not that easy though for me. I have hard time coping up with the drastic changes I am facing right now. It wasn’t easy breaking up. And it was so painful.
@JJ4Ever (4693)
• United States
14 May 10
I have never broken up with a boyfriend because I only dated one guy, and he is now my husband! However, if I ever had had a relationship in the past, I could answer your question hypothetically. I probably would've tried to help my ex after our break up because that is my nature. I would've hated to break up and felt so bad like I owe him something. Of course, it also would depend on our reason for breaking up. If I were looking deep within myself, I would know that I couldn't offer to help out my ex after we broke up because I would be weak and probably end up dating again. I know that wouldn't be the best for me since we would've broken up for a reason in the first place...it's probably not best if we were to get back together anyway. I hope this helps if you're going through something. If not, then I hope it makes for good discussion! (LOL) Have a wonderful day.
@jingbautista (2456)
• Philippines
15 May 10
I am really going to something. Hehe. But you are certainly right. What you just shared has something nice in it. But as for me, I could not bear it. It wasn’t that easy. And as for me, I am just so weak with it. And to be helped by someone especially with my ex is really being my weakness. And I could not be helped at this time for I am so open with so many negativities in my life. I am at more worst at this time. 
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@JJ4Ever (4693)
• United States
18 May 10
I'm sorry to learn that you're going through such a tough time. What I've always heard people say is to do the right thing - do what you know is right in your heart. You know what is good and what is wrong. I've also heard it said that it won't be easy, but it'll be worth it. I don't know specifically what you're going through, but know this, that you are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope all works out for the best in your life. Thanks also for Best Response. I really appreciate your thoughtfulness. Please do let us know when everything turns out well! Thanks again, my friend.
