letting go...

Philippines
May 18, 2010 5:17am CST
my daughter last week turned a year old. and after a day or so my wife and I had a dispute and it went sour. We separated, I am now living in my parent's house and she's living with her mom and siblings with my daughter. She said that she doesn't respect me anymore and I can feel that the love is gone too. Shall I fight for it just because of our daughters sake or shall I let go? If you were in my shoes is it worth fighting for to fight for someone that doesn't love you anymore. I still love her and I would like to give another try. It's just that I am not sure if she wants me back.
11 responses
@charylady (419)
• Philippines
18 May 10
it's normal for married couples to have disagreements. maybe this is one of those times when you just have to give each other some time and space to let off steam. i'm assuming that you are still a young couple starting a family; you both ran back to your parent's house after the dispute. you should both let things cool down then have a good talk. a good marriage is something you work at everyday.
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@rizzu87 (860)
• Malaysia
18 May 10
I think you should let it go. Maybe you can talk to your wife and solve the problem between you and her. You get this life once, and i believe that we love only one person in the life. Like if you really love her then talk about it, one fight cant get over your love. Try solving the dispute rather than creating it more.
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• India
18 May 10
lETTING GO MEANS L E T G O Go it is letting EGO go It is a very personal matter and both willing a second try is a must because if it does not work you are where you were and if it does work then you have all the pleasure to be enriched with love in life Giving a try shall absolve you of the repentant remorse that may be if a try was not given Give a try for the sake of a loving daughter let ego go and see the fun and love flowing it is real letting go....!!!!
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@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
18 May 10
maybe she needs some little time to think about. give it to her, then when she got better you should approach her as well. it is really worth to fight cause you had a daughter. if you letting go, i could not imagine how your daughter grows without you.wish you luck
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18 May 10
If you dont love each other anymore, then trying to make a relationship work just for the sake of the child would be unfair on yourselves and the child!!! The relationship will only break down again but this time it may be in 10 years when it will affect the child even more! If the relationship really does have a chance, then yes give it another go, but if it is over...it's over I am afraid
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@mjanakha (479)
• United Arab Emirates
18 May 10
Dear friend Call her and talk with her. It will be just a matter of misunderstanding. As you are still loving her your wife too will be in the same stage. Your daughter has just turned one year. Its not good to depart now. Quarrels are usuals in a married life. Let it not grow. Best of luck for a happy life.
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@djoyce71 (2511)
• Philippines
22 May 10
Every child needs parents that would guide him/ her in growing up. You should always think of your child's welfare before your own. My suggestion is try to talk to her and work things out.
@med889 (5941)
18 May 10
You should be giving it a try again for your daughter because she is so small to understand that mom and dad are not together, I saw many couples like yours who gave it a try and found out it was the best solution, If I were you I would have definitely be giving a try for my daughter.
@maxyl12 (236)
• Philippines
18 May 10
What a pain. Really, am sorry for a sad story. For my point of view, as a man or as a father. I don't mind my wife will not love me. But never she will let me stay away for my child because its my child also. And its my right as a father. If she does not want me to be with my child. That would mean trouble. I will not let her in her ways.
• United States
18 May 10
The word relationship means more then one. The word love is impossible if there is not a second person. In my opinion you should move on. Remember that saying if she/he comes back that means she was always yours? That saying is very true, and it definitely applies in this case. Let her go. Focus on your daughter and do whats right by her at all cost. That really should be your only and main focus. You can do bad all by yourself. You will be with a person that doesn't want you around, just for your daughter for what? To find out that she is sleeping with someone else? Then what? I say move on! Kathy
• India
19 May 10
i think for the sake of child you both should compromise with each other,give her a chance because for a child mother and father both are important,and fighting is a part of life,and you both have to make a good future of your daughter