Do You ever cry when your work mate resign from the office?

Indonesia
May 20, 2010 8:04am CST
Well just today, in the morning, i see one of my friend in the office cry. When i ask her, she said that her friend will resign from the office. Her Friend got a better job and decide to take that chance. My friend feel a big loss because she feel loose one of her best friend. But she also happy because her friend can make a better life. For me, although i am sad if one of my workmate resign, but i actually never cry for them. I know they will have a better life, also, since all of my friend that are resign from the office actually resigned because they have found a better job, it's another reason for me not to cry. I always think, that friendship is bigger than workplace, so i can still connect to my friend even if we now work for a different company. In with current technology and social network site, it become more easier to keep connected. How about you? Do you feel sad that you have to cry, do you feel sad but not crying, or it is not affected you at all. Thanks for responding.
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• Boston, Massachusetts
6 Jun 10
Hi Lord, I feel sad but not to the extent of crying. i will surely miss the company and the interaction we had while working as a team. a wish of good luck and good health will be my prayers for whoever leaves the company.
• Indonesia
7 Jun 10
Well yes, off course when some one resign, most of their ex workmate will hope good thing to happend to their friend. They will pray for the success of their friend. Especially if their friend make a farewell party, it will make sure that people will say and pray good thing for him / her. Thanks.
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@atv818 (1987)
• United Arab Emirates
22 May 10
I cry when my office mate is my best friend and is leaving the company. Feel saddened when an somebody resigns, whether best friend or not, because they became a part of your life be it one way or the other. They take away a part of us when they leave. It is selfish for us if we ask them to stay. We just wish them luck and hope they keep in touch with us.
• Indonesia
23 May 10
Yes, it will be very selfish if we ask our resigned friend to stay. Because they resigned and choose other company because they want to make a better life. And by asking them to stay, we ask them not to have a better life. So i think the best thing to do is to let them go. Thanks.
@evepin (723)
• Philippines
21 May 10
yes! i really get sentimental when a colleague resigns and leaves our company. i tend to shed a tear or two whenever we have a little get together as a "goodbye" affair for each of those who leaves. actually, i really have very shallow tears and i get emotional quickly. cheers and happy myLotting!
• Indonesia
22 May 10
Well it is okay to be a sentimental person. It is also show that you are really care for some one, although people might become hard to leave you, but it also make them happy since they know they have a person that really care about them. Thanks for sharing it with us.
@rhinarea (311)
21 May 10
i don't think i will cry, yes i will be sad, but its not the end of our friendship even though she resigned from work.
• Indonesia
21 May 10
Yes you are right, when some one resigned or assigned to another branch or moving to other company, it is not we ending our friendship, it just that we are not as close as before in term of geographic location. Our friend will be more than that. It is strong, so i think, it is ok not to cry.
@annavi23 (6298)
• Philippines
21 May 10
hi lord, i have experienced working in different kinds of jobs and for me as a contractual,there will always have a time to let go of a certain person you learned to care the most. it's really hard to say goodbye,of course but this is life. we have to accept things on our own. people do come and go and live for the best we could. certainly,i have experienced working with someone i really enjoyed to be with. we became really close but she was one of the people who did not last long to our company. it's really hard for me not to be with her anymore. i felt my tears but try to hide it in a way. like you said,they will have a better life working in a new place a start again.we should face reality in return...
• Indonesia
21 May 10
Well thanks for sharing this experience. As for me, i work in the same company for almost four years now, and i never resign and work some place else, although in my college years i work for one project to another and meet with many different person, some even become a good friend. But as the time the project is over, we separated and i don't feel like crying at all. I think it was fun, and we can still connected, so what the use of tears. Thanks.
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
21 May 10
I have never cried whenever someone has left work and I’ve never cried when I resigned from jobs either. The way I see it, the move is usually for the better and if the person who is leaving is a close friend, surely we can still keep in touch and keep the friendship. I worked in a bank in the city for almost five years and moved on to another building also in the city into a new job and I used to meet my old work colleagues for lunch on a regular basis. So...No need for tears for me...
• Indonesia
21 May 10
Well yes, that is what i mean. Why cry if you can met them and get connected to them. It is not like they gone forever. Friendship is more than sharing a same building in the same office, it is larger than that. So that is why, i think there is no need for tears in this event.
@kourdapya (926)
• Philippines
21 May 10
It depends, of course. If someone you are close to would resign, who would not cry about that? But if it's an office biatch that would be saying goodbye, why cry if that's a reason to celebrate?? Losing a friend in a stressful environment is a very difficult life experience. I have friends here at work and if they resign I would surely cry too...
• Indonesia
21 May 10
O i see, well there is a lot of reason to not cry. Like it more easy for your friend to go if you are not crying, because if he / she know that you are crying, it will make it hard for her / him to leave. Also, it is not like we saying good bye forever because we still friend. We just might not met to often like before. Thanks for responding this discussion.
• China
21 May 10
Depends on how to express the emotion of different people, maybe female would be more easier to cry in this situation.
• Indonesia
21 May 10
Yes, the culture right now make woman more easy to cry than man. Although some woman is not easy to cry, and some man really easy to cry, but overall it is like that. It all depend on how people look at what happened and about how close they're friendship is and how far the friend will go.
@elvieb02 (696)
• Philippines
21 May 10
you are right, friendship is bigger than workplace so she can always connect with her bestfriend/ex-officemate. with the technology right now, it's so easy to get in touch with friends even you are miles apart. so there's not reason to be sad, she should just be happy that her friend will have new opportunity.
• Indonesia
21 May 10
Yes, you are right. Although we might feel sad at first, but with time, all will heal, and it will heal fast if in the end, we still get in touch with him / her trough phone, facebook, chatting and many other tools. Now with current technology, we can almost get connected with every on, any time.
• Philippines
21 May 10
it depends on how close you are with your office-mate. if your are too close like as best-friend then you have reason to cry. but if you are only friend and treated as normal office-mate, you feel sad because you miss her/him for the time of being together, sharing works.. it can make you missing up..
• Indonesia
21 May 10
Well i don't think if i really close, and can called him / her as a best friend, i don't think i will cry either. I don't know, it just not my habit to cry. But i do feel sad, if that happened. I have a lot of friend that are resigned from my office, two of them is my best friend. Thanks
@ybong007 (6656)
• Philippines
21 May 10
I have never cried when an officemate resigns but i feel a sense of loss. In our professional lives it can't be helped for people look for ways on how to improve themselves and find new opportunities. What's important is never to burn bridges. With Facebook and other social networking sites, it's now so easy to keep up. Before, when former colleagues resign and decide to work over seas, all communications just stopped. Now with facebook around, you can even chat with them for free.
• Indonesia
21 May 10
Yes, i agree with you. Never to burn a bridge that connect us to our friend. Even if our profesional relation ship as an office mateis over, but there is no rules that said we should also ending our friendship. So like you said, with current technologies it is easy to keep connected with them. Thanks for sharing your opinion with us.
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
20 May 10
I never cried when a colleague resigned. As you say, they are heading for a better job, and a better life. It's a time to rejoyce. We should be happy for them.
• Indonesia
21 May 10
Yes, although it is not make us cry, but i do feel sad because our office will not be as fun as before since once of our best friend is gone. But still, they will have a better life, and since it is easy to keep comunication with current technology, we will not loose them.
@ifa225 (11093)
• Indonesia
20 May 10
i feel sad easily, my tears will down. even if it was not my best mate, that usually happens to me. but i think it would be better for her too to chase her dreams.
• Indonesia
21 May 10
Well yes, you might a person that really sensitive so you can easily cry. But well, it is still a good thing since it will show your friend that you really care about him / her. Anyway, thanks for responding to this discussion. I hope you stil connected with your friend until now.
@med889 (5954)
20 May 10
When I was working then there were two girls who came for a pupillage in the company and they were given tables and chair in my office only so we used to chat all day and make jokes and narrate all types of stories but then after some six months they had to go back to their universities and we really cried a lot together because we were very good friends. So yes I cried.
• Indonesia
21 May 10
O i see, well yes, six month is quite a long time, and i think in that six month you can be a really good friend. Anyway, do you still connected with your friedn there. Did they still work there? Where are you working now? Thanks for responding this discussion.