What is the meaning of Friendship?

Philippines
May 23, 2010 1:36pm CST
If you were to define Friendship, summed it up in words, sentences or images. What would it be? Would it be the friend that never got to forget you? The friend that is always there, despite the distances or the miles? The friend that loves you even if you are a cracked egg? Or is it the friend that would do anything for you, like sacrificing his/her dreams for your dreams? The friend that secretly loves you even though it is not his/her hands you are holding now? The friend that asks you for his/her birthday gifts when in years she only texted you Happy birthday? Or is it the friend, that counts his blessings each time, each day, he got to see you? The friend that seeks his payments for his services rendered? And with the interests? Or is it the friend, that would call you everyday, even if it is annoying, but at least you know he/she is there? And is not afraid of his/her phone bill? What is the meaning of Friendship? Do you have a story to share? An event, a memory to spare? Where are our friends now? Who are they? (^^,)
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@agrant10 (1446)
• United States
23 May 10
To me personally a friend is someone who is always there no matter no what you are facing or going through in lifesd. A friend is someone who stick by you when the world walks out. That is what I call a good friend who displays friendship.
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• Philippines
25 May 10
That's very well said Agrant! When the world seems to leave you and give up on a you. You know that a true friend will always be there to support you all throughout the hardship...(^^,)
@agrant10 (1446)
• United States
25 May 10
Amen
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@neildc (17251)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
24 May 10
a friend is someone who always listen to you problems. someone that you can talk to in times of trouble. someone that listens even he/she has nothing to do to resolve your problem, at least you have someone to talk about the problem and always there to listen.
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• Philippines
25 May 10
Indeed, to have someone patiently listening to your ups and downs, is very important. And a friend that is a great listener would be very cherished. It helps you a lot even if they say nothing, but the more if they say everything too. Thank you for your response Neildc! (^^,)
@GardenGerty (116743)
• United States
23 May 10
The people I count as friends are the ones that I can trust even my worst self with. They know what I am really like, and when I get jealous or sad or angry, and they like me anyway. I can tell them secrets and know those secrets will be kept. Of course they can do the same for me. A few years back a friend of mine was diagnosed with lots of allergies to foods, all at one time. We were in a group where we took turns bringing snacks. I always made sure to bring something that she could eat. Her husband paid me a really big compliment, because he said that that showed that I was a really good friend.
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• Philippines
25 May 10
Hi GardenGerty! I think too, you are a great friend. I always love when my friends are concerned with me, with food, with love life, studies...etc...It really shows that the person cars for you. Because if he/she didn't, he/she wouldn't even be checking the food labels fro allergen or sodium content. They would just grab something and not care. But a true friends, read, notice and pay attention to everything. And is always there to make sure that their friends are safe and healthy. Thank you GardenGerty for sharing your story with your friend. She is very lucky.(^^,)
@bunnybon7 (43833)
• Holiday, Florida
23 May 10
a real friend is one thats there in some form, be it email,phone call,or a visit when you need them. even if they dont believe in or feel the same as you will still stand by you and support you in whatever you do. and never puts you down, only advices you on things.
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• Philippines
24 May 10
Thank you Bunnybon! I agree with you a friend is always there to support and never puts you down. Sometimes, we think that our friends put us down because they tend to not agree on everything we say or do. But in that way, they are also showing that they are supporting you, because they care for you. They don't want you to do something wrong. (^^,)
@bystander (2299)
• Philippines
25 May 10
in the philippines, a friend is someone who lends you cash when you have no money. also, a friend is someone who pays your fare when you are traveling together.... and many more... but, of course, that's not what friendship is all about... because a friend can be a lover or a kin, even someone who simply give you the treatment you deserve in your own shared world... well, i'll try to go back to this topic after i get some sleep... been working the past 36 hours beating a dollar deadline... still halfway to go...
• Philippines
25 May 10
Hi my friend! Yes, I agree with you. We have a lot of types of friends here in our country. We have also the drinking friends, who always wait for the booze to be bought, but don't spend even a peso. We also have the friends by "utang na loob". Which is sometimes too much here in our country. That you have to repay everything in kinds or money. But not all are that bad. and in a way, they become the balancing act in our life. And I also agree that friends shared a own world. Sometimes you can't penetrate that easily, because that bond is so strong. I hope you have rested well, my friend. And thank you for your response even if you were working the past 36 hours. Don't work too much....(^^,)
@bystander (2299)
• Philippines
27 May 10
well, just sent the final batch of pages for a magazine supplement i did for a london-based magazine... had a few hours sleep... cooked some vermicelli soup with vegetables and spanish sardines... and i am back... drinking friends, i used to have a lot -- especially those who know i have a lot of imported scotch whiskey and brandy because i get a regular supply from my ship officer friends -- but when i threw all the bottles out into the thrash and informed these friends i won't drink a drop of the spirits the rest of my life, nobody seems to visit me anymore on weekends and after-office hours... as to utang na loob... i don't borrow because i hate borrowing... money and others... i just give away, whenever i have extra, but those are rare times because i work to live a simple life and i don't work to fill the piggy bank... friendship, on the other hand, is being able to share, more on the intellectual and emotional side than the material one... just being there is enough... a friend need not bring a fat purse when called because of an emergency... just sitting together and knowing that you're together, even without uttering a word but feeling comfort, is having a friend... friendship also invokes love... not just the physical kind... but being part of one's existence with a shared relationship and a common fulfillment... other aspects, of course, are not for words to describe...
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• Philippines
28 May 10
just sitting together and knowing that you're together, even without uttering a word but feeling comfort, is having a friend. I love that part. That's so true. Sometimes, you just need someone besides you. Who without words makes you feel supported and loved. Someone just to lean on, a shoulder to cry on, a rub in the back, or even a hug just to warm you up...No words, no explanations, just pure love and understanding. (^^,)
@portisray (503)
• Philippines
24 May 10
There could be a lot of meanings of friendship… oh! I really should start working on my online job but this topic got me interested and just recently something happened to me and my 2 friends that I want to tell you all here… As I said, I have 2 friends who are also gay… But each of us has different characteristics…. Well, I am the only one who is not too girlie hehe… I don’t use a lipstick/make up, I don’t wear a blouse… I don’t bring a shoulder bag whenever we go out…. We have differences but only one thing that got us into bonding…guys… Each of us has a story to tell… I don’t want to tell all the details because it is too long to say in this topic… Recently, we went to another gay friends house and had a ‘drinking session’… Just the four of us without any guys to flirt with…hehe… When we go home while walking (just 2 blocks from our house), we cross path 3 guys looking for a fight… And who else they will see? Only us at that time…. One guy brought out an ice pick and he ‘pick’ on me! I’m lucky I got away quickly and we run… When we got home I thought one of my friend went outside just to look if those guys were still looking for us but when I saw he’s holding a long bamboo we got a hold of him… He wanted to get revenge and wanting to whack the head of the guy who ‘pick’ on me… Hmmnnn, he really is a friend who will protect and defend you I think if you are in trouble… Friends come and go… Friends now you see, now you don’t…
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• Philippines
25 May 10
Hi Portisray! That's a very scary situation. And it was very wise to stop your friend. It would be too dangerous, especially that you were ebrieted. But yes, truly, he is a real friend. It remains me of my college years. We were riding the bus back home. I had a group of friends back then. College students that travel everyday from Manila to Bulacan. So we sticked together especially if we had late classes. We always went home together. And to our surprise, someone trowed a plastic bag of garbage into our bus. And one our girl friend got hit onto her face. You can imagined how the bus stopped just for us. Because we really wanted to see who did that. Some of our guy friends wanted to jump off the bus before it even stopped. It was scary, like in what happened to you and your friends. But you can feel how much they were concern for us. And how vengeful they could get, when a friend has been hurt. That's what real friends are for and will do for friends. By the way, I was inspired to start this discussion, because I finally went to my High school reunion, last Saturday night. If you remember I mentioned it before. I must say, not all were close and friendly. But, the event was a success. Everyone was very happy to see everyone. Even though, we still had groups just back in high school. We had a blast. And we are even planning to have a part two. And even two of our former teachers got to attend. It was great. Thanks for the support by the way. That's what also friends do, even if they haven't seen each other yet. Because I think friendship like love is a universal and nationwide language. Have a great day Portisray! Thank you for responding and for sharing your story. (^^,)
• Philippines
26 May 10
Aha! That's good that you attended your high school reunion! You won't know if you all going to have a blast if your not going to attend... Anyway, I'm still not finish to my story.... lol... If there's a good side of having a friend..there's also the bad side.... This not happened to me but to one of my 2 friends... Do you think you can withstand a friend who will spat in front of you whenever you had a misunderstanding? A friend who will back stab you even if you didn't do anything wrong? A friend who has the money to other people but for you he doesn't have any? I asked my friend how can you consider that as a friend? And he told me that he still considers him as a friend no matter what because someday, somehow, that friend will realize what he is doing and will feel the same way he feels... Oh! I must start my online job right now... It took me 20 minutes to think of how am i going to deliver my message here...hehe.... Well, then have a good day too Aphroditei!!!
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• Philippines
27 May 10
That's so true Portisray. I would have not know if I didn't went to the reunion. And I wouldn't have sang a duet with my high school crush. I even forgot I got a crush on him before..hahaha.. For your second part of your friendship story. It is unfortunate. But I think most of us have those type of friends in our circle. But yet, in a way, we can't cast them off. Unless, we are on a boat and we have to throw someone out for us not to sink. My bet, she or he will be the first to go.. He/she is lucky to have friends like you, like us, because despite their wrongdoings we still accept them as our friends. But I, sometimes, tell them bluntly what they are doing is wrong. Especially if it is to the expense of another friend. What online job are you doing? Maybe I can join too? LOL.. Thank you for your response ha. (^^,)
@aimroma (69)
• Philippines
24 May 10
I'm gonna share an anecdote. two weeks ago, I had a fight with my close friend. we had an argument and after that, we never spoke to each other. the root of the fight was soooo shallow; it was not even all about us. for 11 days or so, we did not speak to each other-- we had that uncomfortable blank interlude. i tell you, that was not easy. my classmate told me that i should try to understand and that FRIENDSHIP IS BEYOND REASONING AND LOGIC i said, "well, HE IS BEYOND REASONING AND LOGIC." you know what my friend said? "well the, he is your friend. If FRIENDship is beyond reasoning and logic and HE is beyond reasoning and logic then, HE is my FRIEND. for more story, you can visit my site: http://aimroma.wordpress.com
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• Philippines
24 May 10
http;//aimroma.wordpress.com/2010/05/14/move-on-but-hold-on/ that's the right site.
• Philippines
27 May 10
Remains me of my Logic class...(^^,)
• United States
24 May 10
Friendship according to me: Being there for someone no matter what you had planned and knowing that they would do the same for you. For example, a "friend" has a problem and needs your help, you stay by their side. Later, when you have a problem and need help, that friend does the same for you.
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• Philippines
24 May 10
For me friendship is accepting the person regardless of age, race color or gender. Having a real friend is like having a brother or a sister. A real good friend is like an extension of your personality. Friends somehow bring balance to our lives. They give us joy when we are sad. They laugh and cry with us.
• Philippines
25 May 10
Hi Psychogurl! Yes, a friend is someone who will never leave you in the storm. Who will stand by you no matter what. And you will do the same for him/her. Thank you for your response Psychogurl! (^^,) Hi Ronna! I always think also that my friends, especially my bestfriend, not only as a sister or brother, but almost as an extension of your soul. Because when you become so close. You can even communicate without talking. We just exchange a smile, a blink of an eye. And then we know. Friends somehow bring balance to our lives. That's so true. I don't think that we can be happy without a friend or friends. That would be quite difficult. Thank you too for your response Ronna! Happy Mylotting! (^^,)
@HADDOWZ (1481)
5 Jun 10
To class someone as a true friend you need to ask yourself how you would feel if they told you were wrong about something or did something wrong. Would you feel upset or hurt that this person said that, or would you accept there comments or opinions and UNDERSTAND why they said it.
• Philippines
6 Jun 10
Hi Haddowz! Well, I think a true friend is someone who isn't afraid to tell you the truth, whether it is bad or good. And it is reciprocal. Friendship can't flow in a one way stream. So if he/she has a comment or an opinion that may upset or hurt you. As a friend, you have to review yourself too; like why, how, and what purpose is that comment for. Because, friends also acts like mirrors. We may not see our bad traits, but they see and observe that everyday. And if, you don't agree with them. Discussions may sprang, but true friends will grow with that discussion and will become better friends from that experience. You may have fights, get hurt etc..But the path of true friendship is always in the same direction and not so far away. (^^,)
• Philippines
1 Jun 10
On my-side its hardly to find real friends . We can say friends is almost part of our life that we can lean on. Most people say Friends is someone you can trust and lean on. But what about when the money comes in between into this friendship? How long it will last? what you think?
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• Philippines
1 Jun 10
People say "Money is the source of all evil" if I am right. But I believe that in between true friends, Money would never be an issue. And if it were in business, everything should all be fair and clear, like in real business. It is not because the person is your friend, the responsibility you and him/her have about the financial aspect of the relationship should be waived. And a true friend would never demand to waived them. He/she would be fair in his/her dealings. And as much as possible, because of the friendship and the value of it, they both won't do something to ruin or destroy it. In relation, to financial mishaps, as a friend, weighing and analyzing the pros and cons before judging and giving any punishments; is a friend's duty and it comes naturally to a friend to seek for the truth in any situations. Thank you for your response Alejasite. Welcome to Mylot! Feel free to add more of your insights! (^^,)
• Philippines
26 May 10
A friend for me is someone who will still be willing to hang out with me and would still listen to me despite all my wrongdoings and mistakes in life. One who would never tolerate my mischievous acts and would rebuke me with love.
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• Philippines
31 May 10
It's like the song..."That's what friends are for"...They are always at our side in good and bad times. Always there to support and even critic. But nevertheless, they're always present. Thank you for your response Saranggola! (^^,)
@debsgw (256)
26 May 10
For me friendship is about knowing that you can count on someone to be there for you however much they have going on at the time. Someone who will always make a little space to fit you into their lives when you need them and you will do the same for them. Maybe you don't get to speak that often, and maybe your main contact is with funny emails that you pass on just to let them know you are thinking of them, but when the chips are down you know that they will be there for you if you need them and you would be there for them if they need you. Then when you do get together the time in between just melts away and you're able to catch up and continue your friendship as if you had seen each other only the day before. That's special..
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• Philippines
31 May 10
Hi Debsgw! It is always a joy to get in touch with friends, and to see that despite the years. It always seems like yesterday. That's very special indeed. And yes, we always have a special place, a little space for our friends. Thank you for your response Debsgw! (^^,)
@dawnald (84069)
• Shingle Springs, California
25 May 10
The person who accepts me as I am, but can also talk straight to me when I am messing up and who can come to me when they have problems.
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• Philippines
31 May 10
Very well said Dawnald! I agree (^^,)
@chendaimi (153)
• China
24 May 10
for me , friend is the first one who helps you when you get into trouble,who will share their happiness and sorrow with you together ,true friends will encourage each others,will point out each others' drawback in order to let each others become much better
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• Philippines
27 May 10
Very well said Chendaimi! Thank you for sharing. (^^,)
• China
24 May 10
in my opinion,a true friend is someone you can share your happiness and sorrow with,someone you expect to turn up in time during your bitter struggle,someone you want to talk with when you cannot sleep at night.a true friend is always there for you even though you live a long way from each other.fortunately,I can rely on my best friend to keep my secret.I can share my past with him without getting hurt.my best friend doesn't belittled my efforts even though he disagrees with me on some issues,and he doesn't embarrass me in public even I do something stupid.no man is the whole of himself,his friends are the rest of him.
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• Philippines
25 May 10
my best friend doesn't belittled my efforts even though he disagrees with me on some issues,and he doesn't embarrass me in public even I do something stupid. Hi Zerrywang! That's so true. A friend would pick you up when you stumble and not laugh at you. He/she may disagree, but they won't get you embarrass or ashame of your decisions or goals. Friends supports each other no matter what. no man is the whole of himself,his friends are the rest of him. I like what you said here. Indeed, I believe that friends are an extension of our souls. That's why we feel so complete when they are around us. Thank you for your response Zerrywang! (^^,)
@monkeylong (3146)
• Guangzhou, China
24 May 10
As far as I am concerned, I think the Friendship is the most important thing in the world. Friendship means that you can get together witha friend, whne something comes to you, you willl think of him or her. In our daily life, we can benefit a lot from the friendship. Without friendship, I think our daily life can be so terrible.
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• Philippines
25 May 10
That's so true Monkeylong. I can't imagine my daily life without my friends. Even if we are not constantly together. It is always a plus that you feel secure and supported in your daily endeavor. Friends are indeed very important in one's life. Thank you for your response Monkeylong! (^^,)
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
24 May 10
My best friend has seen me at my best as well as my worst, she has helped me out when I needed it and she knows me probably better than my own family because I have shared things with her that I have never shared with anybody else, not even my partner. We lived together when we were single and we have known each other for many years. She is the only person I can truly be myself with. She likes spending time with me no matter how I feel or look. I believe she feels the same way about me. We don’t spend as much time together as we would like but when we do it is like we just saw each the day before. She is a precious gift. I spotted this quote a while ago: "A friend is one who walks in when others walk out" -Walter Winchell Isn’t it great?
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• Philippines
25 May 10
Hi Paula! I like your quote, [i]"A friend is one who walks in when others walk out" -Walter Winchell[/i] That's so true. A friend is always there. No matter how much people walks in and out of your life. There will always be that special someone, who accompanies you trough life. You will cheer you when you are down. Who will scold you when you do something wrong. Almost like a right path checker too or keeper... I have also a bestfriend that I have met since I started studying again for my second degree. And ever since we met, we can't get enough time to catch up on things. Even if we see each other everyday. And like last year, I had to stop for a while. Even after months, it's like I have just saw her yesterday... And we compliment each other. When she is sad, I tend to be happy. When I am crying she is there to support me. What our life will be without our friends? I can't imagine it. (^^,)
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@kun2349 (23464)
• Singapore
24 May 10
Friendship always come and go.. It does not matter who our friends are, because all of them are teaching us valuable leassons about life.. We might have some bad friends, who's always out to take advantage of us etc, but without them, how do we learn how to handle such situations again?? haha =D True friends, are always there for us, no matter how many years of not contacting each other.. As long as there's trouble, and they are willing to help without saying much, that's a true friend.. For it shows that, they are cherishing the friendship.. hehe
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• Philippines
25 May 10
Hi Kun! That's a good point. We might have some bad friends, who's always out to take advantage of us etc, but without them, how do we learn how to handle such situations again?? haha =D And yes, indeed we have some bad friends. But we learn a lot from them, especially from their mishap or faults. And sometimes, they bring us some equilibrium in life. (^^,)
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@ronz30 (276)
• Philippines
24 May 10
For me friendship is one of the things you'll treasure on your life because when you have friendship you will have someone to lean on and whether this person is rich or poor you still have the courage to have friends with that person. I think that's the true meaning of friendship, that no matter what the person has you still accept him because it's not the things that she/he have that you love but it's the personality of the person..
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• Philippines
25 May 10
Hi Ronz! That's so true. If your friendship is based only on one's status in society or bank account. That friendship will not last long if those material things are gone. Because you were friends with that person for the wrong reason. the true meaning of friendship, that no matter what the person has you still accept him because it's not the things that she/he have that you love but it's the personality of the person.. That's very well said. It is accepting his/her whole being whoever or whatever he is or has. Thank you for your response Ronz! Happy Mylotting! (^^,)
@jan2001 (11)
• United States
24 May 10
A friend is someone who is there for you no matter if it's during good times or bad. A shoulder to lean on, a companion to keep you company even when you think you'd rather be alone, a listener and not a preacher, someone to build you up and not tear you down, and someone who accepts you for your good virtues and also for your flaws. I have a cherished friend who is just that person...and I try to be that type of friend to others as well.
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• Philippines
25 May 10
Hi Jan! Welcome to Mylot! I have a cherished friend who is just that person...and I try to be that type of friend to others as well. I agree with you on that. Sometimes, people likes to have friends around and forgets to be a friend too to them. They rejoice in that inner circle where they feel safe. But they don't know how much harm and selfishness maybe they exert in keeping that circle. Like restricting their friends to have other friends or to go out of the standards set by the group. A good friend, would also love to see their friends grow, flourished and spread their wings. We have to be good friends in order to have good friends too. Thank you for your response Jan! (^^,)