Have you been spammed by a mylot friend?

@marguicha (230365)

Chile

May 23, 2010 11:53pm CST

I have had two types of spamming from people I have accepted as friends here. None of them is what I´d call "nice"

. The obvious spamming happened when I accepted a friend (I never say no, even if I dont know anything about him/her)and immediatly I recieved PMs full of links for sites to join. I do trade sites with friends, but for me it is something that must be talked about first. Not everyone ids interested and I don´t have to pound my interests on them. The other type of spamming (if it may be called that) ocurred when I accepted a mylotter and he started to post maybe 100 "discusions" per day. My mailbox was full, I couldn´t find anything, I had to read a lot of these one line posts that were of no interest. Have you had these experiences? What have you done if you had them? Am I being harsh if I put the second cases notify in off? Share. As for the other case, I dont think there´s anything I can do. The PMs are there and I have to read them if I want to know what it is about. Share and help. I´m seeking friends here, not spammers.

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@catdla1 (6005)

• United States

24 May 10

I have experienced both situations here. When I've received messages to join other sites, I usually take the time to thank the sender for thinking of me, but that with limited time available, I wasn't interested at this time. I also let them know that if my desires changed, that I was keeping the original email and would contact them. So far (knock on wood) that has saved me from getting a lot of repeat messages. As far as the discussion-spammers, I've experienced that too. I turn off the 'notify' feature for that user. If I didn't do that, I probably would miss other discussions that I really wanted to respond to. On slow days, I go through the 'Discussions started by Friends' and answer a few of them at that time.

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@marguicha (230365)

• Chile

25 May 10

Hi friend, I recognise I´m not that polite with the first type of people most of the time. As for the second example, I think that´s the only solution.

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@xeroeight (1059)

• Philippines

24 May 10

For the first type of spammer you can delete him if you really pissed off on what's he doing, For the second type of spam you can turn off and on the notification from your friend right, if you turn in off you will never notify when that person started to create new discussion you have the right to do that things, if your really pissed off then turn of the notification and delete your friends who spam massages and also you can reply to them that you are not interested that simple

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@marguicha (230365)

• Chile

24 May 10

I had not thought I could delete him as a friend

. As I said, I talk about sites with my friends but its mutual agreement. Good idea!

@kalav56 (11464)

• India

24 May 10

I have had a few cases where people have sent me links. I am a bit wary of many sites because I am scared of virus. I jsut ignore them or tell them straightaway about my fear for viral attacks from certain sites.

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@dawnald (85137)

• Shingle Springs, California

25 May 10

I haven't had it that bad, but I have added a person who more or less right away sent me a link. So far if I tell them I'm not interested, that is the end of it. If somebody sent me link after link after link without even getting to know me, I would probably delete them.

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@dawnald (85137)

• Shingle Springs, California

26 May 10

Yep, I've done that too.

@marguicha (230365)

• Chile

26 May 10

I hate that, dawn. But it´s even worse those people that cannot help but post a thousand discussions about nothing in a day. The "one liners" are a pest. They fill my mail. I decided that I would turn notice off at them.

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@1hopefulman (45111)

• Canada

24 May 10

Yes, once in a while but not too often. So I can't really complain. Anyways, if someone abuses the privilege we can always delete them as a friend.

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@cyrus123 (6363)

• United States

24 May 10

I never have had a mylotter to spam me that I know of. No, I don't think you're being harsh by putting the second cases notify in off. I don't blame you because I wouldn't like this, either. I did have a mylot friend who used to post one liners all the time and I got sick of that. I finally deleted him as a friend.

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@cyrus123 (6363)

• United States

25 May 10

I don't blame you.

@marguicha (230365)

• Chile

25 May 10

I already put the notify in off. I wasn´t able to check my mail: there were too many dumb posts by this person

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@ElicBxn (64172)

• United States

24 May 10

yes to both, the former I delete as "friends" because they aren't acting like a friend, the other I tend to turn off the discussions unless I feel "up" to reading dozens of uninteresting discussions, most of which will be taken down ANYWAY!

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@ElicBxn (64172)

• United States

24 May 10

@marguicha (230365)

• Chile

24 May 10

I tend to think likeElic. I doubt that a person that posts 100 one line posts a day will post anything worthwhile. EVER!!!

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@neildc (17238)

• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines

24 May 10

i think i also have people, members in my friends list that do both, sending link through PMs and making a lot of discussions in a day that make my inbox flooded with mylot notifications. i guess i like them both. the first one, i like links to their sites but of course, only if i asked them to send me or we have talked about it ahead of time. i also like being flooded with notes in my email, at least we can choose from those hundreds that we can response to, 10% of it is a lot for us, right, margz?

@marguicha (230365)

• Chile

25 May 10

I prefer to trade links and do that exchange when both parties want it. As for the second example, I check what to answer in several places. I recieve the posts from my best friends (I don´t answer all of them either), I check my interests and the top discussions of the day. I chose from there. I´m too old for floods of any kind, my friend!

@ANTIQUELADY (36440)

• United States

24 May 10

If i get tied up w/people like that i delete them right quick. I don't open "any' links i am sent.I don't think it's a good thing to do so i don't.I hate it when somebody sends me a bunch of discussions at one time. There is usually not one interesting in the bunch.

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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)

• United States

25 May 10

I don't know why people want to be so tacky but seems as if some delight in being that way. Hope u have a happy day. I made the texas cavier yesterday & it's yummy. hugs.

@marguicha (230365)

• Chile

25 May 10

Right as usual, Jo! But lately I have had my mailbox filled with those posts. After I started this conversation, I went to the "my friends" place and put the notify off. Some times I even lose posts from you or other friends because they are mixed with these other good for nothing posts.

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@paula27661 (15811)

• Australia

24 May 10

I’ve experienced both types. I came across a guy who requested my friendship. His profile told me he was from Australia like me and he seemed okay so I accepted his request. The next thing was a message from him with referral links which annoyed me quite a bit and upon entering his MyLot page I discovered that it said he was from the U.S.! Clearly this guy was not genuine so I deleted him from my list and for a couple of weeks I kept on receiving friend requests from him on a daily basis! I presume he is gone now; boy was he creepy! The other type I have experienced also. I had a ‘friend’ who posted about 50 discussions a day; all about nothing! I turned my notifications off for that one!

@marguicha (230365)

• Chile

25 May 10

I just did that from the "friend" who is the reason for this post.

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@sumanadep (1228)

• India

24 May 10

Hi marguicha I think there are many people here who do this when they get a friend request or when their friend request is accepted. they send their referral links without even asking us if we are interested. Can't help this.. I just read it and then ignore it. The issue with people starting too many discussion in a day has also become common here. This is one of the reason why I keep all the friends notification off. If I want to respond to friends discussion I select the discussion started by friends from mylot itself. happy mylotting

@marguicha (230365)

• Chile

25 May 10

It seems that the second example will have to be handled that way by me. I can´t keep track of so many posts and mostly I feel I´m losing my time by just chequing them. The worst is that they always come from the same people.

@THEcreationist (837)

• India

24 May 10

I hope I am not one of them.

I fully agree with what xeroeight just said. Also, for future friend requests, I advise not to accept every request you get. Just visit the profile, give some time watching some of his/her previous posts and decide accordingly. However, if the person requesting is a brand new user, who has not even posted yet, I don`t think you have a easy way to decide. Its you discretion. There can be a way that you accept/reject such request after a few days, after seeing his/her posts. Moreover, you are never harsh, as I have observed till now.

@marguicha (230365)

• Chile

25 May 10

I have to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. But it irritates me when that turns against me

. I have not had many problems of this kind, but while I have been commenting your answers, I also checked the offender and set the notify off. Take care!

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@purplealabaster (22085)

• United States

24 May 10

Marguicha, I have been spammed in both the ways that you have mentioned. I was not happy with either one. I reported on user that spammed me with referral links (this was quite a while ago), and I believe that person no longer has an account here ... probably because he or she did this to too many people and got reported for it. I have not yet deleted the users that post the 100 discussions per day, but I have turned my notifiers off for everything except responses to my discussions and comments. I am seriously thinking of also defriending the ones that start all those discussions, especially if they do not bother to comment back to any of the responders, but I have not done so yet. I will give it a little while and hope that they learn what myLot is really about (since most are newer users) and become more active and responsible members of the community. If that happens, then I think that we all win. If it doesn't, then I will eventually delete them from my friends list if they do not lose their accounts or leave first.

@marguicha (230365)

• Chile

25 May 10

The problem with checking, discovering the offender among a lot of friends and put the notify off is as big a task as doing Spring cleaning

. I confess that that is not my idea of fun. But I dod find the "friend" who posted a lot and put the notify off. That´s a big help.

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@msfrancisco9369 (10002)

• Boston, Massachusetts

25 May 10

Hi Marg, I just ignored it spam mails. When i am new here, yes i received notifications from friends with so many new posts. now it's varied and i do enjoy it.

@marguicha (230365)

• Chile

26 May 10

I love my real friends and to read their posts help me know them better. But the only way I can make friends with someone is if they post something I´m interested in.

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@beaniefanatic13 (5068)

• Grand Junction, Colorado

24 May 10

It happened a lot when I first joined, both types of spammers that your talking about, the first kind I left alone for a bit thinking if I don't respond they will stop, they didn't and they were all deleted. I don't care about money making sites and think it's rude to be solicited to if not interested. The second type were deleted the first time. I answer most discussions through my email and the last thing that I want is tons of one liner discussions filling up my in box, I never seem to answer 1 liner discussions, so therefore i have nothing in common with them. I'm sure that there are lots of people that feel differently. As always just my 2 cents worth!!! Happy Mylotting!!!

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@marguicha (230365)

• Chile

24 May 10

Taht´s exactly it! I also answer my discussions through my mail. I just turn the notice off one of them. Probably I should have deleted him.

@ifa225 (14468)

• Indonesia

24 May 10

i had, i don't mind if they sent me some ref link, just ignored it. but if they have hundred discussion everyday, i just delete them . they cover other discussion so i can't have fun in here.

@marguicha (230365)

• Chile

24 May 10

That´s exactly what happened to me in the second case.

@airakumar (1553)

• India

24 May 10

Of course there are many spammer marguicha! But there is nothing harm in accepting friendship. If you think he/she is spamming then better not to respond him/her. I have always accepted friends request. It feels bad when you don't accept. Well, I am lucky, I have never encountered such kinds of discussions. I have made many nice friends here who starts nice discussions and also respond well which makes me happy sometimes. But nevertheless, there are some of the friends whose discussions are just waste of time. I just ignore the discussions. But I am sure you gonna enjoy many discussion which interests you.

@marguicha (230365)

• Chile

25 May 10

I have found wonderful friends here and very interesting discusions too. What I don´t like is the kind of people that take advantage to mylot´s rules and stretch them to suit their needs. I make a few posts a day (sometimes one or two), respond many more and keep in touch with my friends. But even this comment is more meaningful than that person´s posts. ALL OF THEM are the kind you would have to answer yes or no. And when he/she gets smartter, he changes the way it´s said but it still is worthless. That person has about 3000 posts in a month or so. WOW!!! Only I´m not interested in that.

@Baluyadav (3643)

• India

24 May 10

hi,friend,i too faced 2 types of members... we used to get freequent friend requests and as usual,i respect & accept.There are 90% friend requested members,who immediately send their links and ask me to join as referrals,in the first message itself,If we won't respond,they don't continue----one type of members. The second type is they send friend requet by assess us through our nature of discussions and responses,sincerity....and those will be remain as real mylot friends.... I too faced the problem of mail box,filling with discussion,but later,i make change fom notify on to notify off...now i am depening for disussions started by friends on --friends started --tag,but i have o search frequently...

@marguicha (230365)

• Chile

25 May 10

That could be a good idea. But it would take some time to sort out my real friends and not leave anyone out.

@portisray (503)

• Philippines

24 May 10

Oh! I'm lucky I haven't been spammed in my Private messages! I'm just going to delete him right away! lol... As for the second type of spamming... Well, I am amused at first because that person is just new here but later on...a lot of one line posts that were of no interest is really starting to annoy me... But I still haven't delete that lotter here hehe... I just received earlier an e-mail that that person started a new discussion here and as expected, another one liner again... I don't know... it annoys me but at the same it amuses me!lol...

@marguicha (230365)

• Chile

24 May 10

At firt I was amused but afterwards, when I has to sort the important messages from a lot of crap, I decided it was time to put the person in a "notice off".

@topffer (42155)

• France

24 May 10

Hello marguicha, I have been spammed two times by new members. I accept like you any friend request. Since I joined, I received only three spams with referral links. If a "friend" was sending spam everyday, I will delete him/her from my friend's list : you are right, we are not seeking spammers at myLot. For the moment, I have been lucky. I have one or two friends starting many discussions each day, but, as I find always in the mass a discussion interesting for me, I keep all my friends' notifications active, but I am filtering my mails and all the messages from myLot : I created a "myLot" folder for them.

@marguicha (230365)

• Chile

24 May 10

The problem with the second kind is that it takes up a long time to sort his mails. At least it happens to me: my eyes are not what they were.