Am I too blunt?

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After years of being the way i am some of the folks I have grown up with are telling me it is time to outgrow my bluntness. Now I do not come out and attack them with my opinions but if asked I do not hide my true thoughts. I told these folks that I say what I mean and if they ask they will get what I think not lies. One told me it was better just to lie to her, (by the way her boyfriend beats her and I will not condone this), another said it is because my opinions are always cold and I am unfeeling. It is not that I am with out emotion but for Goodness sake I am not going to cry and lye to you because that's what you want to hear. What started this was a friend asked me about her husbands cheating a few years ago. I did not get into the middle of anything and stayed well out of the situation as it was going one. She (who is with him now again) asked if I had know, and if so why I did not say anything? I told her I had made it clear to all involved (one being my brother in law by the way making it all the more complicated), that I would not on my accord say anything but that if asked I would not lie. Well she did not ask until now and I said I did know and why I had not told her. I did not volunteer information only confirmed or denied her questions. Well in the end she was mad at me for not saying anything until now (but she didn't ask till now!) and of coarse brother dearest was not happy because now she knows what he did and about they child he has been hiding from her for 3 yrs. that he had with the other chick. (She is already raising a child from another affair that he had) Now everyone is mad that I am too blunt and should never had said anything, I gave them all warning that I would not lie am I wrong, I made this clear years ago, I mean I didn't call her up and say "guess what?" she asked me. I wasn't mean about it I just said yes it happened and what not. Am I too blunt?