May 25, 2010 7:12pm CST
Ever experienced being stalked by your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend, or the other way around, you stalking your ex? I know this situation happens a lot. Isn't it ironic that once you had a break up the person is still existing in your life? Isn't it sarcastic to befriend an ex-bf/gf? If I'll be asked if I am in favor of such things (still being friends w/ your ex) well, I am not. In fact they're already an "EX" person in our lives. Ex means OUT. Out of our lives. We may also use "ex" to stand for EXecuted, EXcluded, EXpelled, EXpired, EXtinct, EXtracted EXtripated, EXuded (see for yourself in the dictionary they all mean OUT or removed). They are called ex-bf/gf because they are people who are already NOT EXISTING in our lives. I am not being bitter as what others might think of me. I'm just concerned to those people who had a break up and yet not cutting their communications with their ex-bf/gf. They're just hurting themselves. It is not being bitter, it's just being concerened of ourselves and getting ourselves up from such sudden fall. Am I right with this or not? (Disagreeing with me is very much appreciated) HAVE A NICE DAY MYLOTTERS. ;)
1 person likes this
27 May 10
Hi chelley shey: Well I disagree with you. I think that we have to be mature and after some months you can talk again to this person and probably be friends again. Some of my friends have passed through a situation like this and being a friend of your ex should not hurt you if you know how to manage this situation. In fact, if this person's fault was not that big, this person is not my enemy so I would acept her as part of my life. Thanks for asking us this question and for welcoming all kind of opinions. Have a nice day. ALVARO.
28 May 10
Thanks for disagreeing with my opinion. :) But for me, I really don't want to hang out with my ex anymore because there are times that they are taking advantage of our friendship. If he is already a friend again, then he will make things that might win you back again, which is not good for me. :) Thanks for your opinion alvaro.
27 May 10
One of my ex-boyfriends and I remained friends after we broke up, and in the beginning it was okay, but after a while I got tired of the situation, because he was constantly trying to get me back. I had the feeling that he was being really nice to me, because he was hoping that we would eventually get back together. I was no longer in love with him and I wasn't interested in getting back together, but he didn't understand that, and he kept on trying. Sometimes he came to my apartment really late at night. The front door was locked, but kept on ringing the bell if I didn't open the door, and sometimes he stayed for hours. He often waited in front of door when I was coming back from school, and I got very tired of the situation, because he didn't listen to me and just kept on saying the same things. I know that some people can be friends with their exes. There are people from my family who have that kind of relationship to their exes, but in my case it didn't work out.
27 May 10
Hi Porcospino: I'm sorry after reading this bad experience. I agree with you, sometimes people can be friends with their exes, sometimes it's possible. In your case it was because your ex boyfriend was not mature enough to know that your relationship has ended and that he should continue lining his life and that your only want to be with him a good friend. That's sad but I also agree with your answer. Thanks for sharing with us your opinion. Have a nice day. ALVARO.
26 May 10
These people came to our lives, in one way or another, has helped as grow as a person so I can still be grateful even if they have hurt me physically or mentally. As long as they don't bother me anymore, I am thankful for at least I have shown courage to let go of someone who once became a part of me.
26 May 10
So you agree with me that once an ex, should already not exist in our life? I am also thankful that they came to my life and I'm as well thankful for them that they didn't leave me with nothing. In fact they left something for me and it is THE LESSON. The lesson that we should learn out from love.
29 May 10
No, not ever in my life i have been stalked by an ex lover because I never been in a relationship. I have been stalked, by a dog and a coackroaches, that is only the ones who have interest on me. In my opinion, it depends, but i do agree on you. Since you are no longer together you don't have to have a communication with your ex'es as they are ex ex ex ex as you said above. when you separated from each other, you will be having a life of your own. what is the meaning of moving on when you still think of him/her. For sure he or she already with someone or if not, they have a life of their own to waste time now because you are no longer together. Even if it hurts you inside that you still love your ex, it will unfair to you if he or she already find someone to replace. But that will still depends on people suffering from this.
27 May 10
Maybe you are correct in some other things that you have said...but not ALL actually. Me, I am still communicating with my ex-boyfriend, but we treat each other as a friend only..we share problems..experiences and giving each other some advices.. We do not trying to hurt ourselves..we just want to stay each other in our life even if as a friend only...but no more bitterness...for me, your ex could be your best friend ;)