Do you consider the age gap a problem?

@mokkka (881)
Bulgaria
June 6, 2010 4:30pm CST
Many of the experts have pointed out a stunning fact that in relationships were the wife is elder than the husband, the things are calmer and there are higher chances of understanding and good adjustments among them.On the other hand when couples have a gap of twelve years, it is very important to carefully review and sort out various related problems. It is to be understood that with such wonderful age gap in relationships the taste of life and also the interest in physical activities varies and there might be real differences.Do you find it a problem?
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@dentabz (142)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
Psychologically I think age gap in a relationship is a problem most especially when the difference is too big. But it is with the couple how to handle it. I am 18 years older than my partner but we love each other so much that not even that age gap causes us a problem. There are lot of couple who are on the same age but not happy on their relationship. Some of them have broke up. Although I agree that age gap is a problem but I believe that trust, understanding and love is the main key of a successful relationship.
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• Bulgaria
7 Jun 10
how long have you been together and don't you sometimes annoy because of the fact that your partner is younger and probably not so mature?
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@dentabz (142)
• Philippines
8 Jun 10
We have been for about 6 years. At first I don't really like her because she is still young but when I broke up with my ex I found her. At first I'm thinking that we could have a problem because of our age gap but we prove it wrong. She is a little bit matured on her age. That is why I said at the end it's the couple who will decide. Besides there are lot of couples at the same age or don't have a big gap age who separated. We talked that we both understand each other and the situation and talk whenever we have problems.
@rosie230 (1696)
7 Jun 10
No I don't think age gaps are a problem, at the end of the day if two people love each other then there should be no reason why those two people can't be together. They are the same as any other couple, and should not be any different. It is the love of each other, that makes these people want to be together.
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@karen1969 (1779)
7 Jun 10
Yes, that's very true. If the chemistry between two people is good, it doesn't matter how old you both are, it will still have a good chance of working out.
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@jamed28 (1903)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
I don't think so. I once have a gf in which I am 13 years older than her. It went pretty well. Just that she was my student so we decided to stop it. But age was never the issue for us. It is the situation that keep us apart.
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@zsarhea (302)
• Austria
6 Jun 10
I have friends who married someone younger or someone older than them and i dont see them having a problem with the age. For me marrying someone older is a good choice,why?because older guys are more mature than someone on your age.They have been in your age and if you did some mistakes they would always understand.Agree?
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@mokkka (881)
• Bulgaria
7 Jun 10
Don't you think as he has already gone through these things you mention you will be too different in thinking and needs.Yes he may tell you what to do and what to avoid but you won't have the chance to try life on your own.Do you need a teacher or someone who is interested in the same things you are?
@zsarhea (302)
• Austria
7 Jun 10
nope,not a teacher but someone who has experienced to understand what life is.Teachers taught from books and module,right?
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
hello.. in my friend's case yes it is.. she' s having so much problem with her husband.. she is 14 years older than him and she is always the understanding side to make the relationship lasts.. it seems the he is her eldest son.. and i saw how her life get miserable each day.. they have this what we called age gap differences also specially in physical activities.. for me i'd rather be alone all my life rather living in hell just like my friend.
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@mokkka (881)
• Bulgaria
7 Jun 10
Does she has her explanation of still being with him ?
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
i asked her once and her answer is that they are husband and wife and someday somehow her husband will be kind to her for her sacrifices and will love her for she never leave him..thats all
• Canada
7 Jun 10
My sister and her partner are more then 15 years apart and they have been together for more then a decade. (yay) When they first started going out I figured it wouldn't last because of the age gap. However I have since discovered that because of the age gap he is much more understanding and able to forsee many of the relationship problems they have had since encountered and are able to work together to get through the issues. Plus as a bonus he is like my big brother and always looks out for me. A big positive.
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@mokkka (881)
• Bulgaria
7 Jun 10
Why are they apart now?
• Canada
7 Jun 10
they are still together. yay! I'm so happy for them.
@max1950 (2306)
• United States
6 Jun 10
im 14 years older than my partner and we've been together 12 years, im 60 she just turned 46 and we dont have any problems. except she talks to much. lol
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@mokkka (881)
• Bulgaria
6 Jun 10
this sounds great and if your major problem is her talking you are one of the lucky guys because we all know than women usually talk too much.Wish you a lot more happy years together.This is what I wanted to hear that age differences are not so negative in fact.
@danoluma (817)
• Kenya
7 Jun 10
Not at all as long as we are reading from the same page. And when she is as active as I am sexually. I do not mind
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@artistry (4152)
• United States
7 Jun 10
...Hi mokka, I tend to think that it totally depends on the individuals. There are some older people men and women who act their age, are less involved with activites and then there are those who jump into life every day and participate, enjoying every moment of it. The two people in the relationship have to be compatabile, the number is not the determining factor, where they both are in life mentally and physically is the important point. Take care.
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@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
7 Jun 10
I would say there will be differences in thinking, in maturity, in their interests and so on. It will depend on the couple whether they could bridge all these differences not to create problems between them. There are now many guys married to older women (some to a 12 years older!).
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@karen1969 (1779)
7 Jun 10
Well, I am 5 1/2 years older than my husband and we have been together 13 years now. Before in relationships, I tended to have older boyfriends (2-7 years older than I am) and these relationships all broke down. My Dad's second wife is much younger than him though and that works very well. So it depends on the individuals involved in the relationship, of course!
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
For me age doesn't matter to any relationships. It's about how you deal with each other and understanding each other.I heard so many people say that if you have an older relationship is that they easily understands you because they been through to that stage than if you have a younger relationships. Like me I'm married and we are at the same age. but we understand each other.get along and we always bond with each other. so I don't think age gap is a problem to any relationships.
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
age ain't nothing but a number. there are old people who are just so juvenile and impossibly immature and there are young ones who just have it all figured out. I think if people are just truly considerate, difference in ages wouldn't matter at all...age is not the only contributory factor to not being able to do things with people, i think preferences and interests are more concern-worthy.
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@sharad7 (85)
• India
7 Jun 10
Yes i think age gap is a very big problem may be or may be not because when we pass are more in age then we earn a lot of knowledge at the other hand this age gap brings you a lot of problem because when you are then your body couldn't work fast as your young age so age gap in some place is beneficial and in some place it is harmful.
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• India
7 Jun 10
if a guy/ gal is comfortable with his gal/ guy than i dont think any matter comes in between, neither age nor the seniority, its basically understanding between 2 people which is difficult to build and once broken cant be joined . it takes time during the building lot of situation comes where the difficulty is faced by both, facing that situation gives you more responsibility to handle things, regarding physical activity it depends on both of their requirement,when understanding is created with the experience in life everything falls in line even the capacity
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@Porcospino (31367)
• Denmark
6 Jun 10
My husband is 12 years older than me and the age gap isn't a problem in our relationship. I don't think much about it, because we love eachother very much and we have a lot in common. We are interested in many of the same things and we do a lot of things together. My best friends are a little older than me, and when my husband and I are together with my friends his age has never been a problem. It is a little different the other way around, because of my husband's friends are 30 or 40 years older than him, they are about my grandmother's age and I don't have much in common with them.
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