A girlfriend is a mental block ?
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
India
June 6, 2010 5:19pm CST
"A girlfriend is a mental block. I can romance heroines better on-screen if I’m single.”
These are words from a new South Indian Actor.
I believe that acting and real life is different so there should not be any mental block as such. May be being single it will allow to do some thing extra for the movie demand but you fear that your girlfriend will be unhappy with this scene?
This was in some acting context but what do you think in general, being in relationship does it make you uncomfortable to be friendly with some other girl or boy?
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@med889 (5940)
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7 Jun 10
Well it does not make me uncomfortable at all to be to friendly with another boy when I am already in a relationship, infact I know my limits and I know how to behave when I have a boyfriend already, i care for my relationship and this counts a lot when you are talking to someone else you have to make sure you understand the difference between the friendship with that man and the love with your loved ones.
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@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
8 Jun 10
Being friendly is not bad at all. Husband or wife are not the 100% but major part of that 100 so others should not be ignored.
Thank you for sharing.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
7 Jun 10
Being in love and having a close relationship with another person either boy or girl requires a lot of commitment , that is if one is serious about it.May be the actor is justified because he may have had shallow relationships where the g/f might have been possessive and that made him uncomfortable to give his best on screen.Any relationship is not easy to maintain, it requires a lot of maturity and understanding..All the best Ajay and have a nice day 

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@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
8 Jun 10
Might be the case that actor is commited and do not want to take any chance on his personal relations.
Thank You for sharing.
@ganeshprabhuk (1722)
• India
7 Jun 10
It is really true for a person who wants to lead his own life, when a person has to live with somebody that means he / she has to adjust to each other, hence there is a state of mental block where you are not able to reach this because you have some other requirement in life
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
7 Jun 10
Are you saying that life being in a relationship is an adjustment?
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
14 Jun 10
I think he is not a true or even a good actor. A true actor would remember how being in love feels in real life and use it in a love scene when he is playing the character in the movie. and A good actor Can separate his acting and his real life. I think this " actor" needed an excuse to remain single . And instead of having the b@lls to say I prefer to remain single , he said this ridiculous statement.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
14 Jun 10
They are supposed to seperate their real and reel life but there had been many cases when they just got into in:)
Thank you for sharing.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
I think this is the main reason why celebrities find it difficult to be in a stead relationship with offline or non-celebrity people. We just can't take it. I mean, it's difficult enough to be with someone who's good looking because there would be constant flooding of flirting on the side of the women, yet alone he doing it as a job?
I mean, just think about it. When he kisses someone passionately in the movies, won't you ever think that he's really enjoying himself? Our brain may be complex but our ability to presume and assume things are more complex.
I guess it takes a lot of courage for a girlfriend to be with an actor who's hunky. She must either be one hell of an actress herself for keeping these insecurities to herself or she doesn't care that much at all which is why these things wouldn't affect her.
I for one can't do that. I do react. Which is why he steers clear of having close women friends and I do avoid close friendship with other men. It just keeps the peace and avoids unnecessary pressure and stress for both of us.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
8 Jun 10
The best reason they come up with is that it was all camera effect and I did not kiss but it does not work for long time.
I think this is obvious to think in that line but there should be trust and mutual understanding that its just acting.
Thank You for sharing.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Jun 10
hi ajaysingh I feel the opposite as I loved my husband and he was my best friend. the men friends i had where also my husband friends as I was really very faithful to my husband and hoped he was faithful to me, but I trusted him and I never saw himn betray that trust. he always said he loved me but also saw me as his best friend and I loved that about him as I could tell him anything as you would a best friend and he could
also do that with me too.



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@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
8 Jun 10
Its good to know that you both share a good friendship being married and that gives space for love. Its trust that makes relations work and you both have that in each other.
Its all about how individual thinks about the situation but for an actor may be its difficult to involve in act throughly if he/she is commited.
Thank you for sharing.
@divineathena (1746)
• United States
7 Jun 10
I am too faithful to my boyfriend. He is also the same. To keep our relationship smooth, we cut off friendship with people of opposite genders. And it really never seems to bother us at all.
However, for some people it can't be like this. They need to be friendly with those people of opposite genders. I have also seen men breaking up with their girlfriends just because they feel it is more important to maintain the friendship with their female friends.
But my take on this is a bit different. I believe our partners are the best friends we can ever have. They are here to grow old with us. They are here to live with us under the same roof to be a part of both our good and bad days. They are the ones who'll accept us for who we are. We can cry to them, we can laugh with them and feel secure in their arms. They are with us to make another one simply like us. But female friends or guy friends, they will soon find their best friends and get busy to build their nests with them. So to stay single just for them seems foolish. It will only give a moment's pleasure and not of forever.
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
• India
7 Jun 10
Very clear thoughts, I appreciate that.
I love to be in love and at the same time want to be connected with all my friends. Its not the same way for me as you said. Love is for the one but friends are many. I always love to be with my partner but that does not mean to cut off from other opposite gender friends. There are cases when had been breakups because of friends but I fell that they ahd not a great chemistry or bonding, it was a weak link that got affected by friends. I will not let my friends forget me and neither I am going to cut off with themjust because I love someone. I love her the most but she should have her own life as I should have.
Thank You for sharing your views.
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