Bye friends... I'm changing for the better

I have been in that situation before and I am happy with my decision. I noticed that I am not already enjoying hanging around with them partying, drinking and the like. I felt like I need to do something better than wasting my time with them. I don't say they are bad influence but I just want some changes. They are not yet done with stuff like drinking, hanging around and bar hopping but I don't consider them bad instead I can see that they are not mature enough to think of other important things. I never told them that I don't want to be hanging around with them but I started to refuse and making alibis when they have plans of going out. Eventually, they felt that I have changed to somewhat being mature so they won't force though they still drop me messages about their activities. At times I hang out with them but I won't stay all night just like the old times.

You know, even if you're friends are always drinking and smoking, you can still hang out with them, just don't do what they do. I have friends who smoke and it's really not an issue for us. I don't need to smoke if I'm with them, I can tell them that I don't want to and it's not at all an issue.

It depends on how much you like them as people. If you enjoy them as friends, I would talk to them on the phone and email. However, keep going out to a minium or don't go out at all. I would explain to them that you don't enjoy drinking and all that stuff.

Marie, I am glad you realized early enough that there is such a thing as bad company. It was wise of you to alienate yourself from them. Whenever they ask you to come and hangout with them, make an excuse, like you are writing here on mylot to earn a living. That is a valid excuse. Then, from now on, search for friends who will genuinely love you and enhance you as a person. There are so many around. Marie, I believe you are blessed!

Hi eLsMarie! Seems to me you are a lot wiser now. You decide what's good for you! And if what you have decided is what works best for you which I think it is, then just make it work for you. Great!

I don't know what is exactly the reason you isolated from your friends. I think it's fine if you isolate yourself because of bad habits of them that you don't like. But as me to suggest you, friends is like uncountable value that we had, so why don't you try to change them into a good and better person..

hi there. you are a good girl for having the discipline to control yourself from drinking, smoking and staying up late. you oughta continue this because it will be for your benefit. just enjoy all those when you are grown up enough. trust us, you would want to be clean and sober. however though, do not isolate yourself too much from your friends. your friends may have different likes and beliefs, but still they are your friends. you don't need to be too far from them. all you have to do is learn how to say no. if they get mad at you for not doing what they are doing, then they are not real friends. then you can ignore them all you want. however, if they really are your friends and they cannot give up on what they are doing, they wouldn't ask you to do what you don't feel comfortable doing. still, be a friend to them. but if this gets destructive already, it's your call to be in isolation.

Hello elsmarie I think you already made your decision,I Can tell by your title.I think if your friends like your said,drinking,smoking,and you should leaving them.It is the best way you creative a new yourself.You just need find a good excuse to tell your friends,You dont hang out with them anymore.good luck

Hello elsemarie, the last time i've been to a situation like was when i was with friends in a call center interview, we pass and we had a night out. i thought it was just a temporarily until it was just something more than that, so i left with out hesitation, wow my mom was so mad about, after that i decided to refuse any offer of night outs

Friends are friends and if they are with you at your schooling period then they takes a special place,b'coz during those days they nor you know about the present day situation as nobody knows the future,its the circumstance which may have played some sort of mischief due to which the particular friend have turned into drinks,or even if let me assume that the person was a habitual drinker from the early age,so it does not warrant for laying off the particular friend. On the other hand I will request both of you to communicate with each other,keep all other subject aside and let the friendly atmosphere prevail.No one ever had or will have enjoyed the isolation or aloofness in fact this kill the person slowly day by day from the inside. We are suppose to be friendly to every one from what ever or who ever comes from off what ever habit or community they belong to only thing is that "we should not follow the wrong path or habits" hence my motto is to be friendly to everyone if he/she reciprocate in a friendly manner and this should be the only criteria other things are nothing to the word Friend.

They're your friends. So I think it would be nice if you still hangout with them. Just don't do what they do. You'll be called names but ignore them. But if you are really annoyed then don't hangout with them anymore. As your friends they should respect what you want or not want. They should not force you.