I am still missing my dad even though he has not been here for over two years
By jugsjugs
@jugsjugs (12967)
June 20, 2010 3:36pm CST
Its fathers day and i miss not being able to say the words to him aswell as to give him a gift.My dad passed away over two years now and it is really hard on a normal day,but today i have been struggling as it is fathers day.It seems really hard when it is his birthday aswell as Christmas, the anniversary of his death and the date of the funeral that took place and then there is the date that the ashes were also scattered.What a awful day it has been.
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@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
20 Jun 10
There are times I miss my dad so much, jugs, and he passed away forty years ago. Time helps, but it doesn't wipe memories away completely. Ones we love will always be with us.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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20 Jun 10
During last week i went to see my nan(my fathers mum)and we went to his nans grave where his ashes are scattered, my nan said that she had told my dad that i would be coming and then i saw her tears flow down her cheeks,i kept my head down as i was worried that she would make me cry and i know my dad would never want me to be upset, but it still hurts not being able to talk to him aswell as listen to him laugh.
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@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
21 Jun 10
That shows just how much you loved your dad. I wish I was so lucky. Time will help jugs, but it is nice to know the memory will always be there, and as time passes, you will smile from time to time whenyou recall things that you laughed at with your dad. Take care. Mike.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
20 Jun 10
yes hon, it is really difficult for sure. I still miss my grandmother who raised me after 30 years. Of course there is no pain like there was before but I miss her and I will never forget her.
@ellie333 (21016)
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20 Jun 10
Hi Jugs, We all miss lost loved ones at these special anniversary times and this being so fresh for you really must make it so hard and two years is no time at all especially for someone that you have known your whole life time, I think it is part of the grief process but remember with or without them happy memories remain and in time you will smile at these rather than feel low on a day like father's day. Really feel for you. God bless. Huggles. Ellie :D
@jugsjugs (12967)
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20 Jun 10
My children gave their dad a Fathers day card today and i had got them a pair of special cups for him from the children.Trying to make things feel ok for my husband on Fathers day did not help the way i was feeling.I did not mention to anyone how i felt today about it being what i would class as a day with peoples dads, as i wanted it to be a good day.Its a horrid feeling to have lost a loved one soo close to me and i hope over the years things will get better.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
20 Jun 10
Father's Day can be a difficult time when your father is out of the picture. It's even harder when it was not a choice. I am sorry for the loss of your father. All I can say is time is a great healer. You will always have your memories of youre father to treasure in your heart. I lost my father over thirty years ago. I still miss him very much!
@tomitomi (5429)
• Singapore
21 Jun 10
Hi jugshugs!
I should think that you are not the only one here because I am. A day like father's day would bring him back too for me. To think my late father left us 5 years ago sometime around this time is quite awful. I'm more able to manage my emotions now than I used to. I thought I should be looking forward as I know that would be what he would like us to.
@rosie230 (1696)
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20 Jun 10
Sorry about your loss... I think that these special days and occasions are always the hardest when you lost someone that you love and who is close to you. 2 years is not a long time at all for your father to have passed away so it is only natural that you feel so sad.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
21 Jun 10
Hi jugs,
I think your feelings are very normal. My dad has been gone for almost 24 yrs now and even now I think of him often. He would have loved to see how the grandchildren all grew up and the great grandkids. Little things will make him pop into my mind . And of course, Father's day, Christmas etc. I'm sorry you lossed your dad, Jugs.
@roberten (3128)
• United States
23 Jun 10
I share your sadness; my dad passed away 10 years ago and I still miss celebrating Father's Day with him. I've accepted not being able to be with him but miss him all the same. It will get better, healing does not come soon enough.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
21 Jun 10
Hi, jugsjugs. I am very sorry about your father. I really am. My father is still living and I did not talk nor see him for Father's Day. My dad is alive in human form, but his existence is not alive to me. He has never really acted like a father should have acted to me, as his oldest daughter. I love him but I cannot trust him at all.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
22 Jun 10
You know I lost my brother about 3 years ago and it is still very hard, but every time I start missing him I make myself remember a wonderful time we had. He was very sick and I would not have willed him one more second of that life, but I will always treasure the good times and rejoyce.
@smartjack (520)
• India
21 Jun 10
Very sorry about that dear friend. I understand and respect your feelings. I pray that where ever he is must be proud of you and must be praying for you. I understand the pain that you must have gone through when you lost your dad. It is such a painful experience to lose your loved one. It really hurts to know that the person who you loved and wanted and needed most of the time, is no more. Pray that his soul rest in peace.
@vandana7 (98995)
• India
22 Jun 10
I live in the mortal fear of losing mine! He is my only link to the world right now!
@Christmas2006 (1661)
• United States
21 Jun 10
My parents have passed on. I never had a close relationship with my dad but I was very close with my mom and all events are hard with her gone and that was 1988. What I really hate is going to mother/daughter banquets at our church. She loved them and it is hard for me. I have 5 kids and 10 grandchildren, I try to tell them the good memories of each of my parents.
@34momma (13882)
• United States
21 Jun 10
my parents passed away 30 days from each other back in 1994. I miss them every single day. so i know what you are dealing with. it don't think you ever stop missing your loved ones. I just always make sure i honor who they were and how special they were to me. that always helps. I know they are watching over me and that is a blessing.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
21 Jun 10
Well, it's time to move on.. I believe that your father wont want to see u sad over him, especially on those days.. IT's supposed to be his days of rememberance, for what u have done for him, in 'releasing' him..
As such, u should be glad for him, and knowing that he's doing good, somewhere out there ^_^ Repay your father's faith in u, by living it good, and happy ^_^ THat's the least u can be doing for him now 
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
21 Jun 10
That is a tough day to get through…It is sad to miss your dad and I guess that is something you will not get over but learn to live with. Does it help a little if you try to focus on happy memories or does it make you feel worse? I wish I had the words to ease this kind of pain…Just know he is always with you...
@laratri (253)
• India
21 Jun 10
hello mylotters...
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I still miss my father. After marriage i miss my father and mother somuch... Any special day i miss parents...
God bless....
Thanks
Laratri
@rose0822 (123)
• Philippines
21 Jun 10
i know how it feels..
i lost my dad 7yrs ago already but still it seems like yesterday...
things never been the same like before...
well,im just thinking that he is happy now where ever he is...
and he will not be happy seeing me lonely...
so,better accept it..coz god won't give you such difficult time like that if he kows you can't..
everything happens for a reason...
