Suggest me -- how to appease my wife.. now that i lost money online.

India
June 22, 2010 8:43am CST
she was there today morning, giving me my coffee... when I was dealing with that online site, doing the bidding... She was angry that I started gambling.. but, I bluffed to her that I was trying to buy her a birthday present, the APPLE ipad... she got fooled, because, the cost is shown as 60000 Indian Rupees... but, when I lost all the bid chips.. and, did not win the auction.. I could not tell her straight. now, my friends here in mylot are threatening me, that she would hang me by my big toes. --------------------- tell me ways to escape. tell me what to talk to her, to appease her. oh please....
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@de_toya (2433)
• Indonesia
23 Jun 10
It's very important open with our wife in all respects, including in financial matters. I ever experience situation like you when I invested my money in HYIP. I told my wife before invested my money since it was highly risky. It was kind of need permission and agreement from her. After all, we are husband and wife and my money is her mine too. When I loss my money, she didn't angry with me. I think you have to open communication with her. Do apologize to her gently and if you can, get her an Apple ipad that you promising to her.
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• India
23 Jun 10
THANKS. .. all went well. and it is all peace now.
@de_toya (2433)
• Indonesia
23 Jun 10
I am glad to hear that
• India
23 Jun 10
it is all with your support .
@srganesh (6345)
• India
23 Jun 10
consultrainer! I learned from the other responses and comments that your wife is no more having any hardships towards you. Anyhow, be careful the next time so that she don't know what you are doing and fro heaven's sake don't take risks for large amounts. By the way, what is that online bidding site? I would like to know.
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@sid556 (30989)
• United States
22 Jun 10
Hi Consult Tell her the truth and nothing but the truth. Oh she will be mad but she will get over it if you tell her before she finds out on her own. If you lie to her and don't come clean on your own then she is not only get just as mad but she will also be hurt at the lie and it will break down the trust you have for each other. Do you have faith in your love for each other? You need to tell her straight. You just have to. Come on, Consult, suck it up. oh and post a follow-up so that we know you made it out alive. ok?
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• India
23 Jun 10
I made it out alive. and without any welts or bumps on my head ... lols. thanks to all your suggestions. But, my wife is a better human than me. so, she just laughed it off. Today morning, after coffee, though, she told me the secret of her peace... I would soon be off to my clinic, .. may be after 7th July. and, it is like the parents' relief to find that holidays are over, and their wards will be to school soon.. thanks for the sincere help.
@saphrina (31733)
• South Africa
22 Jun 10
First of all, it's not nice to lie to your wife. Shame on you. Secondly, didn't i tell you to start BEGGING!!!
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• India
22 Jun 10
i did not truly lie. it is half truth. ...I might be a dull-head, but even I remember, how the previous president Clinton, when asked under oath ... told half-truths. that way, I told her that I am buying her the Ipad.. while, I was doing the bidding .. and, now, It is all like building a dam, after the flood waters cease. help me... suggest something real.
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@saphrina (31733)
• South Africa
22 Jun 10
Okay, thanx to Viji's teachings, a nice saree in the color she loves. And, a gorgeous silk bed cover, her choice of color. And, a set of bath salts and lotions. You better hurry before all the stores are closed.
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@vandana7 (73049)
• India
22 Jun 10
Saphy - 20 dollars wont get a decent saree, that much of apeasement, is it necessary? Especially after that hillstation trip? I think he needs some beating from his wife! I have a few rolling pins to spare. :)
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@johnpillai (2082)
• Germany
22 Jun 10
just pretend like that you are sick. This is not my own idea. My husband does so. I used to forgive him though I know that he is pretending.
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• India
22 Jun 10
i am already on the sick leave. I closed down my clinic, due to a small accident sometime in March.. so, had been getting all the kind nursing and naggingly loving support from my wife. so, cannot pretend more... or may be.. yes. I can say, it has started to pain a lot. I broke my right leg. fractured. though it is completely healed. thanks .. i shall report to you the results tomorrow morning.. after some 13 hours from now.. if I am able to use this facilities.. that is. :(
• India
22 Jun 10
just got my fake-headache, and shut my monitor and lights off. to pretend that I have switched of my computer too. and, closed the doors, to start off the responses. I think, she knew ..that I am acting.
• Germany
22 Jun 10
Women are always than their husbandseven though he is a doctor.
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@Hatley (164226)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Jun 10
hi consultrainer well wow what a predicament . As a woman lets see what could you do or say that would not make her hang you by the toes.Perhaps the easiest way,easy for me,is to tell her the truth. the whole truth and nothing but the truth while on bended knee, then put on a very sad face, a few tears would help and plead," Honey please do not hang me up by my sensitive parts, dear one forgive me, I never meant to do it" a nice bouquet of flowers might help too. Now she will either thump you or laugh her head off at the picture you make on bended knee.
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• India
23 Jun 10
well, of all .. the suggestion to be on my bent knees works well, as I am quite tall for her.. and I would have offered what not to be offered, HAD i been arrogantly standing. so, ..as you said, the HEAD will be exposed.. and vulnerable. and, being INDIAN.. she will not hit me on my head.. :P then, .. to update .. All went well. I have told her the half-truth part..and, she just laughed it off. I think, she had been planning her dialogues .... I am soon to be busy with my routine, and will be spending less time online. so, she is safe! she presumes. the night was normal. and good. and without any untoward incidents.
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@Hatley (164226)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Jun 10
hi consultrainer great , everything was okay after all, no thumping and no hanging by your toes I am glad she did not thump you as that's just plain mean to do.I was just thinking I don't think my hubbie ever thumped me or I him as we both worked in the hospital and had seen our fill of abused women and some abused men too. So he might have teased me but never hit me in any way even just teasing. I worked as a nurses aide for years,and he was an orderly.My dad was a small town doctor and my half sister a nurse so I grew up in a medical back ground. glad every thing is again okay.
• India
24 Jun 10
with all your blessings, best wishes... and, with the rabbit-brains that my wife has, ... (it is to be taken as a compliment, as my brains are rat's_) ... all went very very well. I am very happy to hear about your medical background.
@5h1n164m1 (111)
• Indonesia
22 Jun 10
well, i never had such experience before. So, i can not give really exact answer to you. However, based on what i had learned in society, school, parents: 1. Lies is a sin and it would be really hurt if the victim discovered the truth. So, i suggest you to tell her the truth and promise you will not repeat it again. I think she will appreciate it. 2. As a man, i suggest you to be gentle. If you do mistake, then responsible for it. If you think lying to your wife is wrong, then you should apologize to her and tell the truth. Remember, girls like gentleman :D 3. Escape will not solve your problem. Instead, it will makes you frustrate and appears more guilty. I hope my suggestions are helpful for you. By the way, good luck :D
• India
23 Jun 10
your suggestions are worthy and wonderful. thanks. wish they come to your aid, when the time really comes to you. and, I sincerely hope and BLESS you that you will never have to tell a lie.. --------- to update, all went off peacefully. and the morning was just as any other pleasant morning was. thanks for the affection and love.
@gunsirit (90)
• Malaysia
22 Jun 10
Sometimes, lying is tolerable if they can do more good than bad. Frankly speaking I do lie sometimes but not most of the time LOL. How to appease her? Well, take her for another honeymoon.
• India
22 Jun 10
it is not yet a fortnight, that I TOOK all family on an exotic tour to OOTY, Kodaikanal, and all the hill stations. we stayed and made merry for over a week at these luxury places. I should have waited.. but, ... thanks for the suggestion..
@vandana7 (73049)
• India
22 Jun 10
I can spare you that 20 dollars you know kiddo! But you have to be a well behaved kid with me after that! Everything comes at a price! Seriously, croon some good numbers. :) I have yet to meet a woman who wouldnt fall for that one!
• India
22 Jun 10
oh. I don't mean to DRAIN you off .. and siphon away all your next month's pension... dear vanny... --------- and, I am a bad singer. I could have danced.. but, you know, my leg is not completely on track again. (I am a Kuchipudi dancer.. of the 1985's ...) ------------ i just followed life8118.. and, reported HEADACHE. i closed down the door of my bedroom, and, before that, switched off the monitor.. to pretend that I am going to sleep. said to her to finish off her dinner.. and not to wake me up.. let me see.. if I can see the sunrise tomorrow, there will be a party to you all... at Vandana's place.. she will be hosting... naturally.
@hexeduser22 (6703)
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
I guess I was late in responding here because I've read your update in Hatley's box. I'm glad that it all went well for you. If I were here earlier I guess I would have to say that no matter what you should tell her straight your good intentions and the outcome and pray she will understand. Anyway it's good that your both okay now
• India
23 Jun 10
you are not late. thanks for the support. i AM glad that I have made all these wonderful friends to share the pain, and the loss, and the experience. My wife is always very very supportive .. and, loving, caring.. it is me, who plays the joker part,. lols again. Please keep in touch. Best regards, ....
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• Philippines
24 Jun 10
You are very lucky to have her as your wife and I think she is lucky too because she is married to you
@chulce (1539)
• United States
23 Jun 10
Just come clean, she is gonna find out the entire story anyway. It is best just to get it out in the open. So be it that you don't have any toe nails left. I can almost guess that there are a number of things that she hasn't told you the complete truth about either. In some aspects, I guess that would make things even for you. Good luck!
• India
23 Jun 10
no need for all that. I have told her the half truth, and she might have guessed the other part. And, I TOLD her the entire truth .. last night. and, all went off peacefully. she is a very understanding woman.. and, I am lucky for that. lols. your support, and timely tease .. I am thankful for everything here.
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
Tell her what happened, just be honest with her. At first, she might get angry with you, that's always the initial reaction for ladies. but she will understand as days past that you were just trying to have another source of income. Part of it is your fault, but admit it. And everything will be fine..
• India
23 Jun 10
I admitted it, and all is well now. I am glad for all the support you friends, in mylot have provided me. this is the greatest support in all. and, friend, WELCOME to mylot. make good friends here.. it is going to help you in future. .. not that you require any help..though, but, just in case. Thanks for all the wonderful suggestion.
@jamed28 (1909)
• Philippines
23 Jun 10
Well I guess it's better to tell her the truth. Just deal with her anger, but it will not last long since she is your wife. At lest, it will give you peace of mind.
• India
23 Jun 10
i have done just that. I am now at peace. lest, i would have been blessed by you all to R.I.P. ... we had an understanding. that she should not bother about the losses, as I am about to start my clinic again. and I would be spending lesser time online now. and, the night was as usual. hot and steaming. -- not with the anger and arguments, you know.
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