Would you take a job where you could work with your spouse/partner

@GardenGerty (158482)
United States
June 26, 2010 6:37am CST
and possibly do a lot of traveling, at company expense, if it meant you had to learn security techniques and sometimes travel with dangerous people? Would you want to work with your spouse? Do you enjoy driving? Right now my husband and I are training for this job, and so I am away a lot. Hope everyone is doing well, I will be back, just no time or access while I am away from home training.
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@drannhh (15219)
• United States
14 Jul 10
We did that for six years and although I wondered at the beginning how it would turn out, we both had a great time working together and it was much safer together, too, because we could back each other up. My late husband was very good at separating work from home and treated me very equally as a coworker. Congrats on your training opportunity and have fun!
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@GardenGerty (158482)
• United States
15 Jul 10
Drannhh, did your husband recently pass? I know about being back up for each other, and there is nothing that can compare.
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@drannhh (15219)
• United States
15 Jul 10
Yes, luv, after 40 years together he passed last year. He was in his 80's.
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• United States
30 Jun 10
You know that old saying, "Familiarity breeds contempt." I think couples need some time apart.
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@GardenGerty (158482)
• United States
4 Jul 10
You are right, and it will not be a forty hour week. We live in a big house and we do have separate hobbies and interests.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
19 Jul 12
I also think to be some extent it is good to be apart especially the couples and it is good not to work together. I think most probably it is the mind of others and how their relationships are going also depends on if they are able to work together or not.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Jun 10
hi garden gerty I never learned to drive so that would let me out. I think that depends on the person. I am not very brave so think 'I would pass on that job. I did work with my husband at times but it was not dangerous work as we owned a lawn and gardening maintenance business for some years before his colostomy made him partly handicapped. The o nly mild danger was people who ordered a ton of work then seemed very reluctant to pay up. these were not poor people they lived in million dollar type homes. the poorer people always paid their bills. We tried to tailor our costs to suit the person's ability to pay and we eventually went bankrupt doing it too.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
26 Jun 10
Hatley, I am just not sure that I would want to go into business, with anyone, because like you I'd want to tailor my costs to be suitable for all parties involved, and that could very well leave us bankrupt... It's odd how the most wealthy people are the ones that are most reluctant to give away their money, no matter what, but the poorest of us are the ones to always pay the bills, even if we have to work hard to do so!
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@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
1 Jul 10
possibly, i will take that job, with my wife. the only thing i may consider are the children who will be left behind when we are working. maybe i will work with that kind of job if we have no more kids, if our kids are all grown-ups now and can already stand on their feet.
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@GardenGerty (158482)
• United States
4 Jul 10
I would not have done this when my kids were young. We are quite a bit older.
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@Wizzywig (7847)
26 Jun 10
I like driving & would like to travel but there is no way on earth I'd want to work with my husband. I hope you and your husband enjoy both the training and the job. Take care of yourselves and stay safe
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@GardenGerty (158482)
• United States
26 Jun 10
I never got to spend enough time with my first husband, so I am trying to make up for it with this one. I am also trying to spend more time with all of my family when I can. I think it depends on the job as to whether spouses can work together.
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@Wizzywig (7847)
26 Jun 10
Quite so. Some jobs work for some people I guess. I like to do my own thing & my husband's always had jobs where he's called the shots so I dont think it would make for a good working relationship
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@CJscott (4187)
• Portage La Prairie, Manitoba
27 Jun 10
If I could convince my spouse to do such a thing, I would in a heart beat. I recommend studying a little aikido, to supplement what they teach you, I love it because a 100 pound girl, can take down a 250lb man, and keep him down, with out breaking a sweat. I would love to be able to travel all over with my spouse, sounds like a grand job, as for the dangerous people, just adds to the adventure, so long as I did not have to listen to them threaten me, do you get to gag them or what? Have a blast Gerty.
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• United States
8 Jan 12
If they give you any trouble and you don't want to listen to it, CRANK THE RADIO UP TO FULL BLAST.
@CJscott (4187)
• Portage La Prairie, Manitoba
10 Jan 12
Sounds like a good way to hurt my ears, but I understand where your coming from.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
4 Jul 10
Honestly, I can't imagine what that would be like. I don't have a spouse but I imagine you would need to rely heavily on each other at different levels. It's quite a big ask I imagine. I guess you'd have yo be constantly alert and I think I'm too easy going for that. Good luck with it...I'll bet the pay is good.
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@GardenGerty (158482)
• United States
4 Jul 10
It does not pay all that well, but better than some jobs. It appears the work load will be light, but we only need part time employment.
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30 Oct 10
I think I would, although I wouldn't want it to insert any pressure onto our relationship which I don't think would happen but I would be nervous about the possibility of it happening. Personally I think it would be fun, as I would be able to see her more often but it's not really a possibility as she looks after our children while I'm at work. We wouldn't want to rely on my parents to have them as my mother is ill.
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@GardenGerty (158482)
• United States
9 Nov 10
Our children are adults. In fact my son lives at our house and takes care of the animals when we travel. However, the traveling security job did not work out because of an economic downturn.
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@GreenMoo (11834)
26 Jun 10
Personally, I wouldn´t. That´s because I´m not big on travelling though, rather than any problems with working with my spouse or potential danger. I spend most of my time with my spouse just now anyway, so that aspect would make no difference to me. I think I´m very lucky! Best of luck with your training. I do hope you enjoy your new role.
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@GardenGerty (158482)
• United States
26 Jun 10
We like to travel. We have tried jobs together before, but management tends to get in the way. This is a more independent job. I am lucky to be with him a lot.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
26 Jun 10
gOOD MORNING GG, yes, i have seen the time when i would have loved to work w/my ex & i hope the new job turns out great for both of u.Have a good one.
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@GardenGerty (158482)
• United States
26 Jun 10
Thanks, Jo. I will be glad, though, when the training is through and we can work together. Right now we have to go on runs with other people.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
26 Jun 10
That will give u both good training & that's what u need. GOOD LUCK.
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
27 Jun 10
OMG Gerty! Have you and your Hubby run off to be Spys or work for the SS? I hope not! Do be careful now. I don't like to travel so I don't think I would be very happy. I like to be home. I'm not comfortable staying in strange places. Oh, and I would miss my cats too much and they would be miserable too! And I hate to fly so that would definitely be a deal breaker!
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@suzzy3 (8342)
19 Jul 12
I don't really know to be honest.Some say working together and living together might be to much.Depending on the job and how much you will see of one another.Will your partner be your boss for example that could be difficult.I hope your training goes well and it works out for both of you.You are lucky having both got a job more than most households,make the mostof it.
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@GardenGerty (158482)
• United States
19 Jul 12
Unfortunately this did not work out. He would not have been my boss, but I can see where that would a problem.
@xeroeight (1060)
• Philippines
26 Jun 10
For me that is ok I can work with my partner or spouse in that way I can be more comfortable and get a help when I need some or I could lend a help to my partner or spouse. Goodluck have a great week end
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@GardenGerty (158482)
• United States
26 Jun 10
That is a good part of working together. Helping each other when needed.
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@Comagirl (146)
• Spain
26 Jun 10
My husband came to work in my business about 2 years ago, it's great. We now both work from home, and have moved our home to the seaside so the kids have a better lifestyle, we also have no formal childcare now and share everything equally. I don't understand people who say 'how do you do it, I could never work with my husband/wife all day'. I feel like saying, 'what on earth are you doing with your partner then, if you dont have enough in common to be colleagues, and like each other's company enough to want to spend the day together?' I'd never say it though ;-)
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@GardenGerty (158482)
• United States
26 Jun 10
It sounds like you have a wonderful life for yourself, your partner, and your children. It almost makes me jealous.
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@Comagirl (146)
• Spain
27 Jun 10
Ah dont' worry Gerty its not always so idyllic, we disagree sometimes and have to make a real effort to see other people and do things separately at the evening and weekends sometimes else we'd kill each other hehehe. But I am happy, that a few years ago we sat down and thought through what our ideal family lifestyle would be like, and worked towards achieving that whilst our girls were young enough to enjoy it. I hope it all works out for you with the new job!
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
19 Jul 12
I am not sure, but I will be happy I think to work with my wife. My wife is not currently working GardenGerty and she is a housewife and also does some stiching. I am working as a medical transcription, which is a job that requires to transcribe the voices of patient reports dictated by doctors into documents. I think you might be having good time having training for the job with your husband.
@GardenGerty (158482)
• United States
19 Jul 12
The bad economy caused this job not to continue. I like spending time with my husband, though.
@finlander60 (1804)
• United States
8 Jan 12
I think that as far as being willing to work with my spouse it would depend on how well we get along. For me, personally, I would have to say absolutely yes. I guess if you get the right training you will be able to handle just about any situation. This sounds like an ideal situation to me.
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@GardenGerty (158482)
• United States
19 Jul 12
This job did not work out. I am kind of relieved. I wanted it so I could be with my husband, but I was nervous about it.
@sweetlady10 (3611)
• United States
27 Jun 10
It would be so great to work with my husband, I would love to do that. But may be not much of frequent traveling. I like to travel when it comes to vacation or any long weekend, but for work I would not like to travel so much. I am glad that you are doing whatever you like.
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@sacmom (14192)
• United States
28 Dec 11
I know I'm late in responding to this discussion, but what do you mean by dangerous people? I guess for me, it would depend on a few things. But chances are I'd have to say no...
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@derek_a (10874)
27 Jun 10
I have been married before and I did work with my previous wife, which meant that apart of from odd occasions we tended to be together 24 hours a day. It wasn't as bad as some people thought and many people used to ask me how we used to do it. Like everything else, I guess you get used to it. My present wife works in an office and I, being self-employed work from home. We just see each other in the evenings. This felt strange at first not having my wife around all day, but now I've gotten used to this. Yes, I enjoy driving but don't use it for my work. Mind you, it is not so pleasurable as it was back in the 60s when I first got my licence. Then you could drive for miles on many roads and not see another car for miles. All things change, that's the only unchangeable thing about life._Derek
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@iamneon1 (27)
• United States
27 Jun 10
I would definitely take a job to be closer to my significant other. Currently we live in two different states, and it's been difficult. I have been trying to find a job down in the area that he lives, but haven't been able to find one yet, so was grateful when I found this. It will help me be able to move closer to him.
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@GardenGerty (158482)
• United States
4 Jul 10
Partners need to spend time together. Good luck on your move.