Is this possible?

Hello, cherryjean. If you still love each other, then you are just both hurting yourselves by letting go. If both of you need to improve, why not support each other and continue to be there for each other, cheering your partner on until such improvements have been made. If you can be there for him and he for you through the happy times, then you guys should be there for each other through the rough times, as well. Do not let destiny act on its own. You both need to work for it too in order for destiny to do its part :)

It's difficult to say whether it is the right choice right now, however if you both felt that you had to break up then it's probably the right choice. Being apart will definitely let you know how you both feel when you are both apart. Five years down the line, I think you both will be very different people, it also depends whether you will change your life style, go travelling or work in a different place. Trying different things or even dating other people will make you see clearer in terms of this realtionship, you will probably automatically compare your ex with new boyfriends and see the issues that arose in the past from a different perspective, then you will make a decision on what you really want. :)

Hi CherryJean, You didn't say what the improvements are that you both need to make or what the problems are. Are they really so bad that you can't be together? I mean if you really love each other then you work and grow together. You accept that the other person has faults just as you have faults. We all do. No one is perfect and we all will always need improving. By breaking up I would imagine you'd grow further apart rather than get closer. Five years is a long time for someone to wait. I mean, it is possible that you could get back together after that length of time but I think you are taking a huge chance if you really love this guy.

if he need to work on improving himself and you the same for yourself. i say its a good thing. he and you cant work on your relationship if each of you got things need to be worked on. fix what you need to fix with you, the same for him, and then you both can work on your relationship with me i knew i needed to fix me, but since i was married i couldnt step back so it was more harder for me and my family

No one can really answer that but I wish you luck. The years will pass by and both of you will have changed tremendously. You may meet and fall in love with another. You're absolutely right to take this break from him if he really needs serious improvement. If you had stayed together he might not take you seriously and he wouldn't have the motivation to fix his problem. It is important that you are supportive of him.

Hello cherry, I believe you two are still too young when it comes to maturity, although it's alright to have relationships in that age, already but probably lacks experience in the courtship and information sharing. It's alright, maybe you could have consider it as a cool off rather than break up. you made the right decision, maybe love will be sweetier the second time around.

Sorry but I do not get the reason why the two of you have to go on seperate ways. You can choose to improve individually without sacrificing yout relationship right? I mean imagine how relieving it would be to have someone who can hold your hand or a shoulder you could cry on in times of failure. For me, it's just a matter of compromise. You could love each other withour compromising your individualities. You can grow together, hand in hand. Imagine if one day you see him in someone else's arms. That would really hurt. You will end up regretting why you had to ket him go when he was yours already.Ugh. Personally, I do not want to experience something like that. Just a food for thought.

Hi cherryjean! You know when you plunge into a relationship there's always something to improve. We grow and we change and we adjust to new things..What you got to do is not to break up but help each other to improve things. That's commitment right? Until you two love each other, you will ALWAYS find ways to reach out to one another and make things better for u. Say after 5 years you guys went back to each others arms, believe me, you will still find things to improve. That would be your real challenge when committing. Hope it helps cherry (^_^) God Bless!

In that case, I think you both need time and space first to discover yourself, your goals, your wants in life. Because if everything is clear already, I don't think you have to let go of each other just because you want to improve yourselves. I think you can do that even if you're together. But then, it seems that you still both have to think and clear things within yourselves.. Destiny is what we make. We will just not wait for good things to happen. If we want something good, then we must do it now.

Well Cherryjean after I have read your dilemma, I just want to give an advice from me. First, you broke up because you want the both of you to improve oneself right? For me I can say that you just did want you know is right, you're right that you need to improve you're oneself in seperate ways because the more that your together in improving or in my term as maturing or to grow, there is a tendency that there are things you want yet he doesn't and vice versa so there is a blocking in your improving not unlike when your on yourself, you're free to do what you want and do according to your will. Next, you said that your waiting for the right time and if you're destined for each other then you'll be and you're question is will the bith of you be together after five years? my answer is like you said if you're really destined for each other then you will be but the problem is we cannot say when is that right time. We can't say that after five years you will be together because there many things that could happen in five years of time. Maybe the both of you might find another and much better but as I said if you're really destined then you will be together, destiny is the one that make way for you to be together again. But if you're destined for each other maybe it is not your fairytale at all like what is stated in Taylor Swift's White Horse, its a big world there is someone who is really meant for you. One thing more, you asked if it's right to broke up with him even though you still love him? I can say that there are some couples that breaks up even they still love each other for a reason maybe like your or another.If you have watched the movie "One More Chance" of Bea Alonzo and John Lloyd Cruz, you will see that they both love each other but Bea broke up with John Lloyd in a reason, we also see that they live a seperate life and find someone, but still they're love for each other is still there and until one day destiny makes way for them to be together again and at the end of the movie even they broke up in the end they are together becsuse thy're destined. Last words from me is there is plan for everyone of us and a reason for everything!!! hope you like my advice to you

If you really love each other like you what you think, then I guess you will find each other again after 5 years or more. If not, you can start looking at other guys in the market, who knows you found a better one?

It's possible, if he really is so in love with you and plans and decided to not get involved with other women after you. I've heard men saying how much they love their exs and hope to be with their ex again. But while in the process of moving on, they welcome new female friends and thus new relationships. I remember after the break up how my ex kept telling me how deep his love for me was and that I will remain very special to him forever. He wanted me back, but he said he didn't want to feel depressed that's why he started seing another woman. It turned out that the woman he dated was so eager to get him and after a few weeks of dating got pregnant and he had no choice but to marry her. So my advice is, if you are really in love with him and really want him in your life, don't let him go.

5 years is too long... you can let your man go to let him grow in his own but 5 years is such a long time. your love for each other need nurturing too.

For my part,I didnt totally believe the love lasted for 5 years.Because,love make people nuts,however,when we are calm,we won't do something that we look forward.so I consider it's impossible.

If you still ove him why are you leaving him ? i don't understand being in love is all about getting to know each other, supporting each other, looking after each other and careing for each other, you should be together to work things out as this is what you do if you are in love.

Do you know that love can do wonders. You may feel you have done the right thing. But you should also feel yourself in his shoes and think if you have done the right thing. But it also is important to know if he loves you too or he is just wiling away his time. If you feel you have broken up for the right reason then you can only hope for things to go right and wait for situation to fall in place.

i think you should had continue with him if you love him. a relation is share everything the changes we have together everything so if you and him want to improve each other why not doing that together? bcs being apart wont help you i guess. im afraid that if you be apart you or him can fall in love with other person :( i think we must break up with someone when there is really a big problem but sure is your decision^^

NO, do not wait for the right time. make an effort and he will make one if he cares about you as much. If you wait for somehting to happen, probably isnt going to be what you wanted. maybe he could find someone else. Guys are distracted easily, which is a hard truth. keep them distracted by you, they are simple and dont play games like girls, if he thinks you arent interested(because you broke up with him) then he will get over it. Also think about if you really still love him, or if you just miss him. Alot of the time people miss an ex, but miss the good things about them that they remember. If you really do love him, Get him back.