Middle Child Syndrome, have you experienced such?
By denzlangga
@denzlangga (744)
Philippines
June 28, 2010 11:08am CST
I am a middle child of three siblings, when I was a child I find myself different from my sisters because I am more independent in a way that my parents doesn't care or look after me. I always feel that I don't have a place in the family, my older sister is my grandparents favorite, my younger sister is my parents favorite. I feel like I'm alone, nobody ask me if I am feeling alright or do I have a problem. Yes I am a tough person because there is no one I can depend on but myself, I always seek for attention in our family I tried to work on my scholastic record and I successfully got the highest mark at school to think that would make me a winner to everybody but I don't know what went wrong I am still unnoticed. Do you think this is just a feeling or I really have a middle child syndrome? and Do you believe such?
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8 responses
@alexorejana (57)
• United States
28 Jun 10
Every Middle Child feels this, same goes for me. They do notice you, you just feel your not getting as much attention.
@denzlangga (744)
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
Because most of the time, parents focus on the dependent child, sometimes I wish I am weak and dependent to get noticed.
@aquariand (464)
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28 Jun 10
I agree with you as a mother of three children it is not always easy to give attention to just one child all the time,I love all my children the same.
@aquariand (464)
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28 Jun 10
Oh yes i beleive in the middle child syndrome, i have three children and the middle one was such an attention seeker, always trying different ways to get my attention and take it from her brother and sister, she used to make things up about them to get them into trouble and always say she was left out of things.
I have always treated my children all the same, if one had to have new shoes i would make sure the others got new shoes, at christmas every one of them got the same money spent on them and they all got an equal share of my attention, but if you asked my middle child about this she will still tell you she was missed out.
@denzlangga (744)
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
That is how I feel too, I don't know but there is something on being a middle child that is so mysterious. I guess you should try to reach out with your middle child often so that she will not suffer much as I do.
@ladym33 (10978)
• United States
28 Jun 10
I think I suffered from that as a child. As an adult though I am OK about it now. But my sister was a lot younger than me so she was really the baby of the family and got treated as such. My brother was the oldes and kind of a Mr. Perfect child who did many different things and excelled at all of them. I always tried to walk in my brother's foot steps, I did not always excell at some of the things he did, but by the time I reached high school I started to feel like more of my own person and I started to excell at my own things. When my brother went away to college I became the oldest in a way. Now I feel all is equal and well with us siblings.
@denzlangga (744)
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
Yes as an adult I don't care about it anymore but because of that experience I have a hard time expressing myself. I still can't say that my parents gave equal attention and love to us siblings.
@nrab_11207 (174)
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
i am a middle child too. i think i would also have had that middle child syndrome, only worse.
because i my case, my older sister came from another man, not my father. and then the three children that followed me cam from yet another man.
so aside from being a middle child, i also was nobody's child when i was in grade school.
but now, all those were gone and not cared about. but while i was at it then, it really gave me sleepless nights planning and wishing how to be successful beyond the other children.
@chuck2 (183)
• Philippines
29 Jun 10
It's an interesting discussion, I just newly heard this syndrome. Don't misinterpret the attention that your parents showed for you, i know your parents just want to be fair and you just can't feel it. Maybe you wont understand for now but by the time that you will also become a parent you may realize that there were no such syndrome like that.
@Polly1 (12644)
• United States
28 Jun 10
I'm a middle sister too. My mom realised that and bought me a book titled, "The Middle Sister". My mom was also a middle sister so she understood. My mom was a single parent and did the best job she could with us. I do believe in the middle child syndrome, but then each child depending on birth order has issues, good or bad. Be the best you can be in life, not for anyone else but for yourself.
@smilepleeeaz (784)
• India
28 Jun 10
Well i am also a middle child in my family.
I have an elder sister and a younger brother.
But I dont felt like the way you do.
I think its just a psychology of ours that we sometimes feel that nobody cares about us and things like that. I used to think like that but I later on realized that its all the crap inside my brain and there is nothing like such. Parents love all of their children equally. Its just that they may not express it. I am sure they wont like if you'll face trouble. When you'll be in pain they will also feel the same.
So I actually dont believe in existence of such syndrome.
