will you take back someone who cheated on u?

United States
July 2, 2010 9:08pm CST
When people start a new relationship there is always the fear of getting hurt, but the worst of all is getting cheated on.I have been in several relationships and certain enough I have been cheated on.To find out that the person that you love and trusted deceived and betrayed you in such a vial manner.Such betrayal its usually the cause of many break-ups and our cautious behavior in new relationships. I think that the worst part of being cheated on, its not the betrayal itself, but the fact the we self-doubt ourselves. So, I was thinking, if someone cheated on me...would I take him back?would I be able to trust him again?would I be able to forgive and forget without being suspicious all the time?After thinking about it, I came to the conclusion that I couldn't because if that person truly love me he wouldn't have cheated in the first place. So, would you take back someone who cheated on u? do you agree with me?let me hear what you think.
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@jennbart (1330)
• Philippines
3 Jul 10
NO. Trust me on this. Once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater. Especially if he knows he can sweet talk you out of it. Never ever take him back.
• United States
3 Jul 10
I completely agree with you...if we give them the green light after cheating, they know that they can do it again and we'll take them back....it will never end
@jennbart (1330)
• Philippines
3 Jul 10
I personally do NOT believe in 2ND CHANCES. NO WAY! once he blew it.. he is DONE!
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@simonelee (2716)
• China
4 Jul 10
O,Oh! I'm guilty of this. Me and my partner are in a relationship for almost six years and I flirted with someone in our early stage of our relationship. Now that we are celebrating our 5th year anniversary I confessed to her that I cheated again(no physical contact though). I admitted to her that I'm flirting online. again, just plain chat. But,i told her that i almost fell in love with that person. She still accepted me, we regularly communicate but she's different now. I'm not sure if we are in "cool off stage" but i can feel the wall between us. I know i caused her so much pain.... I still want her back...
• United States
1 Apr 17
Nope, I would never take back someone who cheated on me. I just feel like that's setting yourself up for more hurt. Plus, it's very wrong to be romantically involved with someone while in a relationship with someone else. Too many people cheat today, and I don't trust easily for that reason. My man feels the same way. I'm just glad I'm with someone who feels the same way I do.
@paigea (34377)
• Canada
2 Apr 17
I agree with all of this. I am glad my husband feels the same way.
@sender621 (14922)
• United States
3 Jul 10
I believe that everyone deserves a second chance. It would certainly depend on the relationship and the circumstances that led to cheating. I would honestly have to say that i would take someone back even though they cheated on me and broke my heart. It would be difficult to regain the trust and commitment of the relationship. If I really care for this person and they feel the same for me, anything can be mended. Even a broken heart.
• United States
3 Jul 10
I respect your opinion,but if someone cheated on you there is no excuse or reason that can validate such betrayal.The most common excuse is "you are not there for me."Well, as a couple it is my understanding that there has to be communication and a person should talk to his or her partner if he or she is unhappy instead of cheating. I believe that regaining the trust is nearly impossible as for we are going to be more suspicious about the person's behavior,activities, and so on...and in every argument brought on by a suspicion we will end up remind them of their infidelity. I think that if a person takes back a partner who has cheated on him or her will not be able to forget which will put more strain to a relationship that already is in the edge of an abyss.
@rhinarea (311)
3 Jul 10
I can't really answer that because i had never been cheated before in my 7 years relationship with my boyfriend but when i think about that situation i guess i cant take him back anymore because of the pain that he caused me, i don't think i can handle it again if it will happen again in the future.
• United States
3 Jul 10
you are very fortunate and I hope you never have to go through that
• United States
3 Jul 10
I was married to my daughters father. He cheated on me and got another woman preg. We both were preg the same time and went in to have our kids one month apart. I left his azz flat out and went to a battered womans shelter.I think anyone who stays with a cheater deserves to be cheated on. I would never stay with anyone I knew for sure cheated on me. The funny thing was my husband gave me clue after clue and I ignored all of them. The good thing is I did not take my distrust to my next relationship. I think it is terrible to give a man the green light to cheat on you and you stay. My ex husband was mad when he found out I divorced him as well. I had my paperwork sent to his old address just so he does not get them and fight it. I trusted in knowing he was dumb enough not to foward his mail. The sad part is when I left him he chose to leave his daughter. I never took her out of his life he wanted me or nothign at all.
• United States
3 Aug 10
I don't think I would be able to. With the first time they cheated I wouldn't be able to trust them again = [
• United States
11 Jul 10
no i would not take some one back after cheating on me i couldnt because i would be driving myself crazy always wondering are they cheating on me again why are they taking so long it dosent take that long and i would go nuts
• India
11 Jul 10
Hello baby welcome to mylot I am sorry to learn that you have been cheated many times, because you are simple and trust all. In my opnion a cheater is always a cheater, he might be having multiple relationships, NEVER TRUST A CHEAT for the second time... Thanks for sharing. Welcome always. Cheers. Professor
@kp1989 (38)
• India
6 Jul 10
i think it completely depends on and also d circumstances under which d person cheated us and also d person who has cheated us and how much we r ready to believe him .but a betrayal is a, betrayal, and i personally think dat a second chance should be given to d person who u feeel deserves it ,but at d same time must ensure dat such a situation never arises again
@lesnan (538)
• United States
4 Jul 10
never!
@hiddenwing (3720)
• China
3 Jul 10
Theoretically, a fox can change grey but never good. It is hard for people to change. Like you said, they cheated you one time. It is possible that they cheated you again. I am a soft-hearted person, however. I know it is not right to forgive the cheater, but I always can't help taking someone back.
@jhnmikala (152)
• United States
3 Jul 10
I probably would but it would be really really hard to do and if I did it would have to of somting minor if it was something major then no I wouldnt.
@wisename (26)
• Indonesia
3 Jul 10
Betrayal is a "heavy stuff".. Life is to big to depend on someone who had betrayed you. Your conclusion was correct. I myself "allowed" my lovely one to hurt my feeling, as long as it's not involving someone else, i mean cheated on me, that i will not accept. You had that strength, keep your life move on.
@rosegardens (3037)
• United States
3 Jul 10
No, I would not stay with someone who cheated on me. Like you, if he loves me he will not do that. I would never do that to anyone, it is so wrong for many reasons. Other people are brought into the relationship, there is a division between the couple because of the other person who he is cheating with, and of course there are a multitude of diseases he can bring home. Raincoats don't always protect against those. Can you imagine going to the doc for a regular check up and finding out you have a disease? That is the ultimate betrayal to find your husband is cheating on you. I hope that never happens to anyone, how awful that would be, especially if there are children.
@spalladino (17914)
• United States
3 Jul 10
When one partner cheats on the other there is a loss of trust. I don't believe a relationship can last if there is no trust and it's awfully hard...if not impossible...to regain trust in someone who has betrayed you.