what is the foundation of a good relationship

Philippines
July 3, 2010 8:36am CST
People kept talking about love. Getting married because of love. any varieties of love as long as there is love. But why people break up? Because they lost the love already? What is the essence of love to make every relationship to be strong. How long will you hold your love? for better or worst? or just for the better and good things in life?
17 responses
@abhi000 (235)
• India
30 Jul 10
You can,t love anyone else until you love yourself.Everyone knows this platitude self help therapists regurgitate it a mindless mantra.I don't know its exact origin, but whoever first uttered the phrase confused things terribly.Before you can let yourself be loved by another you must first accept and love yourself.If you are not capable to receiving love you will attract and be attracted to others who will give you anything but love.
• Philippines
6 Jul 10
for me the best foundation of love was trust because if you didnt trust you didnt love...oh hah...
@gherjhoy (24)
• Philippines
5 Jul 10
most relationships fail because both parties lose trust or simply because they just "fell out of love". honestly, that is not love. if i were to define love, i'll say it is eternal. and you could only have one love of a lifetime. if the relationship that you are currently in ends, that is not the love God has prepared for you. so, just let go and let God. heheh..
@xcel0684 (76)
• Philippines
4 Jul 10
If you were to ask me, the foundation of a good relationship is trust, love and respect.
@rosebinas (180)
• Philippines
4 Jul 10
The strongest foundation to make a relationship work is Friendship. Where there is friendship there is trust and respect and open line of communication.
• Portugal
5 Jul 10
the good way to keep love and dont let it fade i think is caring constantly you know show you care everyday and dont forget to say i love you everyday like when some couples are so used to each other that think i dont need to say it bcs she or he knows it but i think there are things that we must do always like day that words. also i think honesty is a big thing too. if we feel something is wrong or we feel like that person doesnt care much anymore or something like that we must say it. and not keep it. i think most part of relations that fail is bcs some things were not told. people always need to talk to solve things and dont ignore if we feel something is not right
@alabella (91)
• Poland
3 Jul 10
I think that the most important is trust. How to make a good couple without trust? The person who is reliable and trustworthy will always make good relationship. It is more important than crazy and sweet moments which will pass and than they only become memories and the person turns out to be an untrustworthy partner who will leave you alone when you are in need.
@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
4 Jul 10
sometimes love is not enough. making a relationship means u will get happy, hurt, smiley, achy, and so on. all this time i had try to hold my love in better and worst.
@o0jopak0o (6394)
• Philippines
3 Jul 10
i think love,friendship. i think for the early middle part of your marriage youll be madly in love but after a while that feeling will fade and i think this is where friendship will be helpful.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
3 Jul 10
Relationship must be consist of the main factor,Love. but love is not enough to build a strong relationship. Honesty and faithfulness is a must,and faith in God. Without God in between,one can do mistakes or cheat in a relationship. What is the best foundation of a good relationship? No one can tell,all i know is,it takes two to build that relationship. It takes two to make it even stronger. Most relationship breaks,coz,only one is striving hard to save a relationship.
@emerillus (467)
• Philippines
4 Jul 10
For me, a good relationship will survive if there is faith in each other, or trust that what they do is good for the relationship. If there is a misunderstanding, everything can be patched up immediately because of trust that what they are doing is for the good of the relationship. I agree that it takes two to build that foundation.
@rosebinas (180)
• Philippines
4 Jul 10
Love is a very powerful word that we must not just take in lightly. In my opinion, no matter how much we fall in love with someone, let us not forget that FRIENDSHIP is still considered the best foundation to make it last.
• United States
4 Jul 10
think about this, what if you are forced to be married in order to maintain the relationship you have, keep it within a distance. What if you are uncertain of how things may go, but yet uncertain whether or no you may lose them or not if you don't keep them close. I think marrige is cute and sweet, but traditional and for those who are mature enough.
• Finland
4 Jul 10
It's only a basic need that we call love. You meet someone interesting and want to get closer and closer. We all have our personalities and differences and that causes troube in love. It's wery easy to blame other, but actually it's all about yours ability to handle the differences between you and he/she. At least that's the way in my life. In up's and down's as they say. Ofcourse the same works on both sides. If you truly love someone, you are able to fit his/her world whit yours and yes. those worlds changes all the time. Love never loses, the broblems only gets bigger if not unsolved.
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
3 Jul 10
True love my dear. True never expires, it never lies, and it never pretends.Human beings thrive on pretence and insincerity. He/she will tell you "I love" you when he/she doesnt mean it at all. Unfortunately, because often we take people for their words, we come to learn too late that that person did not mean what he/she said and soon you discover that there was no love at all, then the relationship crumbles. Dont go into a relationship if you have not made up your mind to love someone, you will hurt someone I can bet on that.
@tomitomi (5429)
• Singapore
3 Jul 10
To me it's trust. It's the foundation of any good relationship that works. You have to prove yourself worthy of being trusted and you have to trust unless you can prove otherwise. You can't buy trust. Once it's lost, it's lost forever.
• United Arab Emirates
3 Jul 10
How long do people know eachother thats important. There are times when thare are ups and downs in life. When ego's come in clash there will be problems. When people dont want to understand, cant share thats when there will be problems in married life. This is bcos of personla ego's. If husband and wife treat eachother as equal then there will not be problems.