Why not comment back ??

@krajibg (11934)
Guwahati, India
July 7, 2010 9:07am CST
Ever since I have joined 'mylot' one thing I have been constantly observing that some mylotters never bother to comment back when you respond to their posts. In my more than one year's span here have hardly left any response to my posts uncommented as I feel sort of guilty if I fail or forget to comment back. I was off mylot for almost three months and when I have started afresh, once again I have got the same attitude from fellow mylotters. Yesterday I responded as many as seven discussions but have not been commented back as yet and I have lost the hope that I would get. And once I feel that this fellow is not interested in commenting back I almost stop to participate in his/her discussion however interesting it might not be. This is my personal feeling. What about you? This is an open question and no offense.
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@Jennlk84 (4216)
• United States
7 Jul 10
For me it just really all depends. I try to comment people back but sometimes I get busy and don't visit Mylot for a few days and may forget. There are days when I can only spend a few minutes on Mylot and I often try to respond to a few discussions but don't always think to go and check out my old discussions to see if anyone has commented. I do try! But I also think that there are times when you don't always have to comment back either - just based on what the person said. Just my opinion. :-)
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@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
7 Jul 10
Hi, Yes, I agree that it depends. Say if the response is irrelevant and too short and so and so forth you could easily ignore and leave uncommented. But when you are convinced that you have left something solid in the form of your response and also know that yours is very much important so far the discussion topic goes how would you feel? I can well understand your position. It happens to most of us. Sometime we are off the NET for days together and it gets delayed and possibility is there that we forget but is it possible to forget a response which hits the bull's eye too hard? And one thing is for sure that when there are too many responses and some of them are nothing but just repetition you could easily skip. In some of my discussion I received more than 80 responses and just reflect how much time consuming it would be to attend all. Hence in such cases leaving a few orphaned bears justice.
@celticeagle (123877)
• Boise, Idaho
7 Jul 10
First off. fellow mylotters do their 'commenting' at off times. So you may they see them the following day and they have been done while you were sleeping. Then you must try to remember that unless your comment is compelling you may not get an answer. I don't answer all but I do answer most if they are compelling and give me reason to answer back.
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
8 Jul 10
Well celti there is logic in your says. but paradoxically I have experienced a few times that even if the response is too much compelling and too relevant to the discussion you do not get comment back. What would you say on this? I too agree that if the response is just a so so one and hardly bears any novelty, one might keep away from addressing that but not when it is relevant and very much too the point.
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@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
8 Jul 10
and yes, this is not so important when they comment. Let them do so the next day or the next month but when I feel my response is good enough to receive comment i would wait and if not get any I get disappointed.
@celticeagle (123877)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Jul 10
But, what if it is merely your opinion that your response is very compelling? What if the person it reaches doesn't think so? It is just what the beholder sees in it.
• United States
12 Jul 10
when im active here i comment back on all my replies.. in fact even when im not active i still will keep the emails with the replies so even if it takes me months to get time i will still EVENTUALLY go back and reply lol.. its polite and not to mention it makes your discussion show up as more recent which helps if some one is just searching around to get more replies and earn more money
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
12 Jul 10
Hi moon, I really appreciate such gesture and you can keep discussion alive and interesting only when involve yourself there. Or else no point putting a discussion and leaving the responses received orphaned. With such act not only you pour cold water on your discussion but also deprive yourself from some penny. Once or twice I received more than 100 responses in on my posts. I tried to comment back all of them and if one or two got left back it was due to forgetfulness or they were too short inputs to comment back. Thanks for sharing.
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• United States
12 Jul 10
lol actually your discussion reminded me to look through the emails i have been saving to reply back to and i found a few that were buried in my email box from late 2009! but at least im replying!! but yeah there are some people that reply with 2 words and there isnt really anything you can say back.. sometimes if a discussion does really well i wont be able to get around to answering everyone just because of time
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
12 Jul 10
I too have replied back some responses which were months older. But the important thing is that those must be worth commenting. Time factor is one such thing indeed. When a discussion really gets going you have tough time sitting on them. lol
• Philippines
8 Jul 10
Sometimes the members have nothing to say to the responser, but it really necessary to comment back for the responser will know if their response is being read or appreciated. Some do not comment back as they will get no earnings for commenting thank you to the responser. Anyhow, I still do thanks them for dropping by and reading my discussions though. An in order for the site to be interactive, it is a must that the members interact. This is not only for their benefits, but also for their readers.
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
8 Jul 10
Hi grecy, You are right. Two things come to the fore here. If you start a discussion topic there is possibility that one or more people would respond and if you do not interact what is the point of creating a post? Second thing is that if you are here for both some remuneration and intellectual exercises you need to comment or else you would lose both money thing and the purpose of your being here. But how many realize this?
• Philippines
9 Jul 10
Yeah, what's the use of a topic if they will not interact, first of all we are here in Mylot for a quality discussion, it is not earning at all. WE need to feed useful information not only for our benefits but for all.
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
10 Jul 10
Yes, if we see the monetary aspect it is too minimal in comparison to your inputs. Hence it says all loud and large that basically we are here for some quality discussions. and if there is no interaction and reciprocation no use of creating a discussion post. Happy stay at mylot...
@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
7 Jul 10
hi raj, your missing in action is truly felt. Watsup? I truly feel bad if I don't reply to my respondents. Even if it takes me days or weeks to comment, I will fullfil my obligation as the OP. Though it is not compulsory but for the sake of goodwill, it is highly recommended to reciprocate.
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
7 Jul 10
Hi zands my friend, you too were missed though not here at mylot but by me. well, now coming to the context. I know you well you are one person who take pain to comment even to one liner be it with a smiley and that is the true spirit of a myloter. Since we are involved in a discussion it sort of becomes compulsion to participate and say the says what the starter of the topic has to say and this creates interest in any discussion.
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@zandi458 (27948)
• Malaysia
8 Jul 10
hahaha....right now am squatting in a foreign country and my presence online is so much limited these days as I have to rely on borrowed computer or my mobile to go online. Yes...am enjoying the cool climate down under with the kangaroos.
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
8 Jul 10
Wow, so now you are in Australia !!! great. Enjoy yourself and do meet Paula and other friends from that part of the Earth.
@dawnald (84069)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Jul 10
I have the same thing. If I reply to somebody's discussions and they NEVER comment back, I eventually stop visiting their discussions. It's the give and take that I like here. If there's give and no take, what's the point?
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
12 Jul 10
Hi dawn, Thats what I was shouting at. You are in my friends list and I have been responding to your discussions but you do not reciprocate at all!! What is the point there that you are my friend? Just keep in touch and do participate in the discussions and make them interesting. Now should not I delete you from my list as well? This is the usual scenario with some of them in or outside friends list. I really do not get motivated to visit them any more. Thanks for sharing.
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@dawnald (84069)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Jul 10
I don't?
@common_man (1799)
• India
7 Jul 10
Hi friend, Yes I agree with you. When some one is taking time and pain to response to your discussion you must comment on the response. If you have nothing to comment on response then also at least a note of thanks should be left there. It ensures respondent that his response has been read. I am with you. I also try to comment on each response received.
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
7 Jul 10
Hi friend, There you are. Once you leave a response on a post this is spontaneous expectation that it is read and commented and if it is very interesting discussed thoroughly. But some of the users do not understand the spirit.
• India
9 Jul 10
you are right. Everybody has different perspective on any issue.
@meapas (2433)
• India
10 Jul 10
Yes you are very right. This has happened with me too. To be very frank I just don't bother. When ever I get time I still respond to interesting discussions or if I have anything to respond. I know everyone of us do not have same maturity level.
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
10 Jul 10
Hi meapas, That is the problem I guess - Maturity Level. Only because of that there is no proper discussions even on interesting topics. Now I too have stopped bothering about this. I would do mine and let others decide for themselves. thanks for the response.
@Pose123 (21661)
• Canada
9 Jul 10
Hi rajib, I agree with you and I always try to comment back as well. If I've missed someone, it was by mistake as That's not my way of doing things. When you comment back you still get paid by myLot, as if you had started a new discussion. Blessings.
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
9 Jul 10
Hi pose, there is no complaint against you at least in this regard. None of my response on your post has gone revert commented. and I feel this should be one's approach towards one's discussion. Unless there is an interaction and reciprocation no post can be tagged as discussion. Thanks a lot for sharing.
• Kenya
8 Jul 10
OK Krajibg, here it is.. I think mylot is cool, expecially when you know the right discussions to participate in. Guys choose discussions based on the topic an on how many responses the topic gets. of course a hot topi with many responses attracts many users and comments. OK Drajibg??
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
8 Jul 10
welcome mugwanja. This is nice that your mylot journey starts with my post. Have great times here.
@dsrp82 (678)
• Brazil
8 Jul 10
Sometimes the person doesnt have anything nice to say. If you say anything you want, MyLot will delete it anyway...
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
8 Jul 10
Hi dsrp, this not a matter of saying nice thing man. This is a matter of discussion. In discussion there is always interaction, debate and arguments. and i do not think mylot would delete for saying anything here without valid reason.
@Sreekala (32780)
• India
8 Jul 10
Hi raj, I agree that there is a trend among many members, neglecting the responses by not commenting back. Some are just posting many discussions but not showing any interest to get back with responders. May be they wish to make more money with more topics. They failed to realize that they can earn more by giving comments to their responders. I wish to say another thing here, for the last one week the notifications on comments are not reaching in my mail box. I don’t know that the similar experience is with you too. Yesterday I checked through the ‘responded tag’ and I came to know that many of my responses are commented by the starters but I have not received notifications about the same. So please check if there is any such things happened with you too.
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
8 Jul 10
Hi kala, Yes those who create many a post but do not get back to the respondents might be expecting more earning which is totally a wrong notion. Oh yes, I checked as you mentioned and saw many of my responses have already been commented. But the story doesn't stop here with not getting notification. This not commenting back is a regular practice for some mylotters. thanks a lot.
@alienstar (5142)
• India
8 Jul 10
If their really busy they don't look into their own discussions which soemtimes will also get 100 responses or even more.It all depends on time they have i guess.But if you respond to more people, you will also get more benefited here as earnings will also increase for thread creater along with comments he gets.Don't pick up any individual to see whether he comments or not.Instead just concentrate on quality and involve yourselves, you will get more benifited
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
8 Jul 10
Hi alienstar, You are right. Some members here hardly bother to check back their created post if at all some one has responded and even if some have they do not take pain to comment back. I do not see any reason on such act. No man i am not pointing at any particular individual. I am going my way and i comment whoever responds to my post. That is just simple.
@ketybhagat (4125)
• India
8 Jul 10
Hi krajibg, this is indeed a woe of many of the mylotters, for once you respond to a discussion, you may or may not get a reply back. One has to try and reply again to your responder so as to continue the discussion. Otherwise it is just you and teh responder and then finish. Guess we all must try and prolong the discussion as far as possible, so as to be called a discussion and not just a reply. thanks.
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
8 Jul 10
Hi ketty, yes the similar things are taking place these days. there is no discussion but reply or no reply and pack up and finish. This really harms the motto of the Mylot that this is primarily a discussion platform. thanks for sharing.
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
8 Jul 10
Hi krajib, good to see you back! I’ve come across several members here who are not too happy not to be receiving comments to their responses and I appreciate their sentiments but I don’t let it worry me too much because I do receive a lot of replies from my friends. I have seen people not get back to me for a while but a lot do eventually and I understand that life can be busy sometimes. I respond to whatever interests me regardless of how many times the person has replied to me. I wish people did make more of an effort at times, but it doesn’t bother me too much.
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
8 Jul 10
Hi paula, not that I am not happy as do not get revert comment from fellow mylotters but I am more worried over the whole issue. this is not only me that some time I miss comments but this has become sort of habit for many and if this is to continue in large number the prime purpose of discussion would suffer a set back. Ya, i would get upset sometime but not any more for you can not change the attitude of so many users here. I am happy that i am getting response and comments on my post and response respectively. Thanks.
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@missybear (11393)
• United States
8 Jul 10
I try to come back and respond to all my discussions even once that are old and got opened back up for discussion. That's the purpose isn't it?
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
8 Jul 10
Hi missy, Yes one needs to see the purpose of the action and act accordingly. If you do not comment and reciprocate what is the point of initiating a discussion?
@knicnax (2233)
• Philippines
8 Jul 10
Hi Karjibg. I for one try to comment back as much as I could, but I think you should be aware that it's stated in myLot's FAQs that you shouldn't comment back on all posts. I comment when I have something to add to someone's reply or I beg to differ. Sometimes when I totally agree, I don't comment at all, because I just might repeat what I said in the main discussion posts. I also don't reply to very short responses that only tell you "I agree"
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
8 Jul 10
Hi knicnax, Mylot admin keeps on changing rules but if you are not to comment on all posts why they say that one should participate in a discussion? I do not see any point. Of course if the response is not relevant to what is in the original post there does not arise question of commenting but if it really leaves heavy shadow one can not nor should ignore it. What is your view?
@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
7 Jul 10
I understand this feeling as I have felt this way a couple of times before. Then again, its not all that bad as some other members would even consider commenting on a post that is given to discussions, even if such discussions are not even the ones that they started. Anyone can comment back on anyone's posts actually, not only the one who started the discussion. That's why I just keep on posting if ever there are interesting discussion that gets my attention. Then again, its not always how I described before. Not a lot of members do that, or based on how I see usually. I get to see that happen, when those who indeed have multiple participants interacting in an exchange of comments and posts, are actually friends with each other here in this site. I guess they do that to each other often so perhaps, we could also comment on posts of our friends in case we get to see them participating in the same discussion? Just a thought.
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
8 Jul 10
Hi ratyz, yes, that is correct that not necessarily there should be a comment on a response by the stater, but we do not get such thing happening always that some one else has commented upon. In my view if the response is worth the penny the starter should come down and interact. I agree that in case of multiple responses it might not be possible to address all the responses for some of them are mere tautology. Not that I am not getting comment from my friends but there are some friends, I mean enlisted in the friends' list and non enlisted who hardly bother to pay heed even if you have spoken loud and large.
@rosepedal64 (4191)
• United States
7 Jul 10
I always try my best to respond back to the discussions that I started. Then I will go back and check on the ones that I commented on to see if I can add something. I do this out of respect to other mylotters. Most on here are for the income but then there are those that are really wanting to make friends or need real answers. You never know which is which so why not respond and comment to all. Good discussion and have a great day.
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
8 Jul 10
Hi rose, I am taken aback when I observe that one person is commenting on some and skipping some other, not that the skipped ones are just waste. There is a partiality mentality in them and this surely mars the spirit of true discussion. Since one starts a discussion with the expectation that people respond or discuss the topic. And when thee is a discussion on it it sort of becomes compulsion on the part of the starter that he/she be there amidst the respondents. But ironically this is not the case with so many here.
@shibham (17019)
• India
7 Jul 10
hi boss. well i dislike all those mylotters who do so and never go to their discussions in rest of my mylot journey. take care.
@krajibg (11934)
• Guwahati, India
8 Jul 10
Hi shibham, that is natural. even I feel so when on a couple of occasion I get no comment.