Tell me: Are you afraid to be noticed?
China
July 7, 2010 3:36pm CST
Have you ever had a feeling that you think everyone is looking at you while you are walking through the hall way? Have you ever wanted to find a place just for yourself while you are in the crowd? Have you ever suddenly walked toward the bathroom and locked yourself in just for taking a deep breath? I have. I always have a thought that everyone around me is looking at me which even I know is not true. I am afraid to be noticed, and my mind tells me that I will never want to be the one under the central spot light. I did try to 'fix' it cuz I don't wanna other people to think I am weird or different. So I pushed myself in front of people on purpose and hoped I would no longer be afraid. It might be hard to believe that I went to the play's tryout, I ran for the senate election, and I even joined the cheerleading squad. But all of these didn't really help me to change. I mean, I enjoyed trying those different new things in my life, and my classmates probably think I am an active girl at school, but I know I still don't feel comfortable around people. I might hide myself very well in front of the public even I was actually terrified, but I could never talk correctly with certain kids at school. When I was walking in the hall way, I just wished nobody came to talk to me. It is kinda weird and I really really don't like it.
So...Are you afraid to be noticed? If you are or you were this kind of person, please share your experience with me and maybe give me some suggestions. Thanks=)
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@MellowYellow (39)
• United States
7 Jul 10
It's funny because I am a Leo and Leo's are known for craving attention and being the life of the party but I'm the opposite. I don't like too much attention on myself and prefer intimate gatherings to large crowds. There is nothing wrong with feeling this way. It's defined as being introverted.
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@deciever903 (35)
• South Korea
23 Jan 11
It's just me, but I crave for attention.
It seems that it's the way to prove my existence, power and achievement.
But sometimes there are times that I want to lock myself up in a private place.
But that's life.
I can't change my mistakes.
We learn from them.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
17 Jul 10
I am also a reserved person who is homely and doesn't like to socialize much. My virtual personality is far difference from my real self. Online I tend to have more conversation which is totally opposite in the real world. I was told that I lack confidence in myself so that explains why I like to shy away from the public. I am learning to be more open now and start to attend social gatherings just to change the way I am.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
5 May 11
When I was younger I was more shy than I am today, but even today I don't feel comfortable when I am the center of attention. I recognize the feeling that everyone is looking at me. I know that it isn't true, it is just a feeling, but it is hard to get rid of it. I got that feeling when I was walking down the halls at my school and I also got it when I was walking in town and had to pass a cafe or a restaurant where there were chairs and tables outside.
I was told that I had to find alternative thoughts and instead of thinking: "Everyone is looking at me" I had to think something like: "I am not that interesting and people are too busy with their own lives to notice me". I tried it, but I must say that it didn't really work and I found it hard to get rid of the feeling that everyone noticed me.
@vulgarlittleprincess (919)
• Canada
10 Jul 10
I am terrified of being noticed. I have social anxiety so being the center of attention is not something that I am comfortable with. at all. ever. I often wish that I could hide somewhere when I'm in public and have even started smoking to have an escape at parties when I need to get out side and away from everyone. I do not smoke often, or regularly, just when I need a break in a social situation. It is a huge effort for me to hang out with more than one person so going to parites is me forcing myself to try to fix it and appear normal, but it is exhausting to do so. I come home and just crawl in bed and wait for everything to go back to normal.
I really do not like being this way, at all. It is very hard to have a life and meet friends when I do not know how to speak to people. I get tongue tied and trip voer words and trail off awkwardly...
I wish I had suggestions for you, but alas I do not. I think I need some myself!
@keshia2007r (2880)
• United States
10 Jul 10
I actually don't mind the attention. I actually like it. But what I don't like to do is talk in front of people. I'm still working on that, but that is my number one problem I have with being the center of attention. I'm quite and reserved, but I like to be notice bc I dress well. But I hate to speak in front of a large group of people. That might sound weird, but I think you'll grow out of this, I as well with me speaking in front of people. I just want to say good luck and remember confidence is key. Im taking my own advise as well. Good Luck again!!
@mdude53 (29)
• Romania
13 Jul 10
Sometimes I feel like that too. Sometimes I wish I were alone in the hallway or on the street because I have the wrong impression that everyone stares at me. I try to take a deep breath, clear my mind and tell myself that it's not true, it's just in my mind. It depends on my mood. When I'm happy I don't care if the whole world stares at me. :)
