Friendship problems
By Porcospino
@Porcospino (31366)
Denmark
July 18, 2010 7:51am CST
One of my friends has a friend who treats her very badly. Her friend keeps on saying that she wants to end the friendship, but after a while she changes her mind and starts contacting my friend again. One time my friend and her husband had bought christmas presents for her friend, but the "friend" never showed up, she didn't call, she didn't apologize, she simply ignored my friend for a couple of months and then she contacted her again. My friend was very hurt. She gets hurt every time the other girl ends the friendship.
We have discussed this situation a lot, and I have told my friend that if I had been in that situation, I would ignore the girl when she suddenly wants to be friends again. I hate to see my friend get hurt all the time, and it is my impression that the other girl thinks that she can treat my friend any way that she chooses. Ultimately it is my friend's decision if she wants to accept the girl's behaviour or not, but it makes me sad to see the way that the other girl treats her and I don't think that she deserves that.
What do you think about this situation? What would you have done if you had been in my friend's situation?
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6 responses
@ET28LV (1890)
• Latvia
28 Jul 10
Hi Porcospino,
I had been in this situation with one girl and she always hurt me like your friend. It was a bit different, because I fall in love with girl who had a friend. Every day we was talking for all, but one day I was get a message I was thought that It is my luck. The girl was said I end our relations and she was said her want to be together with me. I was thought that is It is my last hope to be together with she. We was together about one month and one day she was said all is ended with us. I want to be together with my last boyfriend. And this was happened with me two times.
I was shocked and hurt at that moment. My heart was broken and I did not know what to do. But, one day I was forgot her and my heart was like new. My best suggests for your friend is he need to leave her he can find new girl, because on this world there is many girls which would be happy to be together with your friend. This girls and boys what hurts people never change, because they always do the same. Good luck, Take care, Have a nice day!
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
28 Jul 10
I am sorry to hear about the girl who hurt you. I would also have been shocked or hurt if I had been in your situation. I agree with you about my friend, I think it would be best if she left that girl and tried to find another friend, because that girl is just going to hurt her again and again 
@zenki08 (700)
• Philippines
19 Jul 10
Yes you are right your friend should just ignore this person. This would only bring in more hurt and stress to your friend. But I do commend your friend for still accepting this person. This only goes to show that she is kind hearted. But the thing is she must think what is best for her.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
19 Jul 10
That is a good point. My friend is kind and she thinks that the other girl might change and stop behaving that way. Unfortuneately I think that she will just keep on getting hurt if she decides to continue the friendship, because the other girl thinks that she can treat her any way that she chooses. I believe it would be best for my friend to end the friendship completely, so that she doesn't get hurt all the time.
@shenlynn7823 (641)
• Philippines
18 Jul 10
hi porcospino,
In this life,I have learned many things especially when it comes to friends...and If I am in her situation,I would only do one thing,I will let her taste the dose of her own medicine,I am not a bad person,but if she does this humiliating thing to me no matter how I value her as a human being & as a friend,I would definitely do the thing that she is doing to me for her to realize what she is doing is really bad...
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@wannaberich (246)
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18 Jul 10
I suggest you try to introduce your friend to new friends, in that way her attention can focus on something else and maybe from there, she can have a new life. In no time, she'll realize that it's not worth having friendship with her old friend.
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@Lunaxh (45)
• China
19 Jul 10
Hi, Porcospi.
I think your friend should ignore the girl. Obviously, the girl never care about your friend's feelings and hurt your friend again and again. Is there any meaning to make friends with such people? I think the most important thing between friends is truely caring about each other.
@inocentes (78)
• Philippines
19 Jul 10
try to talk to your friend and help her realize that her friend is not a real riend and she doesnt deserve such an attention from you friend. If ever your friend still chooses to communicate to her friend, thats her choice already. Maybe she has a better intention if she does as long as you do your part as her friend too.
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