Oh No,I Turned Myself Into A Cyber Beggar!!!

@neildc (17239)
Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
July 24, 2010 9:16am CST
With the present situation my family is facing right now with our 3 year old son Zayzay, I never thought it will happen to me. Since we learned that he needs surgery, I feel the stress, the pressure. I don't know where to get the money. I don't know whom to approach, who will lend us the helping hands. I post a lot on Facebook about my problem. I go to Yahoo Groups to find old friends from schools. I sent letters through email, to relatives, friends, media people, politicians, etc. And all of a sudden, I realize, I am begging. Oh no, I turned myself into a Cyber Beggar, I told one relative. Do you think what I am doing is righteous?
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
24 Jul 10
I think u have to do what u have to , to get help for YOUR SON. i HOPE things work out for u so ne can get the surgery he needs.
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@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
25 Jul 10
the soonest possible time, Jo... thank you for always being here for me and my son...
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
25 Jul 10
I'm glad to do what little i do, Neil. Wish i could do more.
@doryvien (2284)
• United States
24 Jul 10
Hi Neil, I can see you've done everything you can to help your son. Parents would do anything, and I say anything, for the good their kids, and you're a classic example of that. I really hope you'd be able to get a sponsor to finance your child's surgery. Don't stop believing, help could be on your way. Keep on praying.
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@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
25 Jul 10
i won't stop my friend, and i pray it will come very soon. thanks...
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@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Jul 10
you did a right thing bro in the name and for the sake of your kid. I know it's not easy to become a father although I am not a father yet but I learn it from my siblings who happen have their own kids. I'm sorry for that bro, I know you're doing the best to find financial for your kid operation. WHen will be the operation date?
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@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
25 Jul 10
the operation could only be made possible when the money is completed and so far, we can received a little, so scheduling is not yet discussed. please check the page i made for this purpose on facebook. thanks bro.
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• Philippines
24 Jul 10
YOU HAD NO CHOICE,EVERY ONE WHO IS A FATHER WOULD HAVE DONE THE SAME There is NO shame of asking for help ONLINE. what would happen if there was NO INTERNET. ANything to save you're SON. by the way? what happened to the number i gave you. I have known for a while about Zayzay, and am sure every one understands it. there's no shame, you are hero to your boy, don't give up on him. you have our prayers.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
24 Jul 10
thanks buddy and i know you also care for the child. unfortunately, i have not tried calling them. i found it difficult to talk with them and seek assistance if you leave far from manila and you do it through phone. but i am not putting aside that suggestion. i am still working online and offline too hard and hopefully, i can find the best solution soon.
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
hmmmm....i don't think Gordon wouldn't be that too occupied since he's only focused on the red cross. i suggest you try it.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
24 Jul 10
i hope he isn't and i also hope we will have the chance to talk with him personally. don't you think it's an awkward thing to talk with him or anyone in their office only through telephone?
@quita88 (3715)
• United States
24 Jul 10
My husband has sleep apnea and is one a C pap machine at night to help him breath right. I dont' know if they have this kind of technology where you are or not but it wouldn't hurt to ask. As far as you begging goes..righteous is not a good word. You are profoundly worried about your son and the surgery he needs. I get a lot emails on my sites asking for money for these causes. I don't give tho if I don't know them. Still think about it. If you have a paypal account and you are in desperate need, use paypal and see if anyone will give you a dollar or two. If they print off the invoice they can use as a tax deduction. Won't hurt to try.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
25 Jul 10
quita, i know about the machine and already asked about it if available here. besides being not available, one that fits a child like us is very rare, even a friend from the US is having a hard time looking for one, for this kid, like i've said earlier above, everyone on mylot has paypal. so how could i use this account, how can i use paypal, how will if work?
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
25 Jul 10
i actually learned about the donor button feature on paypal. have you had any idea how they are charging donors or the account holder, the receiver of the donations?
@quita88 (3715)
• United States
25 Jul 10
I am guessing you don't have a pay pal account put in your brower, www.paypal.com and when it opens, find the place where you can open a new account. You'll need a user name of course and a password. It is best and for what you are doing, to have a bank account and use that account number in paypal to make you verified. Then, just follow what paypal asks for. then begin asking for small donations using your email account that you used for paypal that you type into a mail for instance or here on mylot......... I'm not sure you can do that on mylot but think so. People who know you and want to help you will be able to send safely money from their paypal account to yours. Then, with the money you get go into paypal and find in the the drop down menu the place where you can take the money in your paypal account out and put it into your bank. You will have money. NOW, the important thing is to ALWAYS thank each person for the amount they gave you. I doubt anyone would want the money back but do say you will as soon as you are able and do it if you can !! Keep a running list of who gave how much, the email address and then thank them. Any more questions or problems, PM me. quita
• Mexico
24 Jul 10
Hi neildc: I think that, when we love a relative, specially our own children and we know that we need the money to safe their lives we sometimes take difficult decitions, like for example, begging. I know it's not the most comfortable situation but I won't judge you for doing this. Thanks for sharing with us how you feel. Have a nice day. ALVARO
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@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
25 Jul 10
thank you too alvaro for sharing your thoughts about this.
@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
25 Jul 10
Well I guess you are doing the right thing. I think for as long as your conscience is clear about why you need financial assistance there is really nothing to be ashamed of what you are doing. Another thing maybe you can ask for help with the TV networks because as far as I know ABS has this foundation Bantay Bata and GMA Kapuso Foundation might be able to help you with that since they will air your concern and might be able to reach farther than you think. Media can be a big help in your situation. I hope you can find some kind of help somewhere in your quest to help your son's condition.
@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
You mean you have to go here in Manila. Try going to their local stations in there personally. I think what they need is to see you personally. I think there are local chapters of their foundations there as well.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
25 Jul 10
i already sent them letters but people from both networks said, i have to personally go to their offices. i know they are a big help for people in need like me, and i am not stopping until they respond with a better news. i wish i am in manila.
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@derek_a (10874)
25 Jul 10
What you are doing is for your son, and as far as I am concerned, it is fully righteous and nobody has the right to judge what you are doing. Monks in Zen monasteries in the far east go out and beg to learn that there is nothing wrong with doing so. It is only the opinions of others that it is not righteous. I am reminded of the saying "a friend in need, is a friend indeed". In fact it is admirable what you are prepared to do for your son. _Derek
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
25 Jul 10
thank you so much derek. i just hope i can reach more people but only through internet that i can do it. if i could only be living in manila, i will surely knock on the doors of the media people and politicians and even on malacanang.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Jul 10
hi neildc Yes it is because you are a father who loves his son and does not want him to suffer, you are being righteous in a difficult situation. Nobody can blame you for looking for'help; as any of us would do the same thing when the health of our loved one is in peril. I only hope we can all in some way help you to get the money you need. Good Luck and may God bless you all.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Jul 10
hi neildc yes I am sure you are going to get all you need, and I will keep praying too as all prayers could help.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
25 Jul 10
hopefully hatley, more will come our way. there are some who already pledged their support and assistance. but it's a long way to go for me and i really have to work much more harder, day and night.
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Jul 10
When it comes to your children, you do what you have to. good luck, I hope you're getting close...
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
28 Jul 10
still very far from it dawn. but i hope we get there soon, very very soon.
@krajibg (11923)
• Guwahati, India
24 Jul 10
Hi neildc, I am sorry to learn your plight. Hope things would get better soon. Back to the topic. Since you are in dire need of some financial assistance from any avenues that is open for you and ironically all seems to have closed them selves. There is no offense though in asking for help, be it your relatives, friends in real life or in the cyber world, politicians or any other agency,. I do not think this is a begging. You have done what was in your capacity.This is the ones you had approached and have not got any positive gestures to do something for you. Bad luck is that you are not being responded by any. I feel you should not give it up. Stick around and see soon one or the other would be in front of you and you are out of all those troubles you are presently in. Good Luck
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
25 Jul 10
there are already some responded to my call but they are small ones. i won't stop doing this thing until i get the best good news from any one of them. anyway, small things coming and if they come in bulk, they will get to be big soon.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
25 Jul 10
i really hope one day i will receive the best good news. thanks for getting back here.
@krajibg (11923)
• Guwahati, India
25 Jul 10
That is right and you just go on. Who knows one day you might get something solid in your hands. I wish I too could help you.
@Ladyslipper (1327)
• Philippines
6 Aug 10
Hi Neil, I know how you feel right now. If I'd be in your situation I would not mind what other people would think about me. I would do everything to save my child's life and give her/ him the best life in this world. I just gave birth to my 2nd son about 4 days ago. I'm already out in the hospital but he was left to the hospital's care. He's still under observation. He has low white blood cells count. They can't give me an exact date as to when I can bring him home. I'm so worried I can't sleep well at night. I know one organization in the Philippines who might be able to help you. One of my office mates before was needing a large amount of money for her father's heart bypass operation. CARITAS Manila was able to help them and her father was successfully operated on. You might want to check them out through the web. I hope all goes well with your child.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
7 Aug 10
i will search for caritas and try if we can request for assistance. thanks for this...
• United States
25 Jul 10
There is nothing absolutely wrong to do when it comes to our children and what you are doing the correct. How else would anyone know your son has a need if you don't ask. There is nothing begging about it, life is tough enough without having to stress about such great importance like this. Good luck to you and I will pray for you and your son!
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
25 Jul 10
thanks for sending us all your prayers.
• United States
25 Jul 10
You are very welcome and hope all works well.
@gaboni (644)
• Israel
25 Jul 10
Its legitimate because you love Zayzay, and you will do anything for him to survive, like my mom did with my sister who was sick for about twelve years, and only last year we finally found the donator for her surgery in order to save her. my mom cried a lot, she begged for many people to lend her money in order to pay on the surgery, she is still paying those debts by these days, but my sister is healed so its worth it, i even took a part time job to support her. be strong, and work alot on mylot, in cases like this every dollar matters:)
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
25 Jul 10
thanks for understanding my situation. i really won't do this or i couldn't if only for my son.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
24 Jul 10
Hi neildc, I am sorry that your son is ill and needs surgery. Have you tried to get in touch with some kind of State Agency that gives some type of Emergency Medical Assistance? I don't think that you are begging. You have a child that needs help and you can't pay for his surgery. If you put the word out there maybe someone will see it and be able to put you in touch with someone that will be able to help you. I do hope that you get the help that you need.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
25 Jul 10
i have tried sending letters to some people and even media and politicians but i still don't have responses. i will continue sending more letters. i have also started a fun page for the said cause, on Facebook.
@king4aday (680)
• Philippines
25 Jul 10
I am sorry to hear about your son.I think what your doing right. Any parent would do anything for their child. One of the things that I've learned when I got married is that you can't let pride become an obstacle when finding a solution. Have you tried asking help from PCSO? A relative of mine ask for their help when a family member was in the hospital. Though I think you have to visit their office early since there are a lot of people there asking for help as well. I wish I could but I am in financial pickle myself. I would include your child in my prayers. I hope your child gets well soon.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
25 Jul 10
i have been in pcso but i learned from them that they will only assist one patient for only 10K which is too far from what we have to pay for the surgery. that's true, there are lots of people lining almost everyday to seek help and you really have a lot of patience once you get there. thanks for the prayers.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
25 Jul 10
What you are doing is for your son and nothing is wrong when a parent is doing it for his children providing it is not against the law of course! You are doing all you can to obtain the money to help your boy; you should feel proud of yourself and certainly not ashamed. I would continue to approach everyone I can think of; I hope you are receiving some help. Can you offer some services such as garden maintenance, car washing etc? I will be sending you some prayers and I wish I was not so financially strapped and that I could help you! Good luck to you my friend, keep us posted...
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
25 Jul 10
hi paula. so far there are small amounts coming from relatives, friends, online and offline, and even friends from school and teachers. i am not sure there are other ways so far, as if we start offering some service like you mentioned, there would be no one who will take care of the kids. i still have to work in the office, and hopefully, i can get some more over here.
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@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
As a father you'll do everything for your kids. You are seeking help and almost don't know where to go for help financially. I have nothing to give right away in terms of financial you know our life here we are in the same country and you know what I mean. Me too is in most need in different situation. All I can do is to pray for your child. For his needs in material and in health. There is no impossible to God. You did the action as you know what is right to do as a father. Now let's wait for the result. YOu did every necessary moves and you know the effort. With all of this let the Lord do HIs part for you and him. Patiently wait to His help. Pray. Everything be gonna be okay.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
25 Jul 10
i understand the situation and you don't have to worry. prayers help a lot and i thank you for sending one for him.
@tomitomi (5429)
• Singapore
25 Jul 10
Hi neildc! Going through your past posts, I've not seen you begging actually. You needed the money badly for your son's surgery and you were also looking for ways how you could get them. And what I also see is a father's great love, his zealous and never-tiring effort and your great hope a father could give to your son Zayzay. Wish I could help more than just a little prayer to accompany you in your plea.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
25 Jul 10
thanks tomi, that was such a great commendation. yes, i won't stop begging as long as it's for my son.
@bentreed (31)
• United States
24 Jul 10
Friend there is Nothing like being a beggar if it concerns your children. i Believe all things are Possible. Have you tried getting some Christians to pray and stand with you. The Christian Community is one that can really stand with you in your time of need. I Believe that God can do anything for you. I know a lot people may not agree with me but Don't Lose hope. All is not over. Get to some Christians especially Pentecostals and Evangelicals who can will pray with you and believe God to make a way for you. All is Possible.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
25 Jul 10
of course we believe in the Almighty. but we cannot depend in our beliefs alone, we also have to work for what we are asking for.