Open ones??? What do you think about them???
By mr_pearl
@mr_pearl (5018)
India
July 26, 2010 5:01am CST
Hello my dear fellows... I don't really remember when I came across this word 'open' in relation with a 'relationship'... I was a little confused and puzzled to put these two words together... 'Open Relationship!!!' 'What can that mean?' I asked myself and of course, I ended up getting more puzzled... Then, I asked a friend of mine about it... When he explained it, it sounded kind of a cool thing...
As I understand, open relationship means: A couple sharing the information with each other about their extra-marital affairs... In fact, I have heard they 'do it' in presence of each other too... So they are being honest to each other and yet, they are having all kinds of fun... Please correct me, if the my data isn't correct...
Have you heard about it? How does it sound to you? And what about side-effects of this extra freedom??? Please share...
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12 responses
@iamjeciel (32)
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
i'm not really sure if i totally agree with your friend's explanation of open relationship. :-) I think from where I come from, and from what I hear from friends... that could mean that even if two people are going out on dates, or are committed... they are still not restricted from seeing other people. but i don't think married people still do that, unless they are really so liberated. married people should definitely not go on 'open relationship' status... because, why in the world did they get married in the first place if they will not stay committed to one another? honestly, i'm not really in favor of such set-up. but you know, people are different from one another. we all have our beliefs, and that's how we get by in this world. if people prefer such, we cant stop them... i feel that being in that kind of relationship will make anyone feel insecure and unsecured... oh well, so they say, to its his own... i guess that's what they call relationSH*T, have you heard of that one? take care! :-)
@ptower76 (1616)
• United States
26 Jul 10
That one is new to me. relationSH*T. I know i will use it again. Thanks. There are many married people that practice open relationships and while like you I am not in favor for myself, it is still one of the realities of life. Just keep being you and let them do what they want. They will have to answer for it when they stand in front of the gates of heaven. They will also have to answer to their practice in this life in the form of the many diseases and single parent families this practice results in.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
29 Jul 10
Hi.. Thanks to both of you for sharing...
This word is new to me too.. And it is pretty amazing too.. 'Relationsh*t'!!! I agree with both of you upon all the points.. Yes, there are couples who are into this. And I think it is wrong... It sounds so socially unhealthy too..
@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
15 Nov 11
well...
an open relationship for me is you can be freely of who you are
nothing pretend to
but there is always a secret that we have to keep in order to not cause hurt to someone we love
and having affair in extra marital means...they do not love each other
an open relationship for me is you can be freely of who you are
nothing pretend to
but there is always a secret that we have to keep in order to not cause hurt to someone we love
and having affair in extra marital means...they do not love each other
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
What I think of an open relationship is that you are in a relationship but you are still free to see anybody else. Meaning you are not committed to the person you have a relationship with and so does he because you mutually agreed upon it.
For me, I still vale exclusivity over my partner.No, it isn't cool to share my partner with anyone else.Though this may sound fun but it is just temporary.Worse, at the end of it you may have to face a difficult consequence that both of you might regret...
@charmlenile (387)
•
27 Jul 10
yes, open relationship compose of honesty,trust,and love.In order to understand the meaning of it. Trust all that we need to have a great relationship and not only trust but patience the ability to work out for the extra freedom you need a constant communication and unwavering commitment towards each other and I believe their is no side effect but a good commitment and harmonious relationship.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
29 Jul 10
Hi Charm... You are the first one so far, to agree with the concept of Open Relations... And I agree with a few points that you have made here. Well, when I think of it, it doesn't sound altogether impossible for a couple who have been in love for quite a while and are still in love. A couple who understand each other thoroughly and trust more than their selves... But hey, is that possible???
@eyah04 (61)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
when you have a relationship and you are willing to share the whole life to him/her forever...there should be an openness on both side... so that there will be an arguments later on that relationship...there should be an openness so that there will be no doubtful arguments and sometimes it will cause it in not so good break ups... there should be an openness in a relationship so that there will be fair flow of thoughts and love...
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
26 Jul 10
i dont belive in open relationship at all. to me if you are going to be in a relationship with a person, that means its just that person.
i couldnt think of my wife being with another man or me being with another female. the fall back is someone will get emotional involve with the other person.
as far me, a real man is man enough to love one woman
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
It sounds like infidelity to me and a tactic designed to deceive men that something like this is an okay thing when clearly its not. Its not the right kind of relationship I would want to have. Its also not the right kind of relationship I am going to advice my friends and those who are dear to me. Its stupid!
@darylT (85)
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
i've heard about open relationship before. from what i understand, it means a couple like each other and do things together. but while they're constantly together, they're still open to other people they might get attracted to. it means "we're together, until somebody else comes along". they're not exclusive to each other, so there's no commitment to speak of.
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
26 Jul 10
HI Daryl.. Thanks for clearing a little more upon this topic... I had little confusions about it... I needed a little clarification... I had started creating my own perspective based upon what I heard... With so many valuable responses I think I am going to get a clear picture of it... Thanks again! Have fun!
@merma1267 (130)
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
OPEN RELATIONSHIP.. mean you and your partner are NOT exclusive with each other.. meaning, you can date or your partner can date someone else or any woman that he likes same as you do. If truly love of your partner could be hurting if he find someone that he likes most aside from you, it's either he may not tell you this and he becomes heterogeneous. As your part, if you don't truly love your partner you can still have options to find someone that fits to you.
@ashton77 (292)
• India
26 Jul 10
Lets say that I have a Mercedes Benz and I am happy with it. Then I happen to see a Ferrari and I loved that. If i drive a Ferrari and not dispose of my Mercedes then its like an example of an open relationship.
People are in relation but they are open in doing whatever they want to with their lives. I don't think there is love involved in it but maybe a sense of belonging that someone is there, but not serious relation.
