Why do people keep there rings after divorce or still wear jewerly from previous
By unique16
@unique16 (1531)
United States
July 26, 2010 8:21am CST
Hello Mylotters,
Curious question male or female why do some still keep there wedding rings or jewelry from a previous mariage or previous girlfriend and still wear them?
What I mean is espcailly for the guys? Why would a guy keep wearing a necklace he got on his honeymoon but they are now divorced or wear earing he got from a previous girlfriend?
For the females why do you still keep you engagement rings or wedding bands? Do you still wear jewerly received from your ex-husband?
I know it has sedimental value but if you are dating someone else what does that tell that other person? Do they still have deep rooted feelings for that ex husband or wife or girlfriend especailly when they say they will never take it off etc...
I heard this from people and seen it from men I dated!
For me personally I understand keeping it in jewerly box but why wear it?
If it was a good relationship ok but if went bad? Confused on this and how should one treat it if you are dating someone like that?
Thanks unique16
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6 responses
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
Well,there could be a lot of factors and one is being sentimental especially when the break up or separation did not come from that person's end.It is difficult to let go and by wearing the jewelries or anything that can remind the lost love will somehow appease the wounded heart.
Practically speaking, why not? If the jewelry has monetary value and can add beauty to the body, why not? It was given to you by that person and you accepted it in good faith so there's no need to feel guilty still wearing it even if you were no longer in a relationship to that person.
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
Yes, men nowadays also accessorize just like women do. Sometimes they are more artistic when it comes to this matter than the vainest of women. Some look good, some don't.:-)
You are always welcome, dear. Have a fantastic day ahead.;-)
@unique16 (1531)
• United States
27 Jul 10
Hello eurekafemme,
Thank you for your reply and new angle at looking at this. I guess over the years guys are wearing more jewlery and they like it two. It seem I had a double standard in my head... But I understnad better now about guys and jewelry too..
it is becoming more a fashion statement for men as it is for the women. Most men look good wearing jewelry too in my opinion.
Thanks and have a great day!
Sincerely Unique16
@o0jopak0o (6394)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
well some keep it to remember the good things they shared but its usually to remember the things they hate about that person haha.
@GardenGerty (157674)
• United States
26 Jul 10
It may be that they just enjoy wearing nice jewelry. I would wear an engagement ring or even a wedding band on another hand, if I liked the jewelry.
@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
27 Jul 10
When I got divorced the rings were the first things I wanted to get rid of, as they represented a union between two...even more so than our marriage license. Once the rings were gone, I felt really free...I am not a huge jewelry person to begin with, but a wedding band...that's special, and meant for marriage...thus the name...wedding band. And if someone can't give up that band, then he might not really be ready to let the relationship go.
@unique16 (1531)
• United States
27 Jul 10
Hello Buggles64,
I agree if they are still wearing there wedding that would make second guess there motives etc... and I hope people do not date these type of men because I think more than likely they are still married.
Like you I sold mine for meoney since I was not getting child support from my ex-husband and I really needed the money for my children at the time. I do not regret selling it either it was part of the grieiving process and letting go and moving on for me.
Thanks and have a great day!
Sincerely unique16
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
26 Jul 10
Even though a relationship may be over, we still have our memories. Something as simple as a piece of jewelry lets us hold on to those happy memories. Memories are links to the past worth holding on to. A simple piece of jewlry may hold what we treasure in our hearts.@unique16 (1531)
• United States
26 Jul 10
Hello sender621,
I understand about good memories. But when you mention "what we treasure in our hearts" then does that leave a impression on the other person that are truelly not over the other person still hope to one one day rekindle the relationship? or fall back in Love with that person?
Thanks for the reply.
Have a great day!
Sincerely unique16
