Online chating with strangers

@Jotomy (6322)
India
July 28, 2010 12:18pm CST
My nice and nephew will always using computer for chatting with friends. They also chat sometimes with strangers to make friends. I will always advice them not to believe strangers as what they say we don't know, will they reliable are not we don't know, i advice them to be away from strangers. My question is can we believe whatever the strangers say in online chatting. Share with me.
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@vijayanths (7877)
• India
28 Jul 10
hi, Jotomy , in my experience people lie a lot while chatting with online friends.They hide too many things and tell false details regarding personality, education, financial status, married status and son. The worst thing is men chat like women and play with men, view their cams and so on.
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@attente (986)
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
hi jaiho? who's anna? vijayanths, i couldn't agree more! i have a friend who got a boyfriend online.. They have been in a relationship for 3 years. When they met, my friend discovered that her "boyfriend" is a lesbian.. tsk tsk tsk..
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
aha...so my dear anna is one of those chats worms eh
• India
29 Jul 10
hi, jaiho, I'm not a chatworm. When I was new to using internet my typing speed was very poor.At that time I did not know how to work on legit sites and make money.So I used to chat and nearly fell for a Cebu lady and somehow came out of it after a few weeks of chatting. @attente, anna means elder brother in my language "Tamil".
@primeaque86 (8105)
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
it is really hard to believe to strangers Jotomy But why we are enjoying ourselves here at this virtual community? Where all of us are strangers to each other? Sometimes there is an exemption with the fact that strangers sometimes just deceive and take advantage on you.... and sometimes strangers become our very special companion, what do you think?
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@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
29 Jul 10
Strange that i agree with you, Prime. You get bad people, but then again, you find what you were not looking for. It just happens sometimes, but we have to beware of the bad idiots online. TATA.
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@Jotomy (6322)
• India
5 Aug 10
Hi primeaque, yeah it is true, see here we are they to spend our valuable time for good self. This is only site i think where we can have discussions like chat and gather or gain the information/new/knowledge. But one thing i noticed here is all will have their favorite members and choose members. And all are well educated and decent people here. Here it is okay and all are majors not minors. But coming to the minors, i am afraid that choosing of online friends is little hard to them, they can't analyze who is who, that is a risky one. Thanks for your nice response. Have a good day.
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
5 Aug 10
Hi saphrina, i too agree with you. Thanks for you response. Have a great day.
@GardenGerty (157027)
• United States
28 Jul 10
It takes a long term friendship to be able to trust people online, in my opinion. Young people sometimes do not have the discretion to protect themselves and get to know someone while keeping themselves confidential.
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@Jotomy (6322)
• India
29 Jul 10
Hi GardenGerty, true we can't trust people if we have long term friendship. Yes regarding young people what we can say, they will not hear if we say something good them, they will do what they want, that is why i will be always with them moving closely and watching them what they are doing, i will not say anything to them to stop or avoid but i will sit with them so that they may stop talking all nonsense with the other person. Young people just feel to enjoy chatting with other persons, but what will be the result later they never mind. Actually we have a computer in one separate room, to protect from the dust and i am doing now a days online jobs know i don't want to distrube anyone. Now again i shifted my computer to the living room so that they may have little fear to chat with new people. Thanks for your nice response. Have a great day. at debill, welcome to mylot.
29 Jul 10
It needs a person to study a relationship for a longtime rather than jumping into it pretty fast,but people can get friends through online http://cici-freemoney.blogspot.com
• India
29 Jul 10
You are right, we cannot trust all the people we meet online. We may know that person a lot in some time, or it could turn out to be nothing. Young ones especially need to be extremely careful when chatting with unknown people.
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• Philippines
29 Jul 10
its actually depends to them, besides not just people online cant be trusted, in fact even those people in our area nor in our country that we already meet. what matter is of not to trust anyone whether online or not if we just meet them. online is just temporary and must not be serious specially when it comes to looking for partner, its just a first step but meet up still the best for them to start good relationship with specially if they want it serious.
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@Jotomy (6322)
• India
30 Jul 10
Hi keep_onwatch, yes dear, young children are much attracted to online chatting and sharing video, photos etc., all my sister in laws children are having account in face book whenever i see they will be going on chatting with their friends. Playing games and exchanging nice videos like sponsoring orphan charities and god related videos or some other movies or music videos but these children also exchanging the videos of our functions/parties etc., which i really didn't like. Thanks for your response. Have a good day.
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
30 Jul 10
@homeshoppers, true....
@Suke002 (311)
• United States
28 Jul 10
I used to do that stuff and honestly, no you can't believe what strangers online say. There are too many people that have access to a computer and do whatever they want and in this day and time, people get caught up in fantasies online and other people develop social issues and prey on kids like them and who knows what All in all, the world is way too dangerous to take chances like that, especially for kids. As adults we have enough sense not to do this and that online and make sure you have your privacy online. Kids don't think about that stuff and their a lot easier to fool. Just be careful.
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• Mauritius
28 Jul 10
it is true Suke. when i was teen, i believed in these things but then i understood how people can easily mislead other person. Better be on the safe side.
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
29 Jul 10
Hi suke, true people are caught up in fantasies with online strangers, it is worrying me a lot. And kids are much attracted to such online chatting and if they become fool they start crying. Thanks for your nice sharing. Have a wonderful day suke. @ sweetneelu, yes especially teens, they will open so many accounts and they themselves don't know what they are talking to and whom they are talking. I couldn't understand why they are making mess. Have a nice day.
• Pakistan
28 Jul 10
its no bad thing to talk to strangers over here on net well every one is stranger when we came on this earth .. and ya don't forget these social network sites are made for connecting with your friends and family and as well making and getting to know new people around the world.
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@attente (986)
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
it's not bad to talk with them but be careful specially when you plan on meeting them. Lots of news have been aired about people being killed or raped by someone they just met online. Befriending online is a different issue from trusting your life to someone you've never met. :)
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@Jotomy (6322)
• India
29 Jul 10
Hi ameenmalik, welcome to mylot. yes we must be careful talking with the strangers. Thanks for your response. Have a good day.
@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
31 Jul 10
I sometimes give my personal data to mylot friends. My family members always say that what the mylot friend portrays about himself/herself, may not be true. How are you giving your personal details to them? But we believe that they are true and take them as they say they are. I am a bit confused in this matter.
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
5 Aug 10
Hi friend how are you? No friend actually what i observed by the posts is, most of the women are very genuine they will be talking about their family and other related matter. We can trust them. See for me my world is my family, so whatever i post here are response is only what i know and what i experienced, like wise here many are there. Thanks for your response. Have a great day.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
29 Jul 10
i used to do that and i still have some of the friends that i made several years ago but i wouldnt do that now, i have no time plus i cant be bothered and i would rather be making money here in mylot.
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@Jotomy (6322)
• India
5 Aug 10
Hi cher913, yeah that's true simply wasting our time and money chatting with the stranger is waste. We can do some online jobs/mylot and earn some money. That is a good idea. Thanks for your response. Have a good day.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
29 Jul 10
Personally, I don't [believe in what strangers say], because when it comes to random chatting like MIRC in the late 90's, I was a filthy liar myself. I tricked some girls into believing that I was a hunky football player looking for a girlfriend who could love me unconditionally, and wooot you should read all their responses. I could almost imagine them giggling endlessly. So no, I don't trust strangers on chat sites.
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@Jotomy (6322)
• India
5 Aug 10
Hi Theresaaiza, oh, thanks for your response. Have a good day.
@rappeter13 (8608)
• Romania
29 Jul 10
I think that chatting with strangers can be really fun, but if you plan anything serious with them, then you must do some research first. You have to ask them to demonstrate that they are who they are, for example to show you their social network page, or ask them to do a photo to themself with something in their hand and send it to you, or the best is when the stranger has a webcam. If you can see that it is the same person as he claims to be, than you must test him for weeks to find out if what he says is true. Of course, you can be wrong, but that is life, some of us are lucky, some of us are not...
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
5 Aug 10
Hi rappeter12, oh you have a different idea. Thanks for your response. Have a good day.
29 Jul 10
hi mylotters! sometimes we need to guide the children in using online chat for they do not know who are the people to be able to trust truly so guidance is what they need and they need to be warned of strangers. Don't trust to much with online chatters for they might be a scam or something.
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@Jotomy (6322)
• India
5 Aug 10
Hi charmlenile, i am always will be guiding the children be careful with the strangers while chatting and i also advice them to avoid chatting with strangers at all. Thanks for your nice response. Have a good day.
@swn_chik (266)
• India
30 Jul 10
Absolutely no,how can we believe the stranger .The only thing we can do is guide our kids from these types of things which can disturb them mentally. Its not good for people specially the kids.
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@Jotomy (6322)
• India
5 Aug 10
Hi swn_chik, yeah, thanks for your response. Have a great day.
• United States
29 Jul 10
No you can't believe what the other person says which is why it's a good idea you tell them not to believe them.
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@Jotomy (6322)
• India
5 Aug 10
Hi jesenia, thanks for your response. Have a good day.
@fantabulus (4000)
• India
23 Jan 13
Mostly I talk with those persons who are familiar with me and I also familiar with them but if use rediffbol messanger then may be chat with strangers. But not share house problem or money matter with strangers.
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
23 Jan 13
Hi fantabulus, that will be fine, you must not share your money matters or problems with them unless you know them well.
@love_all (306)
• India
29 Jul 10
i really dont think so that you should believe on the strangers down there. a number of them are there to satisfy their needs and satisfactions. it is better they can look upon getting engaged and work on a few things as mentioned on www.tech2mgr.com
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
3 Aug 10
Hi love_all, thanks for your information. Have a nice day.
@elmiko (6630)
• United States
29 Jul 10
well would you believe anything anybody told you? the same can be said with online chatting. its been a long time since i've done some one on one chatting with someone. i would have a jolly good time just irritating them. it was funny how some people would react.
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@Jotomy (6322)
• India
5 Aug 10
Hi elmiko, oh, thanks for response. Have a good day.
@Sreekala (34314)
• India
29 Jul 10
Hi Jo, I think you can guide them as they are very young in age and easily get an attraction in the net world. I have heard several stories about trapped teenagers when there is nobody around to watch them. There may be good as well as bad people in the net world and we have to be careful when dealing with strangers. So please have a watch on them when they are spending time in internet.
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
5 Aug 10
Hi sreekala, how are you? yeah, teenagers are very easily can trapped by strangers. This is my worry i always be watching them, i never hurt them by telling hardly to stop chatting with online friends but i will advice them to choose your own known friends for chatting rather chatting with the strangers. Thanks for your good response. Have a good day.
@ahslack (484)
• Singapore
29 Jul 10
If you are talking about whether can we believe what strangers say,sorry no we can't really believe in them.Because,we do not know them really well,and they may have some bad intention in their mind,so it's better not to believe in them unless you know them long enough.However if it is talking to strangers ONLINE,i feel that it's okay.
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@Jotomy (6322)
• India
3 Aug 10
Hi ahslack, true the strangers may have bad intention, that is why we should not believe. Thanks for your response. Have a nice day.
@calai618 (1773)
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
I think there's nothing wrong with chatting with these people but we have to control the amount of information we share with them. We may never know how true these people are to us so the least we can do is protect ourselves the best way we can by not sharing important informaation regarding us. even pictures of ourselves should not be freely shared i think.
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@Jotomy (6322)
• India
5 Aug 10
Hi calai, thanks for your response. Have a good day.
• United States
29 Jul 10
online chatting, in my opinion, is a way for people to get to know each other. some people might not like it but to some it's quite interesting, and they get a lot from it
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@Jotomy (6322)
• India
5 Aug 10
Hi, diego, welcome to mylot city. yeah, Thanks for your nice response. Have a good day.