Dealing with the Obnoxious

Hey Ambie, there are lots of people like that at my former school and my former job. Why are there so many obnoxious people in this planet?. I believe they have a certain insecurities inside them, and they want to share it with you, to ruined your day just like they are facing. Their life is completely empty of substance, and they want you to suffer what they are suffering. Before I forgot, my neighbors are so obnoxious. Like when my mother bought a washing machine, they reacted on our back that our washing machine is the cheapest washing in my country. Like what is their problem, what is the problem if the washing machine is cheap? why do they have to talk about our washing machine. Washing machine is a thing, it will not talk to you back, washing machine do not care if you shout to the world that it is a cheapest washing machine. They simply express their enviness. Like what is in you if we bought a the cheapest washing machine? My reaction, i just laughed. They are bitter because we bought a new appliances at home, it is because they have no jobs, they can't afford to buy new appliances just like we did. Unless these people will not say it in front of me, i will not react. But if they tried to tell it to my face, they will never forget the experience of doing it to me.

i hate to admit this but i'm one of these people. lol! i just love to annoy my friends but they always seem to want me around every time we hang out. i get a kick whenever they react or get pissed. i don't really know why but i enjoy doing this. the best way is just ignore people like me and we'll stop... or not. being over sensitive just makes us bolder. lol! really... just ignore them... me. :)

I have a few people or more that always do something to put me down or to try to top me or make me angry. I am not saying this is the right thing to do, but I do feel better because I am tired of this. It never ends. I say something that tops what they say. It may make them look uninformed or obviously jealous. Or I may ignore them for a long time if I think that works better.

Most of the time I ignore them unless they really press my buttons....my son pokes fun at me to get a rise out of me....but it's in fun. Otherwise I just pretend like I don't hear them and certain don't acknowledge the fact that I even heard them....my son's biggest poke is that when I get old and need to be put in the nursing home they are just going to take me to the vet's office and have me put down as it's cheaper! LOL.....then he says...can I coax you into the backseat of my car....LOL....I have been getting him back occasionally.....his wife gets soooo mad at him!

Hi Ambie! I think the key word here is 'continually', right? So we're not talking about those annoying chance encounters with annoying people. This is some one who you'd see frequently, who can irritate you the minute they open their mouths, right? For that type of person, you'd have to decide if they are doing it on purpose or not. Some irritating people are so oblivious, or studid, that they just don't know what they said to get you so upset...obnoxious bimbos so to speak. For this type, there probably isn't a lot you can do, without lowering yourself to a position lower than them (because you'd be retaliating on purpose). Probably, anyone who associates with this person knows how they are, and have shared the irritation. I would assume that because they've been there, they wouldn't hold anything against you. The type of person who is obnoxious on purpose is a different story. In our society, you can't just reach out and slap them, as much as you'd like to. And, reacting just lets them know what your 'hot button' is, so that they can get a similar reaction any time they'd like (which would be frequent). If you don't give the satisfaction of a response, sometimes they move on to other victims, sometimes they just keep trying until they find what 'gets' you. For the persistant ones, I usually hold my reaction at the time, but then wait for an opportunity to turn the tables. When you get their reaction, they usually ask why you did whatever it was that you did. At that point you can try letting them know that if their behavior continues, that the payback will too. I've had success doing this, sometimes once the behavior of said obnoxious person changes, some actually become friends. Good luck! Oh....you weren't writing about ME, were you? LOL

Yes, it's hard to bite my tounge but so far I've managed to do it. Maybe I lost my cool once or twice, but I managed to make myself apologize so the other person would continue looking like a jerk and I would look like an angel.

Usually a real smart a$$ retort will come out of my mouth before I have time to think about the futility of even replying to these type of nasty people.

I used to be surrounded by people like this all throughout my school years one of them was someone that my mother liked (well I didn't like both of them, the girl and my mother :) I ignored her whenever she starts being selfish and hurtful, but because she had a lot of friends and boys liked her, I was out numbered But if I upset her, she would be mad and her friends would be too, unfair right? So I decided that I don't care how many friends she had, I kept ignoring her LOL one day she borrowed a tape from me it was my brother's, and he didn't want the tape to be rewound, fast forward etc I told her this and she went mad LOL what the he ck whose tape is it again?? and then another time she wanted me to sew her skirt I said I can't (well I don't want to LOL, she can sew her skirt herself !) she was mad LOL like a child, get a needle and thread! anyway, I was told that she can only marry rich person so I think you are right, she is so empty of substance, she has to marry someone full of it, to compensate I don't need to marry rich person, I am capable to work hard and earn my own money my business is not big and yet I survive recession and keep going and before that I never refused work even if it was janitorial I don't care what she said about it, work is work anyway

when they know it bothers you, they will continue to taunt you. it is their personality and there are plenty of them around. i would just ignore them and get away from them which i hope you can.

hi AmbiePam I have been fortunate for years not to be around someone like that but when I was first married, this nurses aide who worked with me was always digging at me, well Hatley when are you gonna get pregnant? I had only been married a week or so. She inferred that we had to get married which was not at all true. And when it became apparent I was not going to get pregnant right away, she got on the kick ah there must be something wrong with you. I just ignored her but she sure did keep digging at me. My hubby who also worked there told me not to show her that she up set me. And that did sort of stop her. then when I did g et pregnant and was sick at work she started in again, suppose you want a baby shower, youre so poor. I lost my cool and said, either way it is none of your damned business Merrit. that was her last name.That really cooled her off and I had wished then I had blown up a long time ago with here. lol.

Boy does my neighbor act like that constantly. She is the neighbor from hell. Her kids irritate all the tenants here because they are so noisy. Ive never heard so much noise in my life. I just wish she wasn't right above my head! That is not fun to live with noise like that especially when you are not feeling good!!! I also have ex-inlaws like that. I hate people like that.

I am very lucky to be working in a place where people are not obnoxious. If we have issues against someone, we talk it over in a calm and soothing manner. One thing we realize is that nothing good will always be brought out by being violent or obnoxious. I did work in a hospital before where we were the talk of the town. Being newbies and fresh grads, mistakes were unavoidable and the seniors talked against us behind our backs as if they could expect so much from us. We just learned from our mistakes and learned to ignore their behind-our-backs attacks and got on just fine.

I am sure you must have heard the saying "If looks could kill", i usually try to stare the person down before he even starts to try and say something obnoxious about me. Because like you rightly said giving in and getting angry is something that is more harmful for yourself than to the person. Lastly you also need to remember that you will atleast find one person of that nature everywhere you go, so you just cannnot leave the place or keep getting angry, infact the best thing to do is change the subject immediately. In the long run it will dinifinitely get through.

Just forgive them and love them anyway. Sometimes they're simply having internal issues, low self-esteem and insecurities. If you say something nice about them, they will usually recognize the error of their ways.

The place I hate this the most is in the workplace In one situation I did finally allow someone to get my goat. It was a very physical job, we both got written up. Later, after she got treated for an addiction, she came clean to me, and also apologized for the day we got written up. She said she would tell me the truth about the situation because she always trusted me and my judgment and I was the only one who ever believed she told the truth about her life. Weird, huh? I baby sat her daughter for months while she went to after care one evening a week.

My SIL used to do this and I would come back with a retrot but hasnt done it since hubby passed . So I do know hubby put him up to doing it . They thought it was great fun!lololololol

You know Ambie, I had to read all of the replies here to see what others do..Other than lamby they seem to ignore them which is hard to do when you live with someone like that. (you know who) Sometimes I do ignore it, but then I get so stressed out I do react which is what is wanted, so he can now play the victim because I am all over his case.. One mylotter suggested insecurities which I believe, I know that my husband grew up in very bad circumstances, but it isn't like I had a fairytale childhood either. Difference is I am trying to get over it, and he is stuck in it..

I usually tell them exactly what i think then make it a habit not to be in their company again. I am not going to waste my time on people like that. Too many nice people to be around.

When I was younger I would let it bother me and get angry. As I have gotten older, I don't let it bother me as much. I will usually make a joke out of it instead of getting mad. It is not worth my time or effort to do the same to them. I will not stoop to their level.

I think it depends what is said and how it is said. I might ignore it or take a more direct approach "what does that have to do with you?" or go "Awwww, are you in need of drama and attention right now? Diddums!" The more I see of human nature the less I understand it!