"Hat's off " !!! NATURAL Delivery of the Baby
By rocket2020
@rocket2020 (524)
India
August 8, 2010 1:18pm CST
Its really an amazing experience for the Mother to deliver a Baby in a natural way,but what's about the father's experience....just wait and watch the spouse who is crying and shouting due to immense pain....while He cannot do any good/help even though if he wants to.....???Mine was a totally different experience,instead of helping my spouse, I completely meshed it up and did the opposite, turned the whole system against my spouse as well as to my would-be-Baby who was still inside her mother's womb and I, myself was probably going to loose either of the one or both of them.
Once the conception was confirmed,both of us were in favor of Natural Delivery only,till the day of delivery we were closely monitoring and trying to figure it out if at all there is any sort of anomaly which may prevent the Natural Delivery, from all the medical reports as well as the Doctor's view point/counseling etc. We found none and even the Doctor didn't gave any negative view,hence we both the parents were double sure about the Natural Delivery and its Positives.
Unfortunately the Doctor have decided for the Cesarean Section.....the sooner we resisted and raised our concern against the cesarean-section,the whole attitude got changed we were treated like nothing,and no care was provide(From 10 am to 6 pm when the Doctor arrived)even after the doctor's arrival nothing or no measure were taken for the patient to have a smooth natural Delivery,instead the Doctor started an ego fight with me,When I complained to the Doctor that "no saline water was injected" in order to increase the Labor pain (nature's natural process for natural Delivery)he got angry and by teasing me he told the nurse that "the new doctor Sir is asking for Saline-Water for the patient",where-by the Doctor left the Semi-Government Hospital by giving me a stern warning that there will be no anesthesiologist and child-specialist to-night for the Delivery.
My inner voice told me that the Doctor has to be there,at about 10:50 pm the Doctor arrived again,and after some 10-20 minutes latter the doctor called me up and asked me to take the patient to some other hospital b'coz the patient is not cooperating with the proper posture plus the anesthesiologist and child-specialist is not available as he had told me previously.Its a paradox,I fully realized that I am into a well-planned trap,and there's nothing I can do except only to comply with the arrogant Doctor's deliberately created scenario,so one of the person got into negotiation form my side with, and accepted that the would-be-father will sign on the paper where by the whole responsibility will be on him(the would-be-father),then only a cesarean-section will be performed and the other doctors will be called upon;otherwise the patient has to be transferred.
Its almost 11 O'clock then,and about 11:35 or so the other doctors arrived (more than 13 hours or so,have passed off, my wife was going through immense pain and was crying by the pain)so the preparation were being readied upon for the C-section.At this juncture when the Child-specialist examined the patient's progress he noticed that the head of the Baby is almost peeping out,so instead of C-Section now the Natural Delivery has to be allowed,exactly at 11:58 My Daughter was Delivered,Our cute little Darling !!!
Its a Doctor's folly,its all about money.The Doctor was retired defense personnel,Should any one go to the same Doctor for the 2nd delivery,ironically my wife says Yes!!!
Whats yours experience,have any one gone through such situation?
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4 responses
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
9 Aug 10
You are so right that it is all about the money. At least in my case it was. I was myself a C-Section baby and that operation was very hard on my mum (UNNECESSARILY, too)and much more expensive than a natural delivery would have been at the time.
There was absolutely no excuse for the doctor to treat you with such contempt. You and your wife had the right to choose and it is like extortion to have them try to bully and/or frighten you into having an invasive procedure that you did not want.
Congratulations on your wonderful (and natural) little angel. I am so glad things turned out well for all 3 of you. As for your wife wanting to use the same doctor the next time, that is something that often happens, as the unknown is sometimes scarier than past pain and trauma. Does your wife still want to try to have the next baby naturally or is she having second thoughts at this time?
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@rocket2020 (524)
• India
9 Aug 10
Over this part of the world if a person is going to the private clinic it is assumed that the patients background is financially strong,even if the patient is capable of delivering the baby naturally,the Doctors generally recommend for the C-section only,and therefore its became a norm over here that" keep the patient for longer period of time etc and there is no question of taking the view of the patients need/wish.While on the other hand all the Government hospital some 90% of them do have the practice of delivering the baby naturally,here too no choice is given to the patient.
In order to answer your 3rd para I just now asked my spouse the question you put forward to me,the answer is YES we will go for the natural delivery again if all medical reports does not show any seriousness or some emergency comes fourth.
Going against the nature is foolishness,but again everything is governed by the power of Money only.I am sorry for the hardship your Mother have gone through.
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@drannhh (15219)
• United States
10 Aug 10
Thank you and good for your wife! It is not much different here, although that depends a bit on which part of the country one lives in as some are more enlightened than others. In my mother's case, they told her for her first child that there was a medical reason why she had to have the C-section, but then for her second child they said they did not require that any more for that condition BUT that since the first baby was a C-section all subsequent ones had to be also. It was, as you say, just an excuse to get more money. She told me that as soon as I was old enough to comprehend it. Since then I have talked with many people whose mothers had a C-section first and then went on to use a natural method. The answer always is "We don't do it that way any more." Change comes so slowly!
@rocket2020 (524)
• India
12 Aug 10
In this part of the world this line/profession,is totally full of cheaters from starting to the end,you cannot believe on any of the people you might be dealing with,from top to bottom,and the Ironically its very sad b'coz most of the populace over this part of the world is not that affluent and neither enough educated 0ne,even though if they are then also it is impossible to verify the complication that are been told to us.
Very recently I have heard one such scenario where the Doctor was fully prepared to get the patient operated under the false pretext that the pain on the abdomen is due to the appendix which need to be taken out,you might be suprized to know that the what the Doctor might have done....any guess? simply the doctor had planned to make a deep incision on the lower abdomen area then again would have put the stitches(without doing anything)and easily have charged a hefty bill of around $100,the patient was lucky enough b'coz he was in the company of his known people and no family members were there to take the decision for the operation.
You are very right that even after the first C-section one can go for a natural delivery as well after the first one if all such condition is normal,one such doctor(b'coz he belong to government hospital) gave such option to my sister,but my sister had gone for the C-section only,generally after 2 C-section,it is recommended that one must not go for the third child.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
I am also a mother who wants to deliver my kids thru natural birth.
I guess it is every woman's wish to gave birth normally (that i do not know)
My case is almost similar (not related with money matter)
My wish to gave birth via normal way that my Ob-gyne granted and stays with me during my 3 days of labor.
On the first day,she told me that i might not be able to do it in normal way.
She did her best until the 3rd day,it was till my water bag broke and for more than 11 hours of successive contraction still i don't manage to improve from 3cm (at least 6-10 cm to give birth naturally)that she decided that i should/must undergo C-section.
I really cried a lot,after going thru so much pain of labor (3 days)i still ended up with C-section.
On my second child,again i tried to have it thru normal birth but still in vain.
My pelvis won't cooperate (no luck at all with just 3 cm)
So,on my youngest and third baby,i never tried for labor pains anymore,i suggested for the C-section.
I always envy those mothers who had the chance of giving birth the natural way.
Really hats off
@rocket2020 (524)
• India
9 Aug 10
Actually every one of us are programmed naturally by the nature,its been practiced for generations by we humans,hence there is no doubt that why a Women cannot give birth to her baby naturally,in fact if C-section is been done then the question arise that their must be some sort of complication there,otherwise generally it is assumed that the delivery will be a natural one.
I am bit confused b'coz yours is the case of long history of good experience but it turned out to be c-section on all the three times,though I am not a doctor but still some sort of practice of stretching exercise six months before the delivery could have solved your wishes,it doesn't matter now at least now you are living your life happily with all children is what matters the most.
@rocket2020 (524)
• India
12 Aug 10
The case which you have mentioned are quite clear even,for them who are not a doctor by profession,its really a bit of complication and thus the C-section was the necessity at that hour of time,so nothing to complain,hence even at this juncture you are truly the loving mother for your children,just carry on with your smile.
I hope your children will go for the ND only if you tell the full story of yours,and the goods that are associated with the ND,at the same time every body is well educated and therefore they will take the right decision at the right time.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
2 Sep 10
Let me share my views, in our time all birth were natural, my mom says she was in pain for almost 12 hours before i was born, in 1945; all my kids were also born by natural delivery..
But my grandkids were by CS only, there are two factors responsible, the greedy doctors attached to private nursing homes, make the husbands so afraid by telling 'operation is a must, water has dried, baby may die, life of mother at risk...'
Quite naturally they opt for CS..
Thanks for sharing your story in details.
Welcome always.
Cheers. 
Professor
Cheers.
Professor
@rocket2020 (524)
• India
3 Sep 10
Dear Professor,
I must salute both of you to successfully able to deliver all the kids in the very natural way,which is our right to do,but the money and our culture is to be blamed for the present mesh which is very deliberately been fanned by our own so called politicians and businessmen.
Actually if one keeps all the tracks on the ultrasound reports and little bit of knowledge I think the patient's party can well take the decision what to proceed with.
I hope this above discussion may come handy to all the newly married couples,and be able to take their own decision themselves,at the same time I hope you will share the same with your grand-children as well.
Thanks,Thanks for mylotting.
@dudsdoojaxi1 (166)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
I am going to deliver my 3rd baby this November and I am doing my best not to have a Ceasarian. When I was delivering my first baby I told the doctor I want to have a ceasarian because I cannot take the pain anymore. I labored for almost 1 day that time. The doctor did not agree she said I could deliver normally and she was right. I delivered normally so stick to the same doctor until now.
@rocket2020 (524)
• India
19 Aug 10
Hi dudsdoojaxi1,Its really amazing to be a mother, which we male will never know and congratulation to you for showing your faith towards the doctor and ultimately you delivered normally,though its really hard to go through the labor pain one full day but you will definitely agree with the fact as soon as you had the delivery in a normal procedure; all these pain of labor is gone instantly it vanishes in the thin air, and you become more concerned about your baby,isn't it not magical!!!
Delivering normally have lots of positives both for the baby as well as for the mother too,generally the baby does not fall sick every now and then when compared to the Ceasarian one and therefore the normal baby is bit more stronger then the C-section one which is a great thing to be b'coz its a competitive world on every aspect of our life.
Always be happy listen to the classical music,take some amount of yogurt(home-made)after lunch everyday where fish should be one of the main course along with some raw salad if possible bring color to your eating vegetables and fruits like red tomatoes yellow papaya fruits etc.
