Buying a house to call your own

Malaysia
August 9, 2010 9:00am CST
I'm trying to save up money to get a house to call my own, but it's so hard when you don't earn enough, and like you have so much expenses and buying a house in a convenient or a nice area is so expensive!! I can't afford a down payment for a house and I'm supposed to pay like 10 % for it first, then get a loan then I don't even know whether I'm able to get a loan as well to get a home.. I know that you're supposed to find a home that is affordable to you, but the one that is, would like not be in my state!! My husband and I have been saving up and looking for houses that we can afford and in the place that we like which is quite rural... Yet, not enough money yet.. And no, I'm not asking my parents or anyone for money for the down payment.. I want to do this on my own/our own.. I'm so frustrated and I just want some insight on how you guys had save up to afford your own homes? Any ideas?
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@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
9 Aug 10
Hi quarvalsharess, Buying a house is a one of the largest investment you will make in your life. So, you really need to do your research about loans, closing cost and other fun-end and back- end fees that you sometime don't learn about until the last minute. Preparation, is very important when taking such a giant step toward home ownership. There are not quick decisions here. Having enough money for a deposit is one of the main requirements. Most of all you should really know what you want and where you want to live. Realtors can be very persuasive, so you need to stay alert. Communicate with Realtors, letting them know that you are planning, maybe not in the nearest future, to purchase a home. I am sure they will be able to tell you what to expect when you go forth. Check out books from the library. Good source. I would say, don't be in a hurry. Continue to save until you know that you will be okay diving into this venture. Being a home is a great experience with lot of responsibilities. Good Luck
• Malaysia
9 Aug 10
Angelgirl 16, thank you so much for your insight.. I am mentally and physically prepared to own my own home, I'm just not financially prepared yet.. and that's the pits.. sighs.. I found a few houses that I love, but cannot afford it yet, I'm waiting for new developments as it's much cheaper and that I don't need to put in a hefty down payment and don't need to pay legal fees on that. But thank you so much for the insight!
• Malaysia
11 Aug 10
Thank you for the support! I really appreciate it! :)
• United States
11 Aug 10
Hi quarvalsharess, You and your husband seem to be very motivated and determined to make this dream happen. You know, I think you will pull it off. Good Luck,
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@juneramir (334)
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
Buying a home is an important financial milestone in your life. But there are also other things that you probably need to take care of. It is always a good idea to leave yourself some financial breathing room because buying a house that you can't afford can lead to serious trouble, particularly with the economy in the state that it is in. Read on for a quick guide on how to calculate the amount of money that it is wise to spend on a house. Before starting to house-shop, figure out your budget. Get a mortgage pre-approval - this will give you an initial rough idea of how much you can afford and your credit worthiness. The reason that it is important to figure out your budget before you go house-shopping, is because you don't want to fall in love with the wrong kind of homes that are outside of your budget. Don't get into the habit of saying "it's a perfect home but I can't afford it". If you can't afford it,it is not perfect. The trick is to find a home that fulfills as many of your requirements as possible, while staying inside your budget. I hope this will help you my friend. Ultimately, you have to take responsibility for your own decisions. Have a nice day! (please rate me) Thank you!
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• Malaysia
10 Aug 10
Thank you very much for this advise.. I am looking at something that is affordable and not outside my budget i would think, if I get anything that is cheaper, it's going to be a rackety shack.. :(
@melufa (93)
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
i've been thinking the same too. i really want to buy a house of my own. but with my salary i just can't afford it. i always think of some ways to earn. i really have so many ideas but usually i just cant seem to materialize it. both my parents are away working on the other side of the planet. and im hoping that if they do get succesful there. hope they just give me our old house. but still. i want to buy something that i can really call my own
• Malaysia
9 Aug 10
Yeah I know what you mean.. I can just get my mom's house, or even get my mom to buy a house for me, but I just don't think it's right, I am like you, wanting something to call my own.. lol
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
My husband and I acquired our house through loan from a government institution. We are actually paying the monthly amortizations of this house. At least, we can already call it our own. Everytime we have money to spare, we pay the amortizations.
• Malaysia
9 Aug 10
hmm, interesting.. The bad thing about it is that my government doesn't assist to get things like this.. (I'm from Malaysia and they usually only help their own race not their nation) sighs..
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
Honestly, I have the same dilemma, although now I'm sharing with 2 of my siblings and we have just bought a condo unit for us. It's a great investment, although it made me realize how much expensive buying your own place can be. It's not just the payment for the home, but all those extra expenses that can really get too expensive. My boyfriend and I wants to buy our own place before we get married, but with the expenses, I think we still have a long way to go before we can afford to buy our own place. It's hard to save specially when you have a lot of bills to pay and you just don't earn enough.
• Malaysia
10 Aug 10
At least you have your own home with your siblings.. And you and your boyfriend can start saving up for the future.. I know it's really expensive, maybe you can get one of your siblings to buy your share of the apartment.. :D
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• Philippines
11 Aug 10
Ahehehe. That is actually what I'm planning on doing. LOL. It's kind of a savings already, cause I know eventually I would sell them my shares on the unit, and that's what we have agreed upon actually.
@puccagirl (7294)
• Israel
9 Aug 10
It takes time, so you need to be patient. You are not going to be able to do it over night, and very few people are. So don't get stressed about that. I haven't been able to do this myself yet, but I have a 5 year plan. So all I can say is that you should consider making a long term plan instead of focusing on what you can't get right now. I know it is a bit of a boring answer, but I think it is the only thing that really works, to be honest.
• Malaysia
9 Aug 10
I know, long term plan I would be able to do it, but I really want to get a house soon and start having a family before I'm 30.. I'm turning 27!! urgh!!
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
I love your post quarvalsharess!! That was my dream when i was young and still it is my dream up to now. I live in Philippines and it is also hard to buy a house in here. The downpayment is too way expensive. I always think of it but whenever i save money for it something very urgent comes. So, i need to spend some of my money for that. I feel so sad thinking that i am turning 27 too but still couldn't afford to buy a house. I just hope that we both have our own houses someday. Because of that dream.. i always join raffle tickets to get some prizes. I just hope to get the grand prize.. a house and lot and a car.. but i have never ever won...lol... anyway, we shouldn't lose hope. We still need to save money.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
Actually, I dreamt of it since childhood, A house I could call my own. But I think that would only remains a dream. Our economic is continuously drying down. Cost of every single item goes up. How could someone be able to allocate certain amount for this? But let's not loose hope, who knows, maybe all our sacrifices will soon pays off? Just let the present be a gift for us and don't worry too much for tomorrow. Just let's do our best. Goodluck to our dreams.
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
10 Aug 10
Hi, Having own house is a good idea. Have more space and more freedom definitely. Don't rush yourself,buying a house will take time. You have to find a good house that you and your husband like and make sure both of you afford to pay for the 10% downpayment. Try to work hard when you guys are still young, Get a house that both of you can afford to pay off. The most important is don't get yourself stress up over the buying house process. Relax and take your time to see any new house area built up or any second hand house that you may interested .
• China
9 Aug 10
The only way to solve this problem is to earn more money.It seems really hard for us to by a house. I'm looking into ways to make extra money.To own an apartment of myself likes a dream.Now I feel it is too hard to realise the dream. Or you can start your own businesses.Another way,use your money to invest some bonds and stocks.
• Malaysia
9 Aug 10
I've put some money in some fixed deposits.. just to earn a little safely.. I'm too afraid to invest in bonds or stocks.. I'd love to start my own business but I think one needs to be very stable financially first in order to get my own business.. But as for making extra money, I'm trying, I was thinking of working part time, but I'm afraid that I'm not able to cope up as I can get too tired with one job even.. I've already got my promotion, but I didn't get my promotion salary because of a salary freeze, I'm still waiting for it though.. lol I do hope you can get your dream apartment real soon!!
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
I have the same dilemma. I have wanted for a long time to buy a house of my own but then with how things are right now it's hard to buy one! I remembered when I was a child, young people who have work on their early 20's were able to afford a house but now it's just hard. The down payment is really high if I find something I like in the part of of the city it usually costs too much. The more affordable ones are the farthest and the substandard subdivision that are so so small but quite pricey.
• Malaysia
9 Aug 10
I know what you mean!! I want a house, and not an apartment, and apartments as well are as expensive as houses.. Can you believe that?? URGGH!! I wish all of us who wants to get a house wins a lottery.. hahahaha...
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
I've been dreaming to own a house myself since I was 20 years old...yet ten years later, here I am still living with my relatives and no house yet! I've been trying to save up for the house, but no luck yet. I am looking for house developers/sellers that offer no equity/down payment scheme. As this is the only way I can afford to buy a house, then get a housing loan from the National housing Authority. My target is 5 years from now.
• India
10 Aug 10
Ya it is nice to have our own house.I know the respect we get from people when we live on a rent house and when we live on our own house.I had lived in for some years in a rent house and after that we buid a own house.I awas vey much amazed at that time.It is always nice to have a own house because it will be very pruod for us to say when anyone asks us that "THIS HOUSE IS MINE?
• Canada
10 Aug 10
when i bought my first home i saved up the down payment first... you need a good job if you want a house.
• Saudi Arabia
9 Aug 10
Buying your own house even planning having that is planned of every responsible person.And having that with your own money can give you a lot of happiness and confidence.Just keep that faith of having your own house with the help of god also, soon you can have that.