Will you put somebody down if you want to win?

Philippines
August 9, 2010 10:09am CST
There are some competitive persons who really want to win in anything, by hook or by crook. Some would resort to ways which reach the point of hurting, literally or figuratively, their strongest opponent or opponents. Others would do the guerilla or underground tactic, that is, by attacking on other points which hinders the capability of the opponent to attack. And there are some who would opt for attacking the personality of their strongest competitor. How come some people are like these? Why not they just play a fair game............ This discussion is a result of my being a victim of attack by somebody else who wish to win the contest where both of us joined. It hurted me.........
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17 responses
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
Fair competitions are hardly seen these days. From elections to sports. Even in Facebook games (i don't know why I included this one but there's also cheating - lol) Either it's scripted or has been bribed. And we always see someone that will be hurt. From physical aspects to personal issues. As for me though, I always try to play it fairly. Even if other players aren't fair to me because at night, I am the one who can sleep soundly because I know deep in my heart, I played very well and fairly. I can in a way I was able to console you. Everyone is always bound to disappoint us no matter how we try to be good or be kind to them. In the end, it's not us who judge them but God himself. Smile now, Doris. =)
• Philippines
11 Aug 10
Fair competition do seldom happy nowadays. by the way, what games in Facebook do you usually play?
• Philippines
16 Aug 10
Hi, doris. Sorry to respond late. I have many games in facebook - happy island, hotel city, mafia wars, pet society, and car town. my cousin uses my fb account sometimes because of barn buddy. lol. the games i know how to cheat of though is pet society. the non facebook applications would be plants vs zombies. :D TC, my friend!
@lkbooi (16093)
• Malaysia
11 Aug 10
Hi dorisdday21971, it's not my policy to win in anything via the ways mentioned above. I don't find the real satisfication and I would feel uneasy as well of finally I have reached my goal using such treacherous ways. I hate to see people to win by hook or by crook. I respect people who win their good reputation, status, whealth, etc by proper and legitimate ways. People who couldn't acept failure or always rush for fast-speed success or wealthy or higher status usually would use all kind of methods which are inappropriate to reach their target and never bother whether doing so might hurt others deeply. I always feel happy and contented with what I possess at the moment and it's sure that I won win whatever by inappropriate ways Happy posting
• Philippines
14 Aug 10
I do agree with all you have said. Winning is one thing but winning in a way of cheating or in an illegal way is another story. The latter will surely not make us feel proud of our win. Let us all win in a manner that it was done or played fairly.
10 Aug 10
no for there is no glory on winning if you are trying to stabbed someone at the behind you. a fair fight and fair winning is the real success that you truly get when it is really yours to take and the the sweat of your own battle is the greatest happiness you harvest the fruits of your own sweat..
• Philippines
14 Aug 10
You are ablsolutely right. There is no glory in winning an unfair fight. We should all win fairly and according to rules.
@shia88 (4578)
• Malaysia
10 Aug 10
Hi, When comes to competition,everyone wants to win and don't want to lose. Some people may do anything,be it,it hurts other people physically or mentally, just to make to the winning points. From my point of view, to win something or dealing in competition, just do the best and perform the best to win the prize. Show the strong points and perform the best result. Of course, there is a time where the luck is not at your side, never mind,it is competition and sure will have someone to win and lose. If you were at the lose side, just accept the fact and tell yourself that you will do bettter next time. As long as you never give up, you sure will success one day.
• Philippines
11 Aug 10
People do join competitions in order to win. However, winning should be done in a fair play.
@Hatley (164170)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Aug 10
hi dorisday nope not at all as it would feel like I had won unfairly. If I win anything I want it a fair clean win, not something done unfairly and underhandedly. Some people think they have won if they get there by cheating or attacking other people. this does not work as others can see'the obvious cheating and skullduggery being done.
• Philippines
11 Aug 10
Winning through cheating is certainly not our style of winning. Let us continue winning through fair play...... Have a nice day my friend.
10 Aug 10
I personally would put myself UP rather than putting somebody down, whoever he is. I don't think it is necessary to put someone down just in aim to win something. And putting someone down doesn't always give you win. I think I'm old enough to know and discover the way we win the battle. And honestly, putting someone down is not on my list.
• Philippines
11 Aug 10
That's a winning point to put yourself up...........
@savypat (20244)
• United States
9 Aug 10
This is one reason why I have given up contests. I love to win and pretty soon I find a competition taking over way to much of my life. I just don't need to be part of these things any more.
• Philippines
11 Aug 10
Not taking part of the contest is one way to avoid being hurt by other persons who wish to win in a bad way.
• India
9 Aug 10
hi doriday , Winning wealth is not much important than winning people's heart, if you are hurting other people then it's waste to be called as a winner.... one day they will realise it...
• Philippines
11 Aug 10
I do agree with you sajidis. Let us better win other people's hearts and it will really make us a winner. Have a wonderful day.
@sender621 (14933)
• United States
9 Aug 10
I am not the type of person to put somebody down just to win. Crushing someone's else dreams is not my style. It is a hollow victory to win at the expense of another person.
• Philippines
11 Aug 10
That's right. Why win at the expense of others?
@tomitomi (5440)
• Singapore
9 Aug 10
Hi dorisday! It is little wonder that any competition would either bring out the best or the worst in a person. The better the prize the worse people would become. Human beings can be greedy and irrational. If these are not properly managed they would just pour over into anything one does and winning a contest is no exception. I do not feel good putting somebody down just to win.
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
It is the greed of winning that make some persons do such act.
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
Obviously, they could get so much gratification from being on top of everybody else. Power is really addicting and could get the worse out of people. But the truth is, they just have mistaken that gratification as happiness. They are fooled by the immediate satisfaction that they get out from doing those schemes. But it is just for a short period of time that is why they keep on doing that to maintain that gratification. They are just looking for happiness like all of us. Hopefully, time will come that they will soon realize where true happiness really lies, the one that would last forever. :D
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
Very well said......... I also wish that they will realize that hurting one's feeling is not equivalent to true happiness. Thank you for the kind words.
@kukueye (1761)
• Malaysia
10 Aug 10
I guess your look at the soccer with those multi million players which are professional do give out tackle and pulling of shirts and diving as part of the game.Even in professonal boxing, knowing your competitors weakness and weaks spots give u advantage and the boxer will fully utilize the weakness to win. In sports i guess winning is important.Even in World Cup various handballs are used to prevent goals.Poor Ghana.
@jaiho2009 (38995)
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
Hello doris, Some people are not healthy opponents. There are those ones who will do everything to win whatever battle/fight or game they're facing. Even to the extent of what you have stated here. The worst thing is,that they even attack our personal life in order to let us down or give up. Those people are actually doesn't know the word "game" all they had in mind is to win and win alone. I can understand about your feelings,but people like those ones really exists,and we cannot control their minds either. Have a good day always
• United Arab Emirates
10 Aug 10
Hi Will you put somebody down if you want to win? Answer is a BIG NO. Because if you really believe in yourself, you dont have to bring other people down... I guess in your situation.. you better be thankful because you may lost the contest but not your self-esteem compare to the 'winner" who got some trophy filled with insecurities.
• United States
10 Aug 10
No, I won't. For those ppl who do, they act things out selfishly, maybe sometimes unconsciously. But don't think it's unfair. When he does that to you, he will also have the tendency to do it to others. Which he can become the enemy of many's. At that point, who wouldn't want that guy down? Just like Napoleon was defeated by a union of non-French European armies. those guys will get the revenge naturally.
• China
10 Aug 10
I just want to say: "Let it be!" The time will end everything.
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
i think for some reasons those guys or shoud i say those people that have that kind of attitude is somewhat a kind of person that doesn't believe in a fair fight because they don't believe in what they can do if they play the game as nice as you are. there are those who will do anything even the dirtiest game so that they'll know that they will beaten up their opponents... I think it is something to do with their situation whether they need the job so badly or not... there are reasons in all we do.. good or bad...