Just because I am unemployed...for crying out loud!

You know what the problem is you have to learn to say NO!! Where are all of these people trying to help you with your situation, no where to be found.....You need to stop trying to help the world, and let the world stop helping you. If you can't say no at least limit the amount of extra things you do for people. One day a week you can help someone and that is the most you should do. Besides taking time away from looking for a JOB, it also takes time away from you earning money that you need on the web. Practice with me NO, NO, NO!!

Been there, done that, and Yes, it is quite annoying. How come people expect you to jump and please them all the time? Are we not supposed to have a life and be able to relax and enjoy without having to be there for everyone else? I know right now my main issue is that with all my Medical problems, and having to go to the Doctor all the time not very many people are understanding and expect you to be able to help them first, and worry about yourself last even if that means going without.

I am a work at home mom. I have my own internet based business so friends and family assume that I don't really work and that I have all day to do what ever I want. This is so annoying. I work just as hard as anyone with out outside the job home and I still have to take care of the kids and keep the house. So I actually work harder then most people who work outside of the home. Also if I don't work, I don't get paid. They don't seem to realize that if I leave the house to do something for or with them that I am not working and it will cause me earn less money that day. It is all quite frustrating people just don't understand. My husband was out of work a couple of years ago and his grandma who lives nearly an hour away kept having him come over there, it was costing us money that we should not have been spending on gas, it also meant he lost nearly a day of looking for a job. He always makes sure to go to his grandma's house once every two weeks as it is to make sure she is OK do anything she needs done and to do her pills but when he was unemployed she treated him like her personal slave which made me really angry, of course I didn't say anything but it was really upsetting. She never offered to to pay for gas or anything, and she is fairly well off financially.

I can not say that I have ever had the misfortune of being a person's personal slave or chaffeur while I've been out of a job. I have, however, before I met my husband, been a person's personal bank and Sugar Mama. I hate the feeling that people don't realize I am earning money online, miniscule as it may be, I am and like you said the time your offline means you don't earn, it's not like a paid vacation at a real job, you don't get those so you have to work harder.

yeah dont you love people like this. im disable and i have people calling me all the time to do this or that, and when they think i should. drop everything i am doing. and i tell them i need help with gas. they hand me 10 bucks and i laugh at them.. had a friend wanted me to drive 40 min this way and then go 2 hrs down the other way and hour back home yeah told her going to cost you like 50 bucks. she got mad

Yes I know the feeling. My hubby and I haven't been able to find jobs offline so we are doing online work. Not long ago a friend called and wanted to know if hubby could drive her to the DMV right that minute and she would give him ten dollars for gas. He told her "No sorry I am eating my supper right now." He didn't call back because her answering machine was rude anyways she said "I will call you back if I feel like it." People think that if you are unemployed that means there is no way for you to make money period and that simply is not true.

oh yeah, really there are a lot of things you ought to do at home too, homw stuffs, cooking and washing clothes, cleaning the house, etc. Well i think you are right. sometimes people just don't get it that you are not busy because you are unemployed. ahh just do not mind them.

I hear whatcha screaming! So since you are available does this mean you can watch my kids so I can get a full time job myself? or a date night? I"m only asking since you have nothing else to do?!? just kidding! I know I get the well why can't you do this or that.... um no gas money to spare, no money to spare, you pay me the gas money & if I have the time we'll see. I don't have child care I can't be running all over the place when I need to pick up the kids from school or wherever. Sorry to hear about your job. It's awful times we live out there & it's hard to replace the income of a job you've been on for 19yrs to compete with others with less experience and who will work for less pay.

Hi. hardworkinggurl. I know what you mean! Many people always assume that just because I am at home all of the time, then that means I don't have anything to do at all. But this is not true at all. Just because I am home, does not mean that I don't have anything to do. I have plenty to do! If they was me for just one day, they would get to see what my day was like!

It sure is annoying that not many people understand what we are going through. I most of the times don't give a sh*t about what they say. If they are least bothered about me and only pass unnecessary comments and inflated suggestions, I pop their bubble right then and there and ask them to take the road home. I appreciate people who'll not just say but also lend a hand in the situation. So its up to you to smack the sh*t back onto such people's faces. Do your best.

Heh- I had same problem with umemployment office. They kept sending me from meeting to meeting to seminar and seminar - they did this because they did not want me to be working illegally. But it was so frustrating. I needed time to invest in hobbies; do job research, study and stuff. :/ Not to mention that the seminars they sent me to where a bit... childish for someone with a degree.

I get the same thing! I don't mind helping people out, and believe me, I do my share, but now that school is back my daughter thinks she can volunteer me for everything and anything. I also get people telling me... why do you have to work, your husband works. LOL Are you kidding me. This is 2010! I have to work, we have three kids and plus, I like to work! And yes, helping people out takes a big strain on the gas tank. I live on a mountain, so not to mention the wear and tear on the brakes. In addition, my parents are elderly, so I do take them to the grocery store, the doctor, etc, which I love to do for them. I just don't have all other kinds of time to volunteer at school and bake cookies, etc. Oh, and yes, looking for a job, is a full-time job in itself. Lately I seem to think that is my new career position "Official job locator" LOL Have a super day!

Cool down.. There might be some good reason why people think of you like that.

Somehow our friends, and sometimes family, tend to do just that. I at one time did not drive and got my license late in life. I thought at first, "this is great it gives me so much freedom, I should have done this years ago!". Then reality set in and I all of a sudden I became everyone's answer who needed a drive somewhere. I am a giving person and do not mind helping but sometimes you have your own agenda to deal with and yes looking for work is like a full time job, in ways it is worse. If you are off doing errands, you are using gas that you may need to get to that interview that could be just a phone call away. When we are out of work we must try to live on a certain budget not allowing for any luxuries for ourselfs, so why would we want to take on the cost of running people around to do errands. Perhaps you should charge them a set fee for taking them on their errands allow for compensation for your time as well as for the gas you would use. Maybe then they would rely on whatever means they used before they thought of you. ;)

If they know your situation, why don't they offer to pay you? If they refuse to pay you, don't help them any more.

take it easy... relax. just think that there are truly people who are just as insensitive. and i understand if you are annoyed. it is normal.

That's the deteriorating economy and repression that;s causing job loss still in today's society.The banks and government can say that things are getting better but really the financial system we live on today will collapse within 5 years.This will make alot of people angry and their may even be a revolt over a new proposed world currency.Try to get another job quickly and try your best as people right now are fighting to get a job even a a fast food joint.Once a company goes under and lays off workers that creates a flood of unemployed skilled workers that have no choose but to work low end service jobs until a better job comes up.The bills still have to be paid somehow and unemployment sometimes will run out before another decent job opportunity rolls around.

Yup, all the time. "As long as you're home". WHAT!?

I have to say that I was terribly annoyed by a girl (a friend of mine) who couldn't understand the same basic thing. she phoned me at least five times everyday (!) knowing that I was unemployed, thinking that I would always be available all the time, as if I had nothing to do at all. every time she called me, I was to hear her complaints on the phone whenever she wished (all she would talk were always around gossips, complaints about her boyfriend, her brother, her mother, whatever, as if I were a trash bin). even the midnight hours when I forgot to turn off my cell phone or to switch on the silent mode. :((( sometimes I felt bloody screaming inside my head, "just because I'm unemployed, don't I have the right to sleep early at night?" the most irritating thing was she even asked me what I was doing, by the time I answered her phone call. when I even told her that I was still in the middle of my housework, or busy with some things, oh well, I just wondered if she couldn't understand the language at all, she would still continue with the phone talk. so many times I had to push the reject button when I saw that it was her number that was calling my cell phone.