What makes us run away from our sorrow?

All of us prefer to be happy at all times and pain and sorrow comes in our way. Handling pain and sorrow is another issue altogether, in that while we may not be happy in that situation one need not be desperate either. It also does not mean that one should give up on activities that would distract one from that situation.

Sorrow and misery are unpleasant situations and usually make us upset. Even if we do not end up crying, it affects our functioning. We are not able to function properly. So, we try to avoid or come out of sad moments as quickly as possible. But as you know, that does not always happen. People brood over sad things sometimes and are unable to come out of it without outside help. The technical aspect to your discussion is a little difficult and long winded to be explained here.

Hello Deepak, Hearty congratulations for touching the 10000 marks. I tried to post a comment in your profile but it is not working still. At present I am happy so please don't ask about my sad moments or situation. I am in a hurry now.

Hi deepak, it is very difficult to run away from ones sorrow.I can never do it, I take a long long time to recover and even after that it keeps haunting me.I am able to take smaller ups and downs in my stride, it is the major upheavals in life that I am talking about. One should of course try and come out of it and not let others get effected by it and spoil things for them, but within us it remains like a burning cinder...Have a nice weekend deepak

Hi Deepak! These are feelings that are part of life and they both have the power to take over your life if they are allowed. People that stay with sorrow almost seem to wither. Happiness on the other hand gives us energy and positivity.

its so easy to run away way to easy. thats why we do it. noone wants to feel hurt, why feel hurt when you can ignore it and feel so much better by not addressing it?

Hi Deepak, What makes us want to we wish that our sorrow and misery should end sooner than later (and not later than sooner, as you mentioned)…well, I think we all to lead happy and content lives, none of us wants to go thru the grind of misery and that’s understandable. We are weak in our hearts and don’t / cant harness our inherent strength to tide over bad situations…we always look for the shortest route to happiness. Also, its our utter helplessness in controlling situations which makes us acutely aware of our weaknesses… we fall in our own eyes and in the eyes of our near and dear ones…that is something we all want to avoid, hence I feel we try to get out of a sticky situation as fast as we can. I have been thru quite a few rough patches in my life…they were so intolerable that sometimes I just felt like snapping…however, each such bad patch passed away in its own sweet time…nothing that I could think of or do, solved my problems until and unless it was time for them to go. So you see Deepak, most of us avoid bad times (and it should be so) but what I’ve learnt is that in really tough times, we should just hold on tight, keep faith and keep hope…its amazing when I think that if ever such bad times should come visiting me again (God forbid)…I would at least know how to keep my calm and deal with it LOL

As quickly as the problem arises, I always wanted to as quickly to remove in my life, however solution always done with a process and sometime that process is the one you find difficulty to face. I wonder sometimes what is the role of problems in our daily life, because it only gives me headache and pains. However, we have to deal with it no matter how hard is the process and we have to focus on the solution than to complain about it. What makes me uneasy and uncomfortable is that when i have problems there are few people that can help me along the way. They usually appear when the problems is near to solutionized. Which leads me to suffer so much before I meet solution. And sometimes running away from it happens when we no longer can't solve it and we wish to give the problems to our God so that he will take over.

Yes, of course. For me when feel sad and sorrow, to come out of any bad situation is a must. When I ended up in some bad situation, I ussually think too much about how I can get out of my bad situation, sometimes I made a group of alternatives idea to reselve any of my problems. The most sorrowful situation for me is when I don't have any money or funds, it's killing me especially when I can't borrow some money from others..it's just sad and pathetic because I only have a freelance job.

well it is part of human nature to turn away from sorrow, people get scared of facing hard situations..

Maybe when I am in sorrow and the reason for me to ran away from it is when I am already very tired of the things that are going around and I could not take it any longer. I easily give up you see but I always try my best to do something about it but if I cant contain it anymore, then I give up and run away.

I think the way you can handle a certain situation has something to do with your past experiences and maturity. If you are mature enough to handle every sadness, misery and sorrow you will not going away instead face it with braveness in your heart. Always remember that after the storm comes the sun. Every person in this planet have experienced it and somehow get over it. Life is a learning process, and we must be patient enough to wait for our turn for our problems to be solved. Have a nice day!

Joy and sorrow go side by side in life, but every cloud has a silver lining. Every person experiences sorrows in life. The best way to come out of it is Faith in God. In fact, the more we suffer, the better it is for our salvation. after experiencing one cross, another heavier cross may come and we should accept it thinking that this God's Will.

all is well.i know that some time we are in a bad mood or good mood or situition.when we see the non hertest system of man,we are in sorrowful..so when we in a sorrowfull,,we had to remember mother.we feel so good

We all experience moments of sorrow in our lives. It is not something we have any control over. i believe that we run from sorrow because we don't know how to deal with the sadness. We feel that if we get away from what is hurting us, the pain will disappear too. Unfortunately, sorrow does not follow that path. We have to face what hurts us before the healing caan begin.

I guess, everybody neither will I allow myself stay for a long serious sorrowful experiences. A prolonged sorrow and misery would end us to deep depression and can put us to a trauma. So better ease it out earlier to get away from serious depression.

from my experience... running from your problems won't solve them. yeah it would soon pass but it'll return with a vengeance. sorrow/miseries are a part of life, rather than let it get you down, try to make something out of it. it'll make you stronger, moral-wise... learn from it and move on. good luck and congrats with th 10k! wooot!

All of these are a part of life. If you are always happy and no sorrows coming in your life, you won't feel the meaning of merce. Sorrow and happiness are a part of life and no one can run away from it. When i am in way to sorrow, i just close my eyes and pray, prays help me under go any kind of difficult situations. I won't just keep quite when i am sad, instead i do lots of different kind to forget from this sorrows. So i usually don't allow myself feel uncomfortable with this situations.

When people keep mocking us while were really sad or angry. Sometimes the best medicine when you're sorrowful or uncomfortable is loneliness, silence and quiet area. Well, games apply for me though

Joys can make us feel happy while sorrows will make us feel confused and have no interests in anything. For example, if we are accepted to finish a work as soon as possible. And then, we meet some unexpected troubles, which lead to the annoying sorrows. Then, we may lost activation to pay attention to our work at hand, which is a bad situation because to finish the work as soonas possible is the necessity. So, we need to run away from sorrows as quickly as we can.