People Don't Love Forever. Agree?

Philippines
August 18, 2010 3:46am CST
In one of my class in college, I remember our professor discussing that "people don't love forever". Her explanation? There's no such thing as an "undying love". One may ask then how would you explain a 30-year marriage or even more? The answer? People that still stick together until old age don't really feel anymore the "love" that they used to have when they were young, then what is it? It's only the habit that they can't live without. When you miss a person, it's not "l-o-v-e" but it's the habit that makes you feel the absence of the person. Why is it hard to "move on" after a break-up? It's still the habits or more simply the memories that haunts you or the things that you used to do with that person. Sounds true? What do you think?
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21 responses
• India
18 Aug 10
I completely agree with you and hence my advise to anyone who is getting married is always look for someone who you can talk too and hold a good conversation, because youth and passion will pass but you still need to live your life with your companion and if you cannot have a decent discussion then what is the use of having a 30 year old marriage or relationship. Being comfortable in a relationship is more important than love any day.
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@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
18 Aug 10
@ markamemory I have the same view as you. I always told junior colleagues not to go with look for finding a husband or wife to be. I told them that look will go (either fading or partner find it boring) after around ten years. Then there is s_x, but it will go too after around 25 years, then what would we have if we just go with look and s_x? Nothing. If we have a good conversation with our partner, I believe that will last. Yes to live together is to be comfortable with each other.
@tkonlinevn (6340)
• Vietnam
30 Aug 10
I don't know. But I always try to keep my love is sweeter everyday. And my partner is too.
@sinaj292 (602)
• India
19 Aug 10
i think at some extent it may true.....
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
I disagree, if you love the person so much it is not impossible for them to stick until they get old. But if you fall out of love of your wife or husband you don't have to stick with her/him because you are afraid to get old by yourself.
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
for me? ? ? PEOPLE ARE ALWAYS INLOVE -we are living in this world to be love and love...
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
I quite agree with what your professor said. Maybe it had been a habit missing someone that you've been with for a long time. But I also think that you can't stand being with someone without having any feelings or love for that person. Knowing that in every relationship,we can't avoid having some arguments or issues along the way. If you don't really have the feelings for that person,you'll think of giving up. But then,a lot of old couples now with stand those issues in their relationships,and it shows that they want to make the relationship work out because they love their partners. One point of what will help the relationship last is that you enjoy talking with your partner. Because you'll never get bored in having someone that you enjoy talking to. Well,this is my opinion.:)
• United States
18 Aug 10
I disagree with your professor. It depends on the love and the people. There are different kinds of love. I will always love my mom no matter what. As for couples, I do believe that there are couples who love forever. Love may change, but that doesn't mean it isn't love. Love of the marriage couple goes through stages. Lust may not be there forever, but love, yes. One must treat his/her partner with great respect and kindness. Of course, there will be couples who will never love forever. There are couples who have never loved at all.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
As i know we designed to love and to be love. Habit is the way we do always and love is a feelings. How can we do one thing if there is the absence of love. Even in singing we make it a habit yes we can sing but the feelings and the art and true message of what we sing comes from within us the inner feelings, which we can share it more lovey if we do it with love. Same as to our partner. How can we sleep and serve him if there is no love at least a little love can do. And the habit follows. For me love is always present in every aspects of my life.. Thanks and this is my opinion as I feel. Have a nice day.
@Absinto (2385)
• Portugal
18 Aug 10
i think love can last forever, but what might not last is the actual relationship. You can feel love for anything for years and years but that doesnt necessarily mean that you will be with them forever.
@tomitomi (5429)
• Singapore
18 Aug 10
Some things may end but some things do not. The body may die. But the love it has lives forever.
@lfloresca (116)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
It's a very good explanation, I felt it, all the words that you've said. It is really hard to move on after break-up, your right it is not because you only loved that person but the fact is that you will miss that person but I think their are persons when they loved someone it will last forever!
@gurka84 (66)
• Argentina
18 Aug 10
I dont agree i think love is forever, but its nos only the same.. it changes but if you are with the right person you will love forever
@zalmazan (40)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
People DO love forever. There are different kinds of love; husband to wife, mother to child, and not to mention you to your pet dog. I always believe that once you love, you will always love. If it would end, then you'd realize that it's not love afterall.
@jailo12 (332)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
i really agree, your right about saying dont love forever. nothing really last forever in the first place so love is not an exemption. maybe there are people that stick together even if their aging is that they believe in the sanctity of being one in the the name of the lord. i cant really tell what they are feeling but i can surely tell it's not the love they are saying when their young. ^^
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
it is hard to agree on two things that is abstractly mentioned, love and forever. both words are heavy-loaded with meanings. anyhow, i would like to believe that there is love that can last a lifetime. in this case, i am dismissing the word "forever." everytime i travel, i see old couples holding hands, chatting, at times kissing, and simply enjoying each other's company. there is no doubt in my mind that they are still in love. there is no harm to believe in something ideal. best wishes on love and relationships.
@dismart (24)
• United States
18 Aug 10
Wow when I read stuff like this it really makes me sad to think that people have lost their way to this extent. Look I would have to know more about this professor and get some ensite into the setting that this discussion took place. Was this a part of the subject matter that the entire class was involved in or just her personal opinion? Because I really can't see how the human race could have survived all of these many years without the awesome power of love so next time you are in her class just ask her if she has ever reallllllyyy really been in love I'll bet her answer will be NO. She sounds like a person who has maybe allowed life to pass her by or she might be with someone she really dosen't love and she is now a bitter person so whatever you do DON'T believe this and find love yourself if it's right and you'll know it then embrace it with all of your heart and get the greatest degree of pure joy you will ever have. Love really rocks and besides real love will never die ok.
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
18 Aug 10
Hi paopaolar, Now a day, I don't think love last forever. All the younger people are falling in love overnight and the next week they are through with each other. But, if anyone had tried to tell them that they were moving too fast, they would have probably said that this was truly love, meant to last forever. I do, on the other hand believe that some older couples still love each other. As we get older the fire of passion in a relationship isn't as hot. So, maybe we should be talking about high degrees of passion not lasting forever, I would agree to that, but I think love can last in a relationship no matter how old the couple is or how long they have been together. Love is more that jumping bones. Being familiar with your partner don't mean that you have stopped loving him or her and it just habit to be together, what a sad thought.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
18 Aug 10
Love is a strong emotion. it needs to be nurtured to develop and grow. You only get from love what you put into it. Love can last as long as you want it to. You just have to decide how important a relationship is to you. Forever in love could be tommorow or it could be years away. The choice is yours.
• India
18 Aug 10
Hello welcome to mylot No i don't agree, i am married to my wife for past 44 years and we are happy love each other deeply. Your professor probably failed in love and generalizing the statement, "people don't love foreve', there is no such thing as 'undying love'; well love should not be confused with lust or physical attraction, it is an emotional concept.. Thanks for sharing. Welcome always. Cheers. Professor
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
I agree. people don't love forever because nothing is forever in this world. If forever existed would there be change? So yeah people don't love forever. And I do agree that it's the habit that makes you feel the absence of the person. Only something Divine is forever, like God.