People who argue in a public place.

@megamatt (14292)
United States
August 19, 2010 7:11am CST
It has to be one of the most uncomfortable things in the world when people start arguing in a public place. No matter how hard you try not to listen and get on with your day, it is distracting. You would think that these people would try and hash out their differences in a more quiet manner. Then there are times where as much as it pains me to admit it, I feel rather compelled to listen. It is like that car crash you cannot look away from.
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17 responses
@picjim (3002)
• India
19 Aug 10
It is very embarrassing to be caught in this public spat.Some are so loud that even when you try to avoid them they continue with their rant.One in fact commented when i was looking down that it serves no purpose.The person who he was shouting against realised his folly and was trying to make amends but the person who was shouting continued with his ways.I think some people aren't aware of public etiquette.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
19 Aug 10
I would have to agree with that. Especially some of the things that can be said...should not really be said with children around or in polite company for that manner. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@mac_fish (723)
• China
19 Aug 10
I seldom run into that sort of situation,I can hardly remember when it happened last time.However,I think it's ok if it just happen once in a while,cause we are all emotional creature,no one could guarantee he/her wont lose hin/temper in a wrong place and at a wrong time,even keep the quarrel for a pretty long time regardless of environment surrounded them.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
19 Aug 10
Yes, there are times where some people just lose it. Still, being an innocent bystander, it does not make it any easier. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
21 Sep 10
Yes I have also come across many such incidents where people argue their personal affairs in public places.It is very uncivil.They have no business to argue their personal matters in public places where no one except those involved in argument are interested. As it is their personal matter no one cares to listen or cares as to what they are arguing about.But certainly it causes annoyance to others.They should be aware of it.But many do not care. I feel the Government should hang "Silence Please " board in all public places or put placards in all public places stating that "personal discussions are prohibited here and those who violate shall be fined ".That seems to be the only solution as I think...
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
21 Sep 10
That does seem to be about the only situation that might work. At least somewhat, but of course, knowing some people, if they aren't going to shy away from disturbing the peace, then they are going to ignore signs. Still it would cut down on it severely. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
• India
21 Sep 10
Thank you very much.You are correct that there are many violaters of law in all walks of life.At least the law abiders will who were hitherto arguing in public places would avoid.Threat of fine may prevent some to avoid public discussions.In course of time people will start learning to be more and more disciplined.As the boards "Smoking strictly Prohibited here" have worked wonders as we all know.Similarly boards as suggested by me may work in due course of time.But the Govt should be prepared to do that....
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
20 Aug 10
Dear friend, This reminded me of argument with a husband and wife, as the wife slapped him on the face in the public. May be the public just left seeing the wife slapping on the face of her husband, we could just see the reason that the husband hesitated to catch their small baby. The argument was loud but it was really a shameful act. What would be the future of that child would be really unhealthy.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
22 Aug 10
That just shows you how dangerous some arguments could be. To see that a small child would be trapped in the middle of it...horrifying to say the least. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@Absinto (2385)
• Portugal
20 Aug 10
I am always arguing in public places. Of course it will be embarrising if the arguement is something private but if it is just something stuiped and meaningless then i dont really give a damb.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
22 Aug 10
Yes, it really depends on the argument of how embarassing it is. If there are facts that are best kept private, then it could be bad. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@jamed28 (1903)
• Philippines
20 Aug 10
It is normal to argue with someone. It is human nature. But to do it in public, is a doing of uncivilized people.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
22 Aug 10
Yes, arguing is human nature. Doing it out in public and making a spectacle out of it is quite frankly disgraceful. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@juro83 (3)
• Slovak Republic
20 Aug 10
It is pretty ugly as people recently behave on the street.Shouting,arguing and swear while they could solve their problems at home that bothered others.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
22 Aug 10
Indeed, it is quite horrible how the lives of others are disrupted by this. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@meemingNEW (2226)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
Watching people argue in public places is very much comparable to how frequent people watch a car crash/accident. You are definitely right about that. Aside from how distracting it is, some of it are kinda disturbing too. Some would even have a fist fight which can put to danger passing civilians. Anyway, those people should get a hold of themselves. I mean, it is really embarrassing to get people's attention because you argued with someone particularly in a public place. If I were in a heated situation where arguing or maybe shouting can possibly happen, then I guess I would try to avoid the embarrassment of creating a scene in public and try to resolve whatever problems as much as I can without having the need to argue loudly that other people may notice. Thanks for sharing by the way. :)
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
19 Aug 10
Yes, it is important to take a step back and think before you engage your mouth. You would not believe how many situations would be avoided if people thought before they tried to make a scene. Emotions get the better of us, granted, but still, there's really no need to make it a spectacle. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
• United States
19 Aug 10
I regretfully remember acting out in public in past times, however, as I got older I learned more lessons and acted out less and less. But every so often if someone upsets me I still have the tendency to misbehave in public. Like I got very annoyed with this bus driver for a very good reason and I couldn't help myself when I gave him a good piece of my mind a couple weeks ago. And believe me, my son and I, are both paying for my angry outburst at him as we have to put up with him unforgiving bad attitude against us when we get on the bus almost every evening. I learned a big lesson.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
22 Aug 10
Lessons are learned and thats all that matters. We do all make mistakes. The fact that we learn from those mistakes is good. If we did not learn from those mistakes, then there might be a bit of a problem. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the response well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
This is very embarrassing ,thu sometimes we don't like to listen about things people argue,we cannot avoid it or we cannot stop ourselves to hear over it. And i just couldn't imagine people arguing in public esp when it is about personal matters,why can't they just go to other place where no one can ever hear them (so annoying)
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
22 Aug 10
Yes, it is extremely annoying. Yet, I think as humans, we just cannot look away. We have some part in our nature that is drawn towards conflict of all types. It is just simple human nature. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@juggerogre (1653)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
Same here. I cannot stop listening to their arguments especially if its rather interesting. But Yes I think they should not do it in a public place. They might say something that supposed to be known only by them or it could embarrass one of them (as if arguing in public place is not embarrassing enough ). As for me I haven't experience arguing with someone in the public place. Its always best to settle it in a private place.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
22 Aug 10
Yes, indeed, its best to settle these things away from prying eyes. It just makes it much worse when its done in a public place. Especially when tempers fly, you just never know what might come out of the mouths of one person or another. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@aurorastorm (1131)
• United States
19 Aug 10
It is very hard to not look or try to listen when people decide to argue in public. If they wanted privacy from prying eyes, they should take the argument behind closed doors. If they choose not to then we have every right to hear what is happening. As long as you are not going out of your way to catch the argument than you are right it is like looking at a car wreck, you don't want to look but what choice do you have?
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
22 Aug 10
Yes, even if I do walk away, my ears tend to be intently listening to the argument. I don't mean to, its just something that really cannot be helped. Simple human instict that we would be drawn to conflict. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
• United States
19 Aug 10
This father and son got into an argument in front of me at the library where I volunteer. It was really awkward. But that's the only time it's actually happened in front of me before. I just think it's too embarrassing to argue in public where other people will stare at you.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
22 Aug 10
Yes, it is awful when parents and their children argue in any form, but especially out in public. Especially some of the things that I heard said. Once their heard, you can't unhear them after all. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@BigTips (304)
• China
20 Aug 10
Yeah, it may be the most uncomfortable things in the world if we meet some people who are arguing in a public place. In most cases, people will lose interest in everything because of such a bad situation. I really can't understand these people who lose their temper in public. Have you considered the feeling of other people around them? Why they can't treat others kindly? Perhaps they just want to attract others' attention by this annoying action.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
22 Aug 10
Yes, I think in many times, it is a mechanism to get attention. Well I think it does get attention alright. The wrong kind of attention that is. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@reeree63 (27)
• United States
20 Aug 10
Well, I am not trying to listen especially if I am eating my hard-earned meal. I am concerned for them yes but I can be concern while enjoying my meal. As long as they don't pull out anything and get violent or tumble over in my meal, I am fine with them. I shall keep one and one-half eye on my meal and the other half eye on them. When I finish and they are still arguing, I shall leave. By the way, the same couple who argued will probably be at home kissing and making up a few hours later while I am at home complaining to my partner about the seafood dinner I could not fully enjoy due to their disturbance if I allowed them to distract me. I love everybody but I love my hard-earned meal more.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
22 Aug 10
Indeed, if I'm eating, I don't like to be bothered. So it can be something that is a bit annoying to say the least. Unfortunately, some people just have no consideration. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@lulu1220 (1006)
• United States
19 Aug 10
I was in a retail store once and there were two employees arguing. As the man walked away, she called him names and used bad language. It was right in front of us too! Then she looks at us, smiles and is as nice as can be. What is up with that? That is so unprofessional.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
19 Aug 10
It does seem worse if it is employees, who are supposed to keep a cool head. I mean, two random people who don't work there, that's one thing. Uncomfortable, but not as bad. Still employees need to maintain calmness and be professional. If they can't get along with their co-workers, it makes you wonder about them. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
19 Aug 10
When people are out in public places, they really should pay more attention to their behavior. Arguing in a public place is not necessary. You are just calling unwanted attention in your dirction. Save your arguments for more private places. not everyone wants to be subjected to the problems you have with another person. People need to show consideration when they are out in public places.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
19 Aug 10
Exactly, we don't need to deal with your drama. Solve it on your own time. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@elvieb02 (695)
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
i agree with you but we cannot do something about it as when we tell them off, then we'll be told of minding our own business. it's better to leave the place or ignore these people.