Life is about making wrongs - any wrong thing you did today?

@mimpi1911 (25475)
India
August 24, 2010 6:45am CST
Life is about making the wrong decisions at the right place. Life is about saying the wrong words at the right place. The life's wrongs may or may not make it right at the end of the day but they do teach us one important life lesson. I learned one such life lesson today - never do and then regret, think before doing. Am feeling extremely bad and upset since the morning when I declined to eat a special sweet dish. Do not know how to make it up. I do not, particularly, have sweet teeth and everyone in the family knows about it. Obviously, I got angry when my mom offered me the sweet dish along with the breakfast. I was running late and to top that an weird request. Later, I found out that it was brought by my father from some distant place that is famous for that sweet. Since then, I am feeling very bad. I could have given one wee bite - what would have happened. Nothing matters much than the happiness of the family and I have hurt my parents today. Really feeling sorry but now I cannot undo things, can I! I am just waiting to get back home and ask for my share and relish it! I just hope I get it still...
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18 responses
@riyasam (16571)
• India
24 Aug 10
CHEER UP MOU!!!!parents would never get angry at their kids(speaking from experience)they may be hurt but will try to figure out why you reacted so in the first place.IF NOBODY IN THE WORLD UNDERSTANDA YOU,PARENTS SURE WILL.....
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@kalav56 (11497)
• India
24 Aug 10
Yes riyasam!
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
25 Aug 10
Thanks Mable and Kala. Nobody cares more than parents do. They are sweethearts and thanks you all for comforting me. BTW, I did get my share and relished it like anything!
• Philippines
27 Aug 10
It's okay my dear...We make all some ups and downs sometimes.I know I do some wrongs too often...Too many to mention...LOL But the good thing about it is that we do recognized that we have done mistakes or faults. And before or at the end of the day, we will mend it and we will move on to be better persons...Did you got to taste the sweets when you went back? (^^,)
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
28 Aug 10
Thanks dear for the comforting words as always. Yes I tasted the sweet fish and I liked it like never before. How are you doing?
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• Philippines
29 Aug 10
I'm not so okay..LOL...well just a bit tired...juggling chores from home, schol, life.. but all is good...hard work brings good results and a brighter future..that's all I a aiming for.. And you my dear always so gorgeous Mimpi How are you? (^^,)
• Malaysia
24 Aug 10
Everyday I learn many new things from the "wrong" side of my life attitude. But, I realized that it was far yet to be classified as wrongful and still in the life zone of weaknesses. Many times it justly like a point of broken bone, where it won't break again at the same point in future or near future. That is the beauty of my life learning curve in its learning process, at the same time which I've to accept the life philosophy for "No Pain No Gain" when there is no other alternative.
• Malaysia
24 Aug 10
hahaha! yeah! my lovely Rozz, thanks for your nice chime-in. Today, I got chance to make entry. But, what a missed opportunity for you to visit Sundaes Park at my home town OC, MD. 'coz now you're living in Elizaberth, NY. Don't you missed a lot MD as a Marylander? hahaha!
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
25 Aug 10
You guys -not missing me!!!???? How can you not!!!!
@balasri (26549)
• India
30 Dec 10
That's a beautiful discussion which makes me identify with the situation very much. It is a strange coincidence that I too used to react a little curtly to the gentle persuasion of my wife at the dining table. Even this morning she requested to take a piece of fish along with the gravy for my slice of bread. I just said no very firmly. She insisted that the fish may prevent the hunger pang I get because of my acidity. I felt so guilty and allowed her to serve that piece of fish. (And keep this secret of stealthily helping myself with another piece too) We all have this tendency of taking things for granted with our loved ones. The more they love the more we tend to be smart. Well God forbid we always conveniently forget a situation where we may be left alone without the love and concern of these sweet people. Looking at this at another angle is that we are trying to make full of use of the pampering and relish it too I think.
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
18 Jan 11
Hi Bala! I wish you had many more yummily cooked fish pieces since that day. LOL Sometimes I do stuffs that make me feel bad after wards. Even though I am constantly working on it, I am always short of being the best. But that's how life is, I guess!
@drannhh (15235)
• United States
29 Aug 10
I hope you get it still too and hope also that you will start a discussion about if you did and how good it was. I have made that kind of mistake before too. I have one friend is so very sensitive that it is impossible for me to slow down enough to think of ways not to offend him. I try, but it just is not in my nature. He will have to get used to it or find another friend. I try to make up for it with thoughtful little things, but I am fast-paced and often do not look before leaping.
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
18 Jan 11
I know what you mean. I have bee there many times and try to NOT be there but somehow, I find myself being there.
@JenInTN (27547)
• United States
26 Aug 10
Hi mimpi! I think that we all get a little snappy sometimes with the people that are closest to us. Your mom and dad love you...just as you do them. You would forgive them if they were a little grumpy one morning. I hope you get to try that exotic sweet dish when you get home too. Take care.
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
28 Aug 10
Thanks Jenin, love you. Yes parents are so forgiving and yes I did get to eat my share of the sweet dish.
@Hatley (164264)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Aug 10
hi mimipi yes I just realized that myself. I somehow disconnected the power cable to my monitor and thought it was a different problem as there is a wire to my monitor that is partly broken and makes lines on my monitor that are distracting. well I phoned my son as he is my computer go to guy and he was giving me all these different directions and I was scared silly I would not know how to do it and in the back of my mind I was going to go oh Robbie that wire is broken but when I followed his directions I found that the only thing wrong was the power cable to the monitor was pulled loose, and by shining a flashlight onto the hole where the plug went in I was able to plug it back in and I did this 'all myself. so after I had said I could not find this and that I did it and he was laughing you cannot use a monitor without its power supply. so I did finally do right by my son.I got taught a very important lesson, I can do more in the line of computer and monitor repair than I thought I could. I was going on in my mind about not being able to mylot. so yes think before doing. so we both learned lessons today. thanks Mimipi.
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
26 Aug 10
Great! Doesn't computer work without the plugged pushed in? Let me think! ..... We are so silly creatures and that's what makes us special.
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
25 Aug 10
Hi mimpi~ It's so nice to see you! I wouldn't worry about this so much. When you get home all you have to do is explain that you were in a hurry this morning and that you didn't mean to hurt anyone's feelings. You just were in a rush and didn't feel like having whatever it was and could you please have it now. I'm sure a polite and cheerful aplogy will work just fine! Your family still loves you! It was just a tiny thing that you did and it can surely be fixed~
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
26 Aug 10
Hi dearie, you make things so easier for me, everytime, always. I did that and it worked fine. Family and friends understand more than we do ourselves and i am so blessed to have you all around. Love and hugs. How are you doing dear?
• Philippines
25 Aug 10
Well, i have filed an administrative case against an abusive employment agency. This may be both wrong and right action and i shouldn't have trusted them.
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
25 Aug 10
I think, that's a responsible move from your part. You being absolutely sensible there. They should be reported no matter what before they do more harm to people.
25 Aug 10
Sometimes life takes you where you need to go and you accidentally do something that you didn't intend. Then bam you are there and you realize things turned out for the best!
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
25 Aug 10
Righto!!
@yeyelee (370)
• China
25 Aug 10
People is so lazy to change,at least me is like this.Sometimes i know it's wrong,but i still do it.At home i seldom help my mom do homework,even at some time i think they're so annoying,what a shame.Maybe i need a big thing that let me figured out.Hope you can handle your problem.Haha,hope you can understand my poor english.
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
25 Aug 10
You are perfectly understandable. Thanks for dropping in and sharing your views, I really appreciate. and I can relate to you, Sometimes we find it hard, we kind f take things for granted.
@dpk262006 (56767)
• Delhi, India
25 Aug 10
Hi Mimpi! Welcome back to mylot after such a long long time. We all have been missing you. We should actually say 'Thanks' to your father who brought that special 'sweet' and which triggered this discussion from you. You are very right, we keep doing such mistakes day in and day out and we realize it only later that we did something wrong. However, there is no point in repenting later, when the things have already gone beyond us. In this situation what best you could have done was (to my mind) you would have asked your Mother to pack those sweets for you and you would have enjoyed those sweets either on your way to office or in the office. Hope you would have mended for your mistake, when you would have reached home in the evening. Have a great day! Deepak PS - Was not it an off day for you yesterday, as it was an important festival day, yesterday?
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
25 Aug 10
Did you have holiday? I didn't but then we must except a holiday from hospital roster. Some offices and schools did have holidays due to Raksha Bandhan. I had taken an early leave for my brothers had come. What about you? Did you get yourself rakhied? BTW, I enjoyed the sweet later in the evening but my thoughtless action is still fresh on my mind. I am really sorry. Hope you understand. And thanks for missing me. That's the right thing to do.
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
25 Aug 10
I have been brought up by perfectionist parents who do not tolerate any errors which make the family dynamics very dysfunctional because making errors is what life is all about. If we don’t err we will ever learn. The trick is to forgive yourself, endeavour not to repeat the mistake and move forward. Why not give your mother a call and tell her you were on your way to work and in a hurry; you can tell her that you will try some of her special dish when you get home.
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
25 Aug 10
Hey that's certainly a great idea. I will try that out, may be sometime today. Thanks Paula for the thoughtful words. I try not to repeat the mistakes and learn from it. Forgiving doesn't come easily though.
25 Aug 10
today? maybe when my mom called for help and i ignore her for some minutes..it shouldn't be that way because us a daughter i have to respond whenever she needs me..but sometimes, i got this bad attitude of being lazy, i hope you understand what i mean..but nevertheless, everyday is a new day for us to make things right! God bless!
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
25 Aug 10
I get you completely because I have been there many times. I feel lazy and lost and do not feel like responding immediately.
@quita88 (3716)
• United States
24 Aug 10
No Biggie. REally it isn't. A family is always a family ...just say you are sorry and if you get the sweet be thankful. Lighten up on yourself. You were only being you. hugs, quita
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
25 Aug 10
Thanks Quita. Sometimes we are just so thoughtless that we feel upset for long time! Thanks again for the comforter. Hugs back to you.
@kalav56 (11497)
• India
24 Aug 10
Don't worry mimpi! Your parents are not going to stay or even get angry with you.But,as soon as you go home tell your mother you are sorry and give her a kiss on the cheek.THen you have a bit of the sweet .All the hurt will vanish. As you had written , one tiny bite would have gone a long way. But because it is parents , they won't keep such things in mind.But your regret is justified.One would feel bad. How are you?
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
25 Aug 10
You are such a sweet heart. Mothers do not mind and we children are so careless to do stuffs like what I did yesterday. Thanks again.
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
24 Aug 10
I guess we all go through such situations wherein we react impulsively and then regret. Today has been one such day wherein i've reacted quite adversely at work and especially at my colleagues, based on unwanted pressures. But the realisation comes about fast and i called them over and had a one on one talk and tried to bring about a smile on thier faces. It helped, atleast to some extent i would say. And you know what Mimpi, Cheer up, go home ask for the sweet, and have a double share. I'm sure your mom will have a pleasant and surprised look on her face. Never mind the sweet tooth and do give us your feedback on the sweet !
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
25 Aug 10
Guess what! I ate my share and more. My father had bought a big pack. No way they could have devoured the whole of it. My sister has real sweet tooth and she can give you competition but she left some, atleast, for others this time. Coming to your day, I think, , that's a sweet gesture from your part. I know how much bogged you have been with the untoward pressure and having to pacify them is really a thing. Great job! Well done!
• India
24 Aug 10
So true! life is aboout making mistakes and learning a lesson from the bad experience. I beleive in micro managing all my work in office, by which i mean, when i delegate some work, i keep checkin if its done and is any help required or are there any problems in getting the work done. Today, i delegated some work ot my collegue and thought he will finish it and get back to me and in the menawhile i got busy with other things, and when the time came to handover the details, i learned that the colleague had to leave early due to some emergency at home and my assignment was not over. If i had been a little more attentive, i could have found out about this delay and done it myself.
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
25 Aug 10
That happens. We tend to forget only to realise it when it's too late. I just hope you get your work done fast and well. Good luck!