would you choose someone you love or the one who loves you?

I will choose the guy who loves me - easier said than done. I've been in that kind of situation before and I chose the one I love. It's not really like that guy didn't love me. I guess I was just too in love with him and he didn't meet my expectation in all aspects that probably made me think that he didn't really love me. And there was this one guy who loves me more than the guy I chose but I didn't have feelings for him. It was a painful journey and I learned my lesson. That's why if same thing will happen, I will now choose the guy who loves me. If that guy sincerely loves you, of course he'll be nice to you and he'll take care of you. In time, I will surely learn to love that kind of guy. As a lady, its easier to develop your feelings to someone who loves you than chase someone and make him love you.

i would choose the person who loves me but whom i don't love since feelings can be developed if the guy is loving and patient towards me. i wouldn't waste my time to someone who doesn't love me in return.

I think I would go for the person who loved me. Infact, I am in a relationship like that at the moment. My boyfriend loves me to bits but, after 2 years, I see him as more than a friend. I am very reluctant to break up with him because we have a flat together and a lot of shared possessions- plus he'd have nowhere to go if I finished it. However, I am not unhappy, as I am still very close to him. I just don't feel as though we really have that "lovers" side to our relationship anymore, which is a bit sad, but we will have to live with it, for now.

that's a very hard question. maybe because i am not in that situation yet.

hi,this is slightly a tough question to get appropriate answer.We get satisfaction when we get the person whom we love but it can be that the person whom we love doesnt have the same love for us.So this same thing happens with the person who loves us,may be we cant give the satisfaction or the love he expects from us.However if we see broadly there is no difference between these two.They are same.

I will choose someone who loves me rather someone who I love. Because I will be a fool if I leave someone who loves me and go with someone who I love who doesn't loves me back. Why don't we just take what we have and forget about what we want to have.

I will choose the one I love. Feelings can be developed if I will choose someone who loves me. But what I want is not to develop feelings to the one who loves me but I want the one I love to develop feelings for me. How? That's the challenge. If I'm truly in love with the person, I will do everything for her to love me. I prefer that way instead of her doing things for me to love her back. I think somehow the answers differs if you are a girl or a guy. Since guys are usually the one chasing up girls while it is not totally accepted in the society for the girl to chase after the man she loves.

Hi, deve_annrn. Why pursue a guy that has no love for me that is a committed love? I would choose a guy that loves me and wants to be with me. I would find my happiness in a guy that really loves me not someone that does not have any feelings for me. I don't want to waste my time loving someone that does not love me back.

Hi deve_annrn, Actually, i posted a similar issue here in mylot. Perhaps, like other who have been in the same status as you, are in doubt which is to choose. I got more respondents of the latter. And probably, I would also into someone who loves me more. Being a woman, we are easily attracted to good qualiies of a man. If someone loves you, he would do his best to make you fall for him, do his best to qualify to your standard, to keep you for he wanted to be with you for life. If we stick to someone we love and we know he would not able to love us back as we expect, there would no assurance that a relationship would be stable or last. We never know what's our destiny would be, so might as well, take the risk of choosing someone who is willing to keep you and wants to be with.

I would choose someone who loves me. If that person is nice to me and knows how to take good care of me, then it is not impossible to fall for him, too.

It is one of the toughest feeling that one can have, an unrequited love. Ideally,we will want to be with someone we love because we should be happier around them, however, the happiness that we can feel with those that we love is just temporary because behind it, is sadness of not being reciprocated. My aunt said, it is better to have the one who loves me more because that person will always give his maximum effort everyday to win my heart. That way, a feelings will be develop and will flourish more each day because a person that loves will forever nourish the love that may develop, unlike when I love someone who will not love me back, even if how great the love I may feel for him, time will come that the heart will grew tired of waiting.

Hmmm. Based on my experience,it's quite difficult on which to choose. I've been in a situation wherein a long time friend confessed that he loves me,and will forever love me despite all the things that had happened in my life. Until now,the guy is still single and don't have plans of loving or wanting any other girl than me. But,i don't like the guy. Most of the time I get irritated whenever he's around. I know he can feel it,but still he's there. Then,there was this guy that I may say that I like,though I know he likes me,I can't take the risk of us to be together then we might not work out. I've heard a lot of people saying,that it's much better to choose someone who loves you more,than you love him more. For the first one,you're assure that he'll never leave you and will do everything to please you,while the second one,you'll give the extra effort to please him and win all of him. So my view,weigh things first and don't decide immediately. You'll sure get hurt in both situations,and you cannot avoid that,think which one you can withstand and will make you happy. As for me,I chose nothing. :)

It depends on what stage of life I am in. If I am still in search of a boyfriend material and am not looking at marriage, it is okay to continue pursuing the first guy as I am not rushing for time. At the same time, this can allow me to see if the 2nd boy really has so much love for me that he is willing to wait for me. However, if I am currently looking for a husband, then it is a different story altogether. We girls have to definitely look for the right husband. Marriage is a lifelong thing. Thus, it is important to choose a guy who loves you. Try getting along with the 2nd guy to see if he is your type. If he is, then you can try to get into a relationship with him for a few months and see how things go. Otherwise, if he is not your cup of tea, then I think you should get on with life and forgot the both of them. There are so many trees in a forest, there will bound to be one which is your perfect partner.

It is a very good topic for discussion.Choosing life partner is a problem faced by each adult who is prepared to marry.Ok.We have to choose some one whether it is male or female.Mostly people go by external appearance.True. It is also important but when the couple have to live together for the rest of their lives the correct choice is not choose the one whom you but the who lives you and admires you.The physical appearance gradually fades away but what remains long is the love developed in between them.Love at first sight is a famous saying but it should not for external appearance but for inner qualities.Here also it is difficult to judge.There the concept of arranged marriage is perhaps the best because the decision is taken by many and not by one that too after careful consideration of many aspects touching the marriage.I remember a story. A person wanted to marry an ideal wife and searched and searched for a long time and finally found one but the marriage did not take place because that lady wanted an ideal husband

I would have to say that I would choose the one who loves me. Their is no greater reward or joy than to receive the love of another. I would know this person loves. choosing one i love might end in rejection because i might be chasing someone who could not return my affections. I will go with the one who treasures my heart.

I believe you can easily fall for the one who loves and cares for you. Will only be wasting your time falling for the wrong person who never even cares or feels anything for you.

I don't know. I will follow my feeling. I'll love the man whom my heart want to close. When I don't see the way to come with him, I'll give up and look around. I believe my right lover is probably waiting me to build our own happiness.