What do you do when relatives show up on holidays with food for you to cook?

People showing up for the holidays is great. Especially if I didn't have to invite them. It's a great surprise. And if they gave me food to cook, then awesome. You just saved me from having to go get it. I love to cook.

I have never had relatiaves just show up for holidays before. I usually do holidays with my extended family but people that aren't invited don't just show up. I am not sure what I would do if people just showed up expecting that I cook their food. Part of me would probably feel obligated since they are family.

We are usually the ones traveling for a holiday. I could see my hubby's sister doing this, but she lives thousands of miles away, so it will not happen. If someone showe up at my house at a meal time with food the food had best be already cooked. Otherwise, I am afraid I would have to smile sweetly and say, "Oh, we have sooooooo much food already. I will just put this in the refrigerator or freezer and you can take it when you leave."

I've never had someone show up with food they wanted me to cook unless it was expected. And even then if it was expected we would get the item in advance of the day it was to be served on. Though my in-laws are prone to provide some portion of the meal as I mentioned or sometimes they will bring a dish to pass for the meal wich is fine. Too bad I usually don't like their cooking!

hi sender never had that happen but if I had have, I would want to know about anything being brought and I would stipulate you bring anything cook it first,as I never did more cooking than need be ona party day so I could joint in the festivities too. no sense being stuck in the kitchen while everyone else is having fun. nowdays I am no longer in an apartment sad to say.

That usually happens with my daughters, but they help out in the kitchen and clean up before they go away. Many times they call me and ask me it I´d care to be visited by them (that usually means the grandchildren too). After I say yes, they ask what should they buy. I will then tell them what to bring, usually meat or chicken, and I start some salads and rice. They always bring with them some sodas and icecream or fruit for the chidren, depending on the time of the year. I love to cook so I start giving orders as soon as they arrive about setting the table, peeling tomatoes or potatoes while we talk. I really love it!

Everyone is in a good mood and they have come to celebrate or just have a get together. So might as well enjoy the cooking, make something new and also ask for their help. The cleaning up part is the frustrating one. So I think the couple should agree on one thing that whomsoever relatives come over should clean up or atleast help in cleaning up.

I get really frustrated and it is discouraging also as I am on holidays and relatives are coming up to make me cook for them. And the worst thing is that I cannot even tell them to go it will be bad manners so I will just ask them to help me in the kitchen it will be more fun though!

A few years back I used to have my husbands sister and her family over for Christmas dinner along with my mother and mother in law and one year she showed up way too early and then expected me to get dinner ready because they were going to have to be leaving earlier than normal because they had another family member to get to..I hadn;t even had the time to jump in the shower and had been cleaning all day so I needed it. I was so pissed off because if my family had done that with her family she probably would of honestly shot us right then and there. i told my husband after that that why I love having all of our families over I don't want to have it anymore because I don;t like being rushed around and doing stuff the way another person wants just because they have somewhere else to be..I say if they have some where else to be then just go there that way the rest of us can still enjoy our day. Now I just have the holidays with my mom and bofriend because my husbands family all live out of state now and can't make it back each year..

Hi, If the above situation happened to me, I guess I won't do the cooking,it is better to dine out or get some outside back home eat, At least, it save my time to prepare those dishes and I only need to do the cleaning parts. Of course, I prefer to have an advanced notice before my friends or relatives come to visit me,it is to confirm that I am at home when they come to visit. It does not means that I am not happy with their coming,but at least I get myself prepare for it and can welcome them with some light snacks,etc.