How much will you give up?
By Ayeizsha
@gaiza12 (4884)
Philippines
September 5, 2010 7:40pm CST
When you get into a relationship especially when you get into a married life you should always be willing and open to changes and give the bad habits up. I know you already know each other for years and might have accepted the bad habits and characteristics of your partner but there is always possibility that you have had enough of that kind of attitude or the vices perhaps. You may say that when you love someone you are willing to accept who he/she really is but It's always good to change when you know you love the person and you know it's for the best of your relationship. So are you willing to start changing at an early stage of the relationship when you know that the person you are with now is really the right one? How much are you willing to give up when it comes to love? Are you only willing to give up your vices and bad attitudes when you are already attached to your partner for life?
9 responses
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
6 Sep 10
I am happy to the fact that my boyfriend accepted me for who I am despite of my bad attitude. It will take time for me to change for the better but at least my boyfriend is helping me. He even told me that I am really hard to handle but since he loves me he really want to help me for the improvement. I am also helping him as well especially in terms of smoking habit and even told him that we should not getting married if he smokes. I mean that is not a joke it is because that is bad not only for his health but for the whole family's health.
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
It's really nice when two people help each other for the betterment of their relationship. I can see you'll go a very long way with the way both of you are doing. It's never hard to change when you know someone close to you is helping. Thanks for sharing..i learned something from you 
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@jasminetea (133)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
I gave up a lot of things like spending too much when shopping. Starting a family makes me realized that there are things that needs to be prioritized. Even though my husband allows me to spend my own money I set my own goals how to save a lot for the future of my son. For me spending too much for not so important things can be considered as vices.
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
You're right, its a bit of a bad side spending too much for our wants especially to you since you have a family already. I believe you are very in love with your husband and has full respect to him for giving something up that you really love doing. Good luck to both of you then and thanks for sharing :)
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
6 Sep 10
If the change is a good change, I would definitely use my partner for the advantage to make myself a better person. But if the change is a neutral opinion and just something the guy doesn't like, then no, I wouldn't change. There are things that are too difficult to change also that changing yourself can make you feel more miserable so in that case, I would not change for anyone.
@sweetloveforeve (13107)
• Portugal
6 Sep 10
well i think that if we really love a guy we will change by ourselves^^ when i was with my first bf i became so caring and so sweet and always saying how important he was i changed to better person. but also he hurt me much and i cried and now im more sensitive person than before. is normal that people change ^^ but we must let changes happen alone^^ it all happened without i decide it. we must be who we are thats why that person loves us for who we are^^
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
I would agree with you. Sometimes you just can't see that you have changed because of love. But what i was pertaining to here is how much are you willing to give up for love? Giving up the bad vices liking smoking and drinking and the bad attitudes like gossip maker perhaps or the attitude of being too loud sometimes.. Thanks for sharing :)
@deve_annrn (1856)
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
I believe that if the person you love loves you as much.., that person will accept you for who you really are.., and will not ask you to change anything at all for his sake..But if you think you're not at your best for him.., then it's for you to decide which part of you you would like to improve.., But when it comes to marriage.., There can be a lot of changes due to added responsibilities.., Some husband might prefer their wives to quit their career and focus on child rearing.., so if you are a career woman, it will be difficult for you.., and I guess it's one of the hardest part that I have to give up when I get married..=)
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
Same here, im the type of person who is not satisfied if she doesn't have anything to do. I don't want to just stay at home and wait for my husband to arrive. I want to work and keep myself busy. I do think i can stop my career when i get to have kids, that will be a different situation, and giving something up that i most certainly love is really very difficult.
@BOROTOTOY (58)
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6 Sep 10
give up all what your partner wants you to give up.
that way your partner is fulfilled and happy.
but for me, its give and take. some bad things agree to give up.
good thing, just relaxed.
