The same problem to get along well with mother in law
By Betty Deng
@bettydeng5 (1822)
China
September 6, 2010 4:40am CST
Maybe we met the same problem that we can't get along well with our mother in law.It doesn't have doubt that we should master the ways. Now the following steps we should learn and follow, first, don't complain hubby in the front of mother
in law. Because every Mom loved her son, don't want to see daughter in law blamed her son. Second, don't to be intimate face mother in law. Third, regard us as a memember of the family. Forth, don't mind the chatter from mother in law, properly praise her. It is said that the elder like to be a child. If we knew these tips, I think we will get along well with our mother in law. which is the experience
from the family.
6 responses
@durgabala (1360)
• India
7 Sep 10
I think the bride should be dating her future MIL first. 
. since in most of the families the incompatibility of DIL and MIL brings in the separation. In India still we have the ritual of girl seeing. So the girl instead of preferring to talk to the boy can very well talk to the boy's mother. 
I think the MIL being a difficult person or a bad lady all developed through TV shows and movies. When all girls take her MIL as her own mother, there will be no confusions, and also the vice versa.
. since in most of the families the incompatibility of DIL and MIL brings in the separation. In India still we have the ritual of girl seeing. So the girl instead of preferring to talk to the boy can very well talk to the boy's mother.
I think the MIL being a difficult person or a bad lady all developed through TV shows and movies. When all girls take her MIL as her own mother, there will be no confusions, and also the vice versa.
@gharah (49)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
I'm not yet married but soon to be and this early i have this feeling that i won't go along well with my soon-to-be mother-in-law. Especially that my fiance has high regard for his mom and listens most of the time to his mom.(he's not a mama's boy though :)).
I had been embarassed many times by his mother, but here i am loving him more hoping all these negative vibes i have will fade away when we'd finally tied the knot.
@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
6 Sep 10
I think I did it all an still I have problems with mother in law. I think it wasn't me but her who have a problem and have to seek help from professional. Trust me, some mothers need helps because they can't let go of her adult children.
Some mothers need to understand that their children are not kids anymore so they have to let their children to live their own life. How hard is that to be done?
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
It goes with everybody when it comes to dealing with our mother in laws. Each one has a unique characteristic that if we were to compare from one another it will never be exactly the same. There may be some comparisons to it but to each has its own thing. I have gone through a lot of ordeal but I have showed her that I am who I am and she will never get hand around me.
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 10
Hi,
I am so glad that My relationship with my mother in law
is so far so good. We never quarrel before and I always respect her
as my elderly.
Be it what, she is just like my half mother and I should share my love
to her like what I do for my own mother.
There was a time whereby she get angry over my reaction,but after a while,
she was fine. Of course, I have to make the first move to start talk to
her,no matter what I still her daughter in law,that is the fact.
I hope we can have such a good relationship forever.
@alma_vparas (98)
• Singapore
6 Sep 10
I am blessed that I don't have any difficulty dealing with my in laws. As for my thoughts about this matter, since every individuals is unique, I could say that if you want to live a peaceful life with your family you have to know where you are once became a memner of your husband's family. You should not expect that everything will be there in an instant. But as the stranger in the family, I strongly believed that thing will be handled smoothly with the help of your husband. He should make it a point that everything is okay before you join the family so that it will not be that hard to adjust to both parties, once you decided to be couples already.
